Guys: why do you announce when you're going to cum?

[Anonymous]

Is it a courtesy announcement so that your partner can choose where she wants it?

[tctravis007]

Great question - be interesting to see the responses lol.

For me, when I am getting a blowjob, I want her (or him) to know it's about to happen as a courtesy but also to get that extra suction going as I start to erupt.

When having intercourse, I guess I announce more as a eureka moment than a courtesy ha... plus my current girlfriend likes to know as she gets into some deep grinding for her pleasure while I am cumming.

Thinking about your question... I'd also be curious what % of guys do NOT announce it ha. Have a feeling it is a low percentage lol.

[Asker]

I see! Good points there. Yeah I'd definitely say from anecdotal evidence from talking to other women that the percentage of men that don't say it is very low! 😂

[tctravis007]

Yes I think it must be low... even if it's a situation where we need to be quiet, I'll whisper it in her ear lol...

[Asker]

That's hot

[tctravis007]

I agree... whispering while having sex is hot - especially hot heavy breathing type whispering in between ear nibbling or neck kissing

[Asker]

Yeah I love it when my partner does it! He'll also put his ear by my mouth so he can hear it all with our movements and then stare into my eyes.

[tctravis007]

That's cool and hot... I know missionary often doesn't get lots of credit - but I love it for this type of stuff - I love other positions too but for really getting awesome eye connection, ear and neck access... missionary and cowgirl rock :)

[Asker]

Yeah I love it when it starts of sensual and intimate and then becomes passionate and urgent! 😊

[Asker]

Doggy style is one of my favourites too personally.

[tctravis007]

Same for me... this morning... wake-up sex sequence was first I went down on her... then we did some missionary grinding... then some missionary slow thrusting... then moved slightly so I could be standing with her on her back at the edge of the bed... then finished in doggy with me on my knees... fast and hard thrusting until I came... then we collapsed with me on her back kissing her neck while regaining breathing then she rolled over and I went down on her again... we were away from each other for a week so had a lot of wake-up sex catching up to do ha... P. S. she came twice :)

[Asker]

Haha awesome!

[tctravis007]

ha - yes it was :) great way to start the day ha.

[tctravis007]

Fun thread here - thanks for the exchange. Happy to chat further if you would like to connect or DM me. Hope you have a great New Years :)

[Asker]

That's what I always say too! Haha. No worries, was good to hear your thoughts. Happy new year to you too! 😊

[tctravis007]

Thanks - and always fun to share :)

[rish170003]

See if you're sucking his dick, he wouldn't want to just cum in your mouth
That's not right
So he's giving you the choice if you want him to cum in your mouth or face or body, or you could say that's enough
If you're having sex then i don't think he's gonna cum in you unless you're gonna have a kid
So he can't stop fucking you just abruptly

[Asker]

That's the whole point of birth control though so presumably that's what they're checking in the case of the latter lol

[rish170003]

Well maybe that abrupt ending to the sex is why he would say that out loud It's much easier for a guy to climax than a girl would so I'm not sure if you would until he has and you wouldn't be done But he would be and it's just am abrupt ending to your experience

[Asker]

I see so it's to help her get off in time with him. That makes sense! Interesting how it's always 'I'm gonna cum' instead of 'are you ready?' 😂

[rish170003]

Ahaha yeah But that's the basic idea I'm guessing Any more questions you got?

[Ninene]

I hereby announce that my body is escalating towards a stronger state of arousal due to extended stimulation to my erogenous zones, therefore I predict that I am about to experience an orgasm.

[Asker]

😂😂😂

[tctravis007]

lol... even if there was a big cue card in view with those words on it there is no way I could say it with an orgasm about to happen lol... funny as heck if someone actually did it though :)

[Asker]

@tctravis007 I think that's why the statement is ALWAYS 'I'm gonna cum' it's almost like the fastest four syllables in the west! 😂

[tctravis007]

lol... very true. Although I think my cadence is "I'mmm (pause) gonnnnaaa (pause) CUMMMMMMM!!!" lol... and I think the pause is either for dramatic effect ha or just me being totally lost in the moment :)

[Asker]

@tctravis007 😂 the noises are another interesting topic!

