Guys, would you get bothered if you notice your girlfriend/wife eyeing down your friends crotch?

I’m quite confident but I noticed my girlfriend continually eyeing my friends crotch throughout the night. I couldn’t say anything in front of everyone but confronted her after. She denied but I had a lot of time throughout the night to verify that she was doing it.. it was extremely obvious.

although I know it’s not good to be insecure or anything.: I couldn’t help but be bothered by this? I mean it feels so disrespectful especially because she’s not super horny too often with me.. yet I notice that she suddenly couldn’t control her eyes for the entire night !!

is it normal for me to be bothered?
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  • Well normally I would say not to over think something like this or stress about it. I to am a very confident person and I seldom if ever get jealous over a girlfriend and when I do start to feel that type of anxiety over something I break it off.

    As a guy I still check out other women, and appreciate a nice rack of cleavage and tight ass when I see it. So I wouldn't mind her taking a gander at another mans junk... but if it was as noticeable as you make it out to be then it seemed that it must of been excessive. It does not really matter if she agrees or not because it what you saw and felt about it. So its your feelings that matter here, and unwillingness to admit or even acknowledge it is troubling. Because when I get caught checking out another women I don't even try to deny it.

    So honestly my man I don't know what to say you should do, but if she is only a girlfriend and it bothering you then yeah its disrespectful and if she will not acknowledge that then you got a problem.

    • I won’t bring it up to anymore. It’s just was frustrating because she barley looked at me that night. I could tell she was just literally LOOKING for opportunities to look at his junk with no one noticing. I found it disrespectful especially because she claims she has a low libido and doesn’t have sex nearly as much as I need her to. Then to see her have no self control with her eyes, makes me feel like shit. I got an above average package so it’s not that. Something about her claiming low libido and eye fucking another guys package all night really pisses me off

    • Yeah, that shit about low libido would never work for me anyway... I'd move on.

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  • Ok so you want her to admit to it right? Well next time she does it to, let's say your mates name is Dave for example, when you get a moment to speak to her alone, just say to her,

    "Hey honey, i was just thinking about what I asked you last time, and I noticed you looking at Dave again tonight. How would you feel about sucking Dave's cock? Would you fancy doing that?"

    Now she thinks you night be on board with it, and may tell you the truth, then you can correct her and tell her it makes you uncomfortable.

    But yeah I'd be a bit pissed about it, I'm not at all insecure about that kind of thing, but it is disrespectful. I don't look at her mates tits in front of her.

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  • She obviously liked what she saw, and you have a right to not like that. I would suggest confronting her, but you already did that, and she denied it. More and more I'm wondering if monogamy is a normal thing, or if it was invented by the church.

    I see girls on this site calling guys "sluts", but who are they being sluts with?

    And I see guys on this site call girls "sluts", but who are they being sluts with?

    My advice is to try and learn to not care about things. This doesn't make you a bad person, but it could keep you sane.

    • Appreciate this answer. Can I ask you if you too would eye other guys crotches down while in a relationship or if you don’t really have any interest? Just really wondering if this is normal for every girl to do. Another reason it bothers me is just because I’m the type of person that demands the truth.. tell me you were looking and I can move on. Deny it even though I continually saw her… now I’m furious. Don’t know why I’m like this.. I can’t even describe why it bothers me as much as it does.. the idea of her lusting over another guy I guess.. and despite me being pretty large down there.. I guess it bothers me if she starts to think he is bigger despite me knowing that he isn’t (we compared years back).. so maybe a weird ego thing eating away at me

    • "Just really wondering if this is normal for every girl to do." It's normal and every girl and guy does it. 'Another reason it bothers me is just because I’m the type of person that demands the truth." The truth is painful, and she doesn't want to cause you pain. "the idea of her lusting over another guy I guess" That's why I wonder if monogamy is a natural thing or man made. "despite me being pretty large down there" I seriously doubt her glances were about size. I think it's more about variety. I answered a question earlier today about if girls miss the freedom that comes with being single. YES. But being loved is also good. I'm surely not a Dr. Phil, but my advice would be to not confront her about this, but to tease her about it. Ask her if she likes what she's seeing. And I guarantee that if you can do this with a wicked smile, she will be helpless to not at least smile back. Hey, but who cares? The Russians are going to kill us all by Friday,.

