Guys: why do you like her to look up at you while giving you a blow job?

[Anonymous]

[markscott]

I can't really explain it, and I've thought about why, and am not quite sure. But when she has me in her mouth, and she looks up at me, there is some kind of connection that is very sexy, and very connective. It's one of the sexiest things I can think of. Maybe the sexiest.

[summiter]

Looking at her eyes makes the whole experience of a bj that much better and makes for better orgasms for me. It is the girls choice however and I respect that. I always return the favor!!!

[Asker]

I get that it makes it better since it’s enjoyed... but what is so enjoyable about it specifically? Closeness? Power? Etc...

[summiter]

I think the intimacy is increased. For me it has nothing to do with power. Just some fun, great orgasms and good time together.

[Asker]

What does intimacy mean to you? Right mantis feelings?

[summiter]

A closeness or bond

[Asker]

Nice. Towards love or not?

[summiter]

It could be, but then again I have had sex, bjs hjs with a hookup or one nighter so there was no love nor did either of us expect anything more then some fun being naked and screwing around.

[Asker]

I know there was no expectation there, but did it still encourage those feelings regardless? I presume not. I personally don’t do hook ups but each to their own, that’s cool.

[Liskitty]

To speak from a female perspective: giving a blowjob is very emotional and a bonding experience by itself. I like making eye contact because that increases the bonding, you can feel the emotions and the trust between you two.

[Asker]

I agree

[TCredo]

wonderfully stated

[Anonymous]

Aren't you supposed to? I mean if you really like or love someone it would only make sense.

[Asker]

Well yeah I’d have thought so too, but apparently not all guys see it like that.

[Vinfet]

Because she might see a lost part of a ham sandwich if she stares at my belly button.

[rudude]

So she can see the smile on my face and know that what she is doing is turning me on tremendously.

[YellLow]

Tbh i dont really enjoy it either bc they make weird ridiculous faces at times and thats a turn off.

[foxrider77]

Yeah, it’s cute seeing her pretty face while taking in the meat and potatoes.

[Asker]

Cute?

[foxrider77]

adjective attractive in a pretty or endearing way

[Dargil]

I really don't. And my eyes are going to be closed.

[Shiver]

Eye contact is hot.
I especially like it when my girlfriend does it cuz she has quite literally the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen. Big, round, bright blue. I love staring into those eyes regardless.

[jonnycauc9]

Yes. When they can look up at me its hot. Guys too

[TCredo]

oral sex is possibly the most intimate act... making eye contact heightens the erotic intimacy

[TCredo]

thanks for the like and great question :)

[Asker]

Would you say it’s because he has romantic feelings? Is that what you mean, or something else...

[TCredo]

not necessarily romantic - that'd help but lustful feelings - even if just a one nighter or friends with benefits etc... just get lost in the moment type of erotic intimacy

[Asker]

See that’s interesting because I don’t really feel that myself. I have to have romantic feelings otherwise it’s completely pointless.

[TCredo]

that's cool. everyone is different. will say that my deepest most erotic experiences either giving or receiving oral pleasure have def been with someone i care deeply about.

[Asker]

Yeah I can imagine!

[TCredo]

yes and i'm imaging and remembering those moments now while edging ha :)

[Asker]

Haha enjoy!

[TCredo]

thanks and oh i am ha... nearing finish time :)

[Ayer93]

It's much more personal and it kinda says "yes you're the one I'm doing this for and I acknowledge it". It's like they accept you more when they make and maintain eye contact. If someone doesn't look at you during sex, it just feels distant and cold.

[COMMODOREII]

It's more intimate.

[User_Friendly]

Yeah

[Asker]

Can you elaborate?

[User_Friendly]

You dont know? Its the same with getting eaten out. The girl looks a lot sexier when i can see her face and eyes and her lips and tongue all over my thang. I dont just want to see the top of her head.

[User_Friendly]

And yes the "connection" is much better thst way, obviously

[Asker]

Well connection is a big part of it for women but there’s so many guys out there (who are probably too scared to admit connection) who will say it’s just simply sex. So to me it begs the question. If it’s not about connection then what exactly is the point? Validation? Etc

[Asker]

It also raises a second question of what exactly is connection to a guy. Because to me it doesn’t mean anything casual, but some may disagree.

[User_Friendly]

I meant more like sexual connection. You know how instead of talking, two people can just use body language, eye contact and physical touch to connect intimately? That sensual connection makes my heart warm and my soul shine if the other person allows themself to open up and share.

[Asker]

So by sexual connection are you saying it’s purely sexual? You have no feelings of wanting to be with her beyond lust and that one moment in time?

[User_Friendly]

We're playing off of each other during sex and its very magical to us. Afterwards we hang out. If its Friday night, maybe we'll start planning the next day. Or if its still early we'll smoke a little weed and watch tv or go work on a house project.

[abc--123]

Because it's so damn sexy

[Asker]

What makes it sexy exactly?

[abc--123]

Seeing a beautiful girl looking up at you with your cock in her mouth

[Asker]

I know but I’m trying to get at the feeling behind why it’s sexy. I know the mechanical aspects of why. So does it make you feel like a king? Is that where the sexiness comes from? Her trust she’s placing in you? The close intimacy etc?

[abc--123]

Just the visual

[Asker]

I’m not convinced lol

[abc--123]

What do you think it is?

[Asker]

I think if it’s so appealing it must be meeting some sort of primary need, whether that’s validation or connection or whatever...

[zoanero]

Honestly no idea but it is super sexy though.

[rockrewls]

Sure why not :)

[rockrewls]

Sorry my reply wasn't complete eye contact is very sensual during a sexual act, it can show how engaged you are in the moment. I think it's important in general.

[Asker]

Makes sense

[Asker]

But then she also looks engaged with her eyes closed while really getting into it sonis there any difference?

[rockrewls]

Do both mix it up keep him engaged, as he should do for you :)

[Asker]

We do

[Jack_tyler]

It gives a sense of conquering. Imagine a women is sucking your dick you feel like a king