[tctravis007]

100% agree. Verbal noises including grunting, moaning, sighing, etc. Bodily noises - like when really thrusting hard from behind. Furniture noises - like the bed or headboard moving. Add them all together and it's an amazing erotic symphony :)

[Asker]

@tctravis007 you're not wrong there! Lol

[tctravis007]

lol... not one bit :)

[Anonymous]

I’ve always wondered why they announce it. You’ll be going along and it’s like “I’m gonna cum girl”. Please do :)

[karahiri]

they want to give you a heads up that the sex is finally coming to an end.

[Asker]

Yeah, I think in long term relationships this is the one that particularly applies.

[Toad-1]

Lol @ finally 😛

[masterkamasutra]

must be boring.. its the end.

[markscott]

I don't announce I'm going to cum, unless I'm getting a bj. The I will say something so she can choose what to do. She's being nice to give me a bj, so she deserves to have a choice where the cum goes.

[colorsoft]

Pretty much, yeah.

[passinby]

My girlfriend really likes to feel it inside her and when I tell her I am cumming or getting close, it just gets her more excited and it pushes her over to cum sometimes.

[Asker]

Yeah I totally get that ☺️

[DodgersGM]

It depends. In some cases it's out of courtesy, yeah. Other times it's just a subconscious reaction. And other times we do it because it's hot AF when your partner does that.

[Asker]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[reptocarl]

Because us hearing you going to cum helps us get off so we’re returning the favor

[pickyourcliche]

It's more an opportunity for feedback. Coming together is a great feeling so if I say I'm getting close, she can say she's ready too or she's almost there, slow down, or whatever. It's part of the communication that makes sex mutally enjoyable

[Asker]

Very true! I suspected this too.

[NerdInDenial]

That and the ride is over

[Backdoorwizard]

Usually so she can start resisting or struggling to look to get me out of her, before I blow a load deep in her belly

[winterfox10]

Yeah, so I'll tell her if I want to ask where she wants my cum, but other times I just tell her to make things hotter. It builds the pressure, you know? She knows I'm enjoying her, but she doesn't know when I can help myself anymore, so it usually becomes a game for her to see how far she can push me.

[Asker]

Yeah I get that! Another good point.

[makeit234]

So she knows to gtfo so you don't get her pregnant

[Asker]

Not wise to be going bareback without birth control.

[makeit234]

True, but it is habit for guys at that point. During a one night stand, the girl doesn't always hvae birth control

[Asker]

Yeah I see your point, but in a ONS you're taking massive risks with STIs too! 😬

[makeit234]

You can have a condom and pull out. A lot of people with condoms actually pull out. There is still a 3% chance of pregnancy.

[Asker]

I would have thought in that situation it'd be more enjoyable with protection like a condom so you can relax and just enjoy it more. I think I'd personally feel too anxious in that scenario.

[makeit234]

loll

[bestpersonever899995]

What like a courtesy tap on the head

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I assume it would be rude to just nut wherever. It's basically a courtesy thing so she can say if would prefer it somewhere specific or doesn't want it somewhere specific.

If she's a sub then it can be a dominance thing. It should already be sorted out where she is and isn't okay with it going, so with that understood you can basically declare where it's going and then follow through on it as part of a dominance thing.

[TheUglyMonk]

When ever I'm about to cum I shout "FIRE IN THE HOLE" then BOOM!

[Asker]

😂😂😂

[JudoIppon]

I'd imagine to give the girl one last opportunity to say no.

[VV3ZZY]

Cuz American pie

[Rebecca96]

Lol 😂 this will be interesting haha

[rocker2901]

There are many reasons...

[Asker]

Go on...

[rocker2901]

The first thing is he wants is that he wants you to enjoy the pleasure juice he gives... He enjoys announcement like when you orgasm how you moan the same is with the guy... He when he shouts it gives him pleasure...

[Asker]

Ahh I see. That makes sense!

[rocker2901]

Do you announce before you orgasm

[Asker]

Yeah I do as it gets him off too

[rocker2901]

Can you pm?

[Asker]

If by pm you mean sext, then no.

[rocker2901]

No not that... At all

[flavio222]

In my opinion lady, i announce cuz im horny u got it?
But the partner can choose whatever she wants in that moment.

[Asker]

So for you it's a form of dirty talk...

[flavio222]

Hell yeah! I like talk dirty when i going to cum, i use another dirty talks too

[Asker]

Hahaha good work!

[flavio222]

Thank u for ask, i just love ur question hahaha

[Asker]

Haha it's all good!

[masterkamasutra]

yes, she can enjoy the cumshot as she want.

[QuietRunner]

yes a courtesy announcement