    • Dang I don’t know why I try so hard to not check out other girls when everyone is just the same. Last time I checked a girl out (she pulled her pants down and started twerking her ass on a bar counter next to us so it was hard not to plus she was super good looking) my girl slapped me for looking !! Hahaha I guess I would at least prefer that it ain’t my friends that she’s checking out. And I guess size isn’t as important as guys think? I’m about 7 long with a bit of thickness yet I sometimes still will I had a bit more to work with (and flaunt lol) Maybe I should try to get rid of my ego regarding size as well as work on not being bothered by my significant other checking out guys in front of me. You’re right though, I don’t have much time with Russia about to go balls deep inside Ukraine and who knows what next LOL

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  • Is your friend single or flirting with her? Did he have a boner that she was looking at? How is your sex life with her... maybe try to spice it up a bit? Your thoughts?

  • They all do that. Get over it. Guys do it too. It's normal.
    Mature adults CHOOSE what they act on.

    As wife says, "I don't care where you get your appetite as long as you come home to eat." :)

  • Was he aroused and had a boner all night?
    I've noticed my wife check out guys before but we talk about it after and come up with fantasies when we have sex that night.
    Sounds like you could use a good sit-down talk.

  • I suggest you tie that bitch up and spank her. Put your dick down her throat and back to her pussy. Cum on her face and dominate the shit out of her. You need to make her submit before she goes looking for someone who will. Pull that bitches hair and spit in her mouth. Make love to her. She needs to be dominated ASAP. Don’t even ask her. Just grab her and start making love. No planning.

    • Man, you are a toxic nutjob! 😱

    • @HansHansen no, it’s called sarcasm idiot

  • No I'd find it amusing as I know I'm bigger than them all

    • I thought this too as we’ve compared, but then I thought, we’ll she doesn’t know this nor would she believe me if I said it as she could think I’m just lying due to being insecure. And maybe with the right angle or just the way the pants form.. maybe she’ll think he is bigger. So me knowing I’m bigger doesn’t protect from her imagination thinking differently

  • Of course it's normal. No different than if it were reversed. But was he wearing something that would draw her attention there, or just her? I would talk to her again, let her know it's bothering you and that it was obvious, so she needs to talk to you about it. It might have just been simple curiosity and nothing more to it? But maybe there is? Ask her about your sex life and if she enjoys it or not. Does it need to be "spiced up" for her or is she getting "bored"? You even see it on this site, so many women will be with a guy because he's a "great guy", but aren't really attracted to him physically. Hopefully that's not the case here, but it's what I'd be wondering also.

  • Did he have a noticeable bulge?

  • no, I would talk with her later, to see what did she like about it 😝

  • she's looking at your friends dick only because you were staring at her sisters tits. Fair game

  • Just stare at her friend's asses.
    Problem solved.

    • It’s funny because I’ll be labelled a perv. Her sister wasn’t wearing a bra.. just a thin shirt and I got called out for looking at them.. she said “all men are disgusting”. The funny thing is that I didn’t even intend to look, I turned and noticed which caught me by surprise so i maybe got stuck on them for a few seconds before I turned away and was cautious not to purposely look at them

    • My ex used to point out women with nice asses. She was like "I bet you like her ass." She thought it was funny. I didn't care if she looked at dicks either as long as I was the one fucking her.

    • Now imagine she had a low libido.. and you didn’t get sex as much as you wanted despite her being super happy in the relationship. Now you notice her looking at your friends dicks.. still not bothered?

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  • Do you have a big bulge

    • I mean did he

    • Honestly I didn’t think anything showed. It just looked like the pants piled up and created an air bubble while sitting. I know for a fact I have a bigger penis as we have compared in the past… but regardless I don’t want her starting to list over his or maybe think his is bigger just because of the angle or because she can’t tell the difference between a bulge and a air pocket