Have casual sex and the proliferation of free porn leveled the playing field in sex and relationships between men and women?

[Anonymous]

I personally think they have. Men watch porn and see what sex can be like, and have now come to expect things like oral, anal, rough sex, face fucking, choking, hair pulling, even BDSM. Things that were uncommon and considered taboo in the past are now a normal part of sexuality. Porn has normalized things that wouldn't be considered normal otherwise. And causal sex is now the norm as well. Men expect it, and women know they do and they feel pressure to have sex or they worry they will lose a guy.

Almost all women have watched at least some porn, and many watch it regularly, so they also have a good idea what men want and expect sex to be like and they now feel pressure to "perform" sexually to remain competitive in the sexual marketplace.

Porn has raised the bar for sex. In the past, most guys were lucky just to get sex at all outside of marriage. But today, casual sex is the norm, and most guys who want something like anal can get it because women know "everyone is doing it" and they feel pressure to do it for their man because they know if they don't, another woman will.

I think casual sex and porn have been a boon for men, both sexually and with relationships. They have given men more power, and women less. I think women also know that they don't offer many of the same benefits to men that women of the past did... except for sex. They realize sex, and GOOD sex, is a key to being able to attract and keep a man much more so than in the past. The bar has been raised and women know they need to up their game.

What are your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Porn has been a mixed bag for both men and women. There are men who are addicted to porn, and that is harmful to them and their partners, if they have one. But I see that kind of like alcohol... abuse can lead to all kinds of problems, but anyone partaking responsibly is probably fine. Porn makes some women insecure because they can't help comparing themselves to porn stars, and it makes some feel cheated on. I think the same is true of men who see all the giant penises in porn and it makes them feel insecure about themselves. Does porn make women feel pressured to do things they don't want to do, or maybe wouldn't do otherwise? Of course it does. Has porn changed the way society sees many sexual behaviors? Yes, no question. Is sex different today than it would have been without porn being so easily and freely available for many years now? Obviously. Is it better? In some ways yes, in other ways no. Is the answer to that question different for men and women? Probably. Has porn "leveled the playing field"? I don't think so. It has just changed things.

[Asker]

But all things considered, wouldn't you say porn has made sex better for men?

[KarinMcDonald]

Well I can tell you from experience that the availability of free porn has certainly enhanced the sexual relations of me and my husband.

[Asker]

I'm happy to hear that. I think that is the right attitude. My fiancée and I are the same. It took her a while to accept it and come around to the idea that it's something we can enjoy together and it can enhance our relationship, but she has become quite enthusiastic about it now. We are doing some things she never dreamed of in the past and enjoying them as much as I do, maybe more in some cases. Thanks for your response.

[KarinMcDonald]

My pleasure!

[Anonymous]

Casual sex has made it easier for men to get sex before marriage