Has anyone ever felt like all they were is a body? Just there to be used and discarded?

[Anonymous]

I've mostly recovered from this type of thinking, but sometimes I still occasionally think that the only reason a guy is interested in me is to have sex. That there's nothing else to me, that my likes and dislikes don't matter as long as I can provide fun to guys or can do the next kinky thing it's great.

How do you feel value as a person when everything you do so can another person and often they're better at it then you too.

- As a side note when I say mostly is because when I was last with a guy, I simply thought the only reason he likes me was cause he thought I was hot. So when he rejected a couple of my advances and we did the classic "don't you like me", kisses me and rubs up against me "you know I want you" routine. I was really confused I couldn't understand what he wanted. The next time we met was at mine and he was quite surprised and excited that I was watching taken 2. That honestly surprised me that he watched a movie with me without anything sexual we hugged for a bit but I'm UK here and there's no AC and it was a hot summer day, so it wasn't for long. But again it was really confusing cause he didn't immediately try something.

Another time we met it was somewhat a date at a pub, having a couple of drinks I met a few of his friends. His friends left at 9/9:30, and we stayed chatting till 1. It was honestly the first time I felt like I wasn't there simply for sex. Despite the whole thing still being a very sexual fling, it was the first time in a while I felt like my body took the second page.

[PositiveFlight]

I’ve never felt like that and I have been sure to make sure she has never felt that way. Sex is the ultimate expression of love and as a result I have always made sure that she falls asleep after cuddled, feeling special, loved, warm, relaxed, and like a queen with the biggest smile on her face possible. Usually middle of the night it has been her wake up and want to go again.

This is why I fight against the stupid ideas so many have on here regarding friends with benefits and so called “fuck buddies.” Its sexual objectification and selfish dehumanization. Aka, its just using someone else’s body to get off without offering any love or feelings of which the sex is supposed to solidify. People wonder constantly the dumbest thing of “I had sex with my friends with benefits and I think they are getting feelings for me, why is that, isn’t it weird?” Yeah because God forbid another human being might actually care about the other when they have both literally shared the most connecting physical act possible! Or “I had sex with my friends with benefits and I’m falling in love, what can I do?” The answer is to stop playing with fire and disrespecting yourself and the other person. One or both will end up with feelings because sex solidifies love and feelings. Its like saying I want to play in the river without the risk of getting any water on me!

[Nifrayu]

I guess I avoided this just by not having sex until after we confessed that we love each other.

[RoseySaraah]

Yes for a long time just trash dates felt like that even without giving sex!

Sometimes in sex I want that my boyfriend just using my body loving it and being done with it just tossing me to sleep all happy or in a role play!

But really the best sex is intimate and loving snuggles even after!

He is the one who helped me change that thinking! Even on our first date!

[RoseySaraah]

Thanks for mho

[Samantha36]

I felt like that most of my life. My now boyfriend is the only guy iv been with that is interested in me the person. Not just my boobs or ass lol.
I'm 36 and wish I'd met him years ago. It's encouraging that you stayed chatting until 1. Follow your gut hunni

[LazerBean]

No, never.

[Apple1996]

I've actually felt the opposite like a lot of guys just like me for my personality

[boggboss]

No I have always had a alright sense of self and understanding my value or what jm worth

[Sunnybeach123]

I think that I'm being used only for my body.

[AydenHazor]

Many guys might only go after you for your body, but the truck is finding the guys that are interested in you for who you are