Guys with asthma. How does it effect your sex drive, interest, masturbating etc?

[Findingmyway]

If you have to literally rest for 10 minutes or more to breath right after sex how often can you perform any of these weekly/daily? Do you struggle less masturbating? My friends with benefits has asthma. He rests right after to catch his breath. He is ok, non emergency, but has to rest and not move til he does. I can see him struggle a bit sometimes and he has an inhaler if he needs it. I sometimes wonder if he distances himself from me because of it. One time (before I knew his asthma was such a major piece) he said I was going to suck the life out of him. He def enjoys our time together so I assume the sex is worth the resting need after. Does cowgirl make it easier then mission? Are there any things I can do to reduce his exertion to make it easier for him? Thanks

[Red_Arrow]

I am not that familiar with asthma, but has he tied using the inhaler, before sex, or at least before orgasming. It seems that it would open up things to make breathing easier DURING sex so that he is not gasping after.

[Findingmyway]

I've not seen him using it immediately before but it is on him/near him. I will ask him if he does should we see each other again. It is a good idea in case he doesn't. Thank you!

[Red_Arrow]

"should we see each other again"? Sounds to me like you will definitely be seeing him,

[Findingmyway]

Its unsure, we are drifting.. Not because we want to but given the situation, as you know from other post, it may be best. Plus we live far from each other (several states) so its dependent on it we happen to be in the same town. Ty

[Findingmyway]

*if we happen..

[Red_Arrow]

I know you said something about not letting your guard down in one post, but in another you expressed joy at the relationship you are in. It sounds like this guy is giving you a lot of loving, even if you aren't calling it that. And sounds like he has given you mores sexually than you had for the last two decades. You have to love that!

[Findingmyway]

Yes the guard up is in connection to the husband, I feel emotionally on guard given the history and I now realize I struggle to let myself go, fully giving myself to him. Yes the friends with benefits makes me feel wonderful! And its surely about enjoying each other's company too because we have gone out to eat, just watched TV and no sex, gone for ice cream, cooked dinner together. Its not love but def affection more then like. He makes me feel so good.. Like my sexual flood gates have opened and so now I'm just trying to navigate my way through all this. I am humbled that even with his asthma he still wants me and is willing to struggle like he does to "share our bodies" and "make love" as he puts it exactly. Ty!

[Red_Arrow]

My thought is that your husband is nuts for not really doing whatever it took to please you. You sound so nice and loving. And you are beautiful. (Checked out your photos on PhotoBucket) Your new "friend" is so lucky. Maybe he will find a way to fix whatever is drifting and the two of you may find a way to move to locations that are closer. If not, you have found that you are still attractive and that you can have a great relationship, sexual and otherwise. So you will have no trouble finding others. Should you end up wanting to settle down to one, I can't see any problems making that happen. If you want to continue relationships without commitment, I think you can do so with no feelings of guilt.

[Findingmyway]

No words to truly reflect my feelings right other then to say thank you so much for touching my heart and for taking the time to share and help me. It means a great deal because this is very difficult. I will elaborate much more in the other question too. Thank you for looking at my photos too.. A ton of misc stuff but you saw me lol. ☺️ Thank you for the compliments!

[Red_Arrow]

Thank you for MHO. And of course I am wishing you the best whatever happens!

[kheserthorpe]

I think you should consider what's underlying your constantly seeking out men with breathing problems.

[Findingmyway]

Good point.. Although it is purely coincidental.. My friends with benefits is a very long time friend. He wasn't random. I felt safe and secure with him.

[kheserthorpe]

I was mainly teasing ;)

[Findingmyway]

Yes I figured lol

[Lyndsielee666]

My boyfriend has asthema attacks every night after we have sex... cowgirl doesn't make a difference for him, he stills gasps for breath and what not. Its sad. Haha
try reverse cowgirl👍

[Jarson]

I am asthmatic so I use my inhaler before and after and I breathe in between because I have the severe one which limits my physical activities. It's not easy but if you know your asthma it's doable.

[RaCeRKiD5]

I have asthma but im pretty sure it doesn't affect anything for me. Im typically in the best shape on sports teams and whatnot. Dont know what im like in bed tho...(-_-)

[FistSlaminElite]

Cowgirl helps, my sex drive is just as high but I frequently have to catch my breath during so getting/giving neck kisses and slowing down is good cause it gives me the breather I need, I last longer and its still fun😃

[smahala1991]

I have astma and i can masturbate just fine

[Findingmyway]

Thank you! Thats very helpful.

[smahala1991]

you are welcome!

[TrustOfWorthington]

Not at all?

[Anonymous]

I've had mild asthma since I was little. Thankfully its never affected me. Interesting read though!

[Findingmyway]

Thank you. Hopefully it doesn't become a bigger issue for you. I want to help him as much as I can.