Guys, when having sex with your girl how important is seeing her?

I know it’s really nice getting to see your partner but if they’re self conscious of their body would you be okay with turning the lights off? Would you enjoy the moment less?
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  • I wouldn't turn the lights off. I would address and talk about the issue and why she feels unattractive. I would frequently tell her that I honestly find her beautiful and that I want to see her body because I love every part of her and I don't want her to feel she should hide herself from me. I would do everything in my power to help her become more confident about herself and help her overcome her fear of being completely vulnerable around me. I would do anything to get through to her that I will never judge her or hurt her. I want her to understand that she can always depend on me and that she has a lot of worth as a person. I never want my girlfriend to feel self conscious or worthless. It is my job to make her feel completely safe with me and happy. If she feels bad about herself, I would feel like a failure as a boyfriend because I am responsible for taking care of her and making sure she is content. I want to be the person she feels safe being completely vulnerable around in every way.

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  • Very important for me. Not only would the lights off be a turn off, but also her insecurity. We all have our insecurities (even guys), but they'll disappear quickly once you're naked. Especially if you're comfortable with each other (this action also helps get comfortable with each other). And guys are visual. We want to see you!

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  • In the dark, things happen...

    • Things?

    • Well what should i say... when nobody can see what you do, one can do different things than in the light. I had some really interesting experiences when it was completely dark. It can really be fun to turn off all lights, also all cats are black in the dark. But after all, i only talk about one time things here, in a relationship of course i need to be turned on by the looks of my girl, otherwise it might not last very long.

  • Definitely leave the lights on. While you might be self conscious. Just try to remember. If he wants the lights on. He is loving what he's seeing. So, there's no need to worry about how you look.

  • I prefer seeing her, however I can live with her self conscious side of things.

    i would want to try and help her learn to love herself.

    have it dark but also try it with dimmed.

    it’s really a case of working together to help you.

  • Why would he not want to see her body?

  • To me, it's important for me to be able to see the person I'm with. Lights out, it's time to sleep.

    plus, it's harder to see what you're doing in the dark.

  • I like to see everything, but if she has confidence issues I'm happy to. work with her on that. I'd like to think that we could get to the point where she is ok with the lights on eventually.

    • What if you’ve been together for years and she hadn’t had this issue in the past? For health reasons I haven’t been able to keep up a fitness routine and my body has changed a good bit in the last year or two. With this being a long distance relationship I worry he will be shocked by how I look now and will no longer be attracted to me. I used to be fairly in shape when we first started dating but now… I’m self conscious of the body I have now.

  • I would convince her that she looks fine to me. If she has a notion that she would like to improve her fitness then I would support that, and join her in activities if it would help.

    • When we first started dating I was in fairly decent shape but due to injuries now taking a walk is often difficult. Because of this my body has changed and I’m self conscious of how I look now. with this being a long distance relationship I’m scared he’ll come back and not like what he sees.

  • Lights on please... I love looking at her body.

  • Very.. mi want to make sure I'm pleasing her and I want all my senses engaged... that's what satisfies me in the end.

  • I'd be fine with the lights off. Not a big deal.

  • I’m a very visual person.

  • Love it. I always watch it

  • I want to see my girlfriend during sex. It shouldn't matter if she's self conscious, obviously I like what she looks like. I wouldn't be dating, much less having sex. I like seeing her naked so why would I want to decrease the time I get to do that. If she's self conscious, the only time I would really get to see her naked was during sex.

  • Not unless she's on top. I want to see her riding me with my arms pinned. I love to see that ass going reverse cowgirl. Otherwise fuck it.

  • god I hate what's between a womens ears. Why can't we detach their bodies from their rotten brains

  • I like see girls. Girls hott! 🥵

  • I would need to see her take everything off

  • I think that being able to see my lady while having sex is a big turn on obviously she doesn't think seeing me during sex is a turn on because she always wants the light out.

  • yes the pleasure would be Less... I love to be able to judge my performance by her reactions, I want to amke Her fell GOOD... and in order to do that, I need to have my eyes open

  • It’s a must.

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