Guys, Guys would you still love and appreciate your wife if she hired you an escort?

[Anonymous]

We have been together 20 years and have a good marriage except my husband has lost a lot of sexual attraction for me as I’ve doubled in weight which I’m now working on getting off. He craves to sleep with a beautiful women and since I’m bi curious and have a thing for wanting to see my husband with another women I thought I would book him an hour of fun with a beautiful escort alone, my question is tho will this make him love and appreciate me more? He would never leave me loves me to bits it’s just this sexual attraction that’s an issue and I mean all men would love the opportunity to have a fun time wouldn’t they?

[SnowedIn]

You've got three different questions going on there and they're all good ones. Answering them not in order that you asked.

"... I mean all men would love the opportunity to have a fun time wouldn’t they?" Yes, most men would love that. Particularly under the conditions that you described (you hire the escort).

"... would you still love and appreciate your wife if she hired you an escort?" Hands down yes. There's such a HUGE element of love and trust and respect for one partner to do that for another.

But, I think the meat of your post is here: "... my question is tho will this make him love and appreciate me more?" I doubt it. I'm not a believer that love grows and shrinks and that this is it. That'd actually be concerning if one human could say to another, if you get me some cheesecake, I'll love you X, but if you get me a Camaro, I'll love you 5X. I'm not in any way trying to be flippant -- you're asking a great question. But I think the answer is "no", he won't love you more, but not because he doesn't hugely appreciate what you're doing, it's just that's not the way I think love works.

You're really an incredible person to consider doing this for him Hat's off to you.

[Asker]

Thanks for your response I totally get what you mean about love it was more appreciation I was meaning. We have talked a lot and he believes this will bring us closer because all we lack is physical attraction and I really liked your perspective on my questions so thanks for that

[God_of_Thunder]

That's a rather unique proposition, and I have no idea how your husband would react.

Speaking for myself, I would never agree to that, though. Primarily because, despite the situation, I would never even entertain the thought of sleeping with anyone besides me wife, even with her blessing.

The second being that I would also never sleep with an escort. Even if I wasn't already in a relationship, it's just not something that I would ever do, and have no desire, whatsoever.

If I was in the situation you describe, I would just continue to have sex with my wife, or at the very worst, simply abstain from sex altogether, until it was with my wife.

[Asker]

Fully respect some men wouldn’t be into it. My husband has been tempted by women flirting etc so he knows about this escort and he’s very into it and we both believe it’s the best solution to meet his needs of being with someone he is sexually attracted to but without losing our marriage.

[Guy13]

I would not do it. NO way!!

[Asker]

Even if it could save your marriage? And avoid cheating?

[Guy13]

No No No... Covenant violation has already occurred to me for both parties. No thank you would be my response to your offer.

[GreenLanternI0I]

You absolutely NEVER Willingly open a door to another woman to enter into your married life. That is the most slippery slope you can ever have. If you allow him to feel a young, beautiful and tight woman, your marriage is as good as Done and it will be 100% on You, because it was your choice and your plan. I will give you a Very good example. If you have been driving a 100 horsepower car your entire life and then you had a chance to drive a 1000 horsepower car for couple hours. After those couple hours of joy, you will never be the same and you will be striving HARD to get a car that has more horsepower than what you having been driving your entire life.

[Asker]

Of course this is exactly what I’m concerned about but lots of men want to stay with there wives and still have a bit of fun and that’s just what I’m hoping will happen here and to be honest I could lose my marriage if I don’t do this so I kinda have to take the risk.

[GreenLanternI0I]

As a red blooded man, I can tell you for a fact, it will back fire on you. Why don't both of you try to have sex every single day for the next 2 weeks (force yourselves) even if neither of you want. What I am about to tell you is not a joke, I'm very serious here. If your marriage is super important to you and if your sex life is suffering, weather you like it or not, you should offer him a Daily back door only entrance for couple weeks straight no day off's (As a Man, he cannot possible say no to that) let him get Everything out of his system, let him feel that rush again that you guys had before. BUT, if he won't except such a generous gift from you, you have something else going on in your marriage. Never forget, marriage is a Job and sometimes you have to do what you don't like, just so you can keep your job, so you can continue to pay your bills, so you can continue to live in comfort and happy.

[Woodchuck411]

I get what you're saying but I don't think that's going to help your situation. I think it's going to push him farther from you with the sexual part

[Asker]

That’s always a risk unfortunately it’s just at the point where if we don’t go down this road he could possible cheat on me and I would rather be in control of the situation than have that go on behind me back. I have left myself go for quite some time im just thankful he’s still here so I kinda want to give him a wee bit of joy and hope he still wants me after it.

[Woodchuck411]

I get where you're coming from. But sometimes it's way too risky so I assume you're sex life is not really that good.

[misogynistic_pig]

No.

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[icedragoom]

If you are okay with a three some I would suggest ask a close friend first cause you never know where the. Escort has been

[Asker]

I’m not keen on friends or people we might know as there is also risk it could turn into something else. Where I feel like paying for an escort takes that away. I have done a lot of research and have found a high end establishment so they are very professional.

[icedragoom]

Then if that's the case I say go for it and also try some new things to help turn your man on look for some new kinks he may be interested in

[Asker]

We are actually very sexual and very much into the same kinky things the only issue with our sex life is me being a big girl and my weight being in the way and just not being attractive so it’s more he’s not slept with anyone else in 20 years and enjoying some sex with a skinny hot girl would just make him feel good and I would love it I just can’t get involved until I loose the weight

[icedragoom]

Sorry to sound like this and I mean no harm in any way shap or form " but wouldn't you want. Man who loves and cares about you weight or no weight " sorry I know it's one of those old time things but it just sounds like your both only in the relationship for sex and that's not very healthy

[Asker]

No harm at all it’s a wee bit the other way we do really love and care for each other he’s great and we do still have sex but he dsnt desire me or find me attractive and dsnt like having sex with my while I’m big so I don’t want to loose my marriage over being fat when the rest works really well. So thought this could be a way to give him what he wants but still have the marriage too

[icedragoom]

Okay that answers a few things on my side then I say go for it then keep things spicy in the relationship but don't let him just have a three way just cause of no sex thing he has to earn it

[billmunch]

yes. I would be okay if she hires a male escort.

[magiusX26]

going hypothetical here cause i am not married nor taken. neither do i want to be either. but lets say if i were married, no. i likely would be very offended.

[Googlemyahoo]

I wouldn’t my coworker started that & eventually his wife just left him

[tfan1]

No, I’m dedicated to my wife and her only. Besides sex outside of marriage is adultery.

[Stevefiveo]

He will definitely love and appreciate you more. It might help bring back the romance if he can share the story with you. Good luck.