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Guys with ADHD, who are constantly moving around abruptly in your seat or heading off to the next activity, do gentler, graceful girls turn you off?

Guys who are constantly making abrupt movements and switching topics of conversation quickly and fidgeting aggressively in their seats turn me into a nervous wreck and it's difficult to imagine having sex with them unless they start acting more gracefully and spend longer talking about one conversation topic. It makes me wonder if my gracefulness is equally a turn off for these types of men.

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  • All these things that you mention are very situation and person specific, you cannot generalize, what or why or who is attractive and to whom. Mostly the guy you are mentioning must be getting uber turned on by you and he poor fellow, is not able to handle it. The only way he can may be, is to behave in the above mentioned manner. (Girls you'll should understand just how beautiful and sexy you'll come across to us guys, as for me personally, there have been girls who literally made my legs feel weak or even being unable to breath , just by the sight of looking at her. So please, little goddesses, cut us a little slack) But back to the discussion at hand, I think you should first at least try giving him some assurance and space to calm him down. Patience and empathy is your first choice. But if after an honest effort if the guy cannot settle down then it's time to look elsewhere. Never get involved in a relationship where you know the partner has a fault but u think you can change the person or they will sooner or later come around. BIG MISTAKE !!! The only one you can change is yourself. I learnt this the hard way, I was just broken and brought down to my knees by a woman. And yes, women have been responsible as the single most inspiration for whatever I've achieved so far. But the wrong partner can also break you. And the best place to get this right is at the offset, the stage you are currently at. So give the guy a fair shot to see if he can settle down, but if not, RUN, BABY, RUN. You never want to start off with damaged goods.

  • As a guy who lives with ADHD, what you describe isn't ADHD. It's more like a narcissistic personality.

    By changing topics he ensures he remains in control - a narcissistic trait, not an ADHD one.

    Yes, ADHD can appear to be aggressive, but spend time getting to know us and most of us are closer to being sigma males than aggressive alphas. We walk by ourselves a lot because it's a way to find peace inside our own minds.

    We're also very much more picky about the women we date. ADHD or neurodivergent people have very specific needs in a partner, and if/when we meet someone who meets those needs we tend to be highly protective of them. Not jealous, protective.

    There's a lot more narcissists out there than ADHD guys.

    • True!.. ADHD may have problem focusing, but that happens with difficult task!.. Spending quality time, and being graceful wouldn't be problem with ADHD

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  • I am not ADHD whatsoever, but I have a good friend who is, and he is now sinigle and dating. Women who are calm and have a steady presence tend to be much better for him. It's like they provide an anchor in his life.

  • It’s not a turn off it’s actually more of a turn on. Has someone with ADHD my self my brain makes connections with different topics to the one we’re having on conversation about. Having a conversation about transgenderism and I’ll bring up gnostic dualism because it that’s quite nicely into the transgender discussion because it’s a religion. Gnostic dualism is the idea of that the soul is separated from the body so you can have a female soul in a male body. Ultimately the idea of transgenderism comes from this religious concept you would probably think I’m nuts for bringing this up but that’s how an ADHD mind works.

  • I believe I had ADHD in school years like grade school and some into high school I would turn around looking at girls, one time in 5th grade I masturbated and finished myself off in the male's bathroom, but I didn't have semen until age 12 years old in 6th grade.

  • As Kid I showed mild behaviour of ADHD, didn't medicate and i learnt to control myself overtime! ..

    I never had problem, in being graceful or spending quality time with anyone!..

    In fact Graceful girls instantly reduce my ADHD behaviour because of their Gracefulness I can easily keep my focus on them.

  • No they are preferred.

    • I am a man That has ADHD. I prefer a girl like that. Hope she can be patient (everyone is different)

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