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Had anal sex with boyfriend?

First time we tried it. It was totally ok, even if I prefer vaginal. I asked if he was into other kinky stuff like bondage, but he vehemently denied it. I always suspected he wanted anal as he complimented my ass numerous times. He is clearly getting more uninhibited after 9 months together. He says he didn’t want me to think he wanted me for sex only. Is this a common reasoning for guys? To hold back on sex to not scare the girl off? Also, should I expect him to get even more open and uninhibited about sex with me, now that he knows I really like sex and am willing to try things outside of plain vanilla?
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  • I don't know whether it is common for guys to hold back on sex or kinks to not scare the girl off, but that sounds like me, especially with anal sex. I have had anal with girls in the past and I really like it but with my current girlfriend I just had a feeling she would be put off by the idea so I never brought it up for almost a year. Turns out she likes anal a lot and was afraid I would be put off by the idea so she was afraid to bring it up too. One time when we had been drinking a little and I was going down on her I licked her ass and I could tell by the way she reacted that she really liked it. I ended up putting a finger in her ass and it made her squirm and she came really hard. Two days later we had anal sex and it's been a regular part of our sex for almost 4 years now.

    It's hard to say how he feels about other kinks. Everyone is different. But I think it's definitely possible he likes things like bondage more than he is letting on because he's afraid how you will take it and that you might be judgmental.

    Are you asking because you would like to try those things?

    • I’m not sure if I like it because I never tried it, but I’m open to trying most things

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  • Girls dump guys after theyve visited their asshole, why? because they think he's dirty and now she'll have to give him that for the rest of the relationship.
    Bondage in a vanilla relationship always leads to breakup because it just went too far and someone got mentally hurt or physically.

    • Are you saying he may like kinky stuff even tho he claims not to, and is afraid of losing me?

    • That is very possible. A girl will allow anal and rimming once and then dump him. He knows this, GAG has taught me this from the responses of girls. Some guys don't like anal tho so bear that in mind. BDSM? Tell him you don't feel this relationship is complete without some extra spice in the bedroom. If he doesn't accept, say can I explore my BDSM with a friend. He may or may not accept but he will then know you may do this behind his back. at least you were upfront.

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  • he's bless to have you firstly.. your both ina 9 month relationship he's probably had past experience badly wit other girls. Having sex is crucial bc I think it helps bond a relationship. I think he's trying not to lose u bc ofhaving to much sex

  • Depends, it may be he was taking it "easy" for your sake. I suppose the next few weeks is going to tell.

    If she goes "off" you, or ghosts, then you know he thinks you a slut. But if warms up and starts making it a more regular occurrence, then he may engage in more advanced sex.

  • Yes, I had too :)

  • He may get more open with you now.

  • I hold back so we actually have a relationship outside of sex. I did want to try anal too. My girlfriend actually likes it more than I do. I don't think he is hiding anything from you, but you do hold back on some of your fantasies when you first start out. How would you react if on your first date after becoming official he said he wanted to try anal with you?

  • I don’t do anal anything!

  • Good for girl carry on experimenting and exploring your sexual desires and preferences together as your relationship develops is my advice

    • This surely deserves the MHO.

  • Feeling tight..

  • yes maybe he doesn't want to frighten you away, do you have any surprises for him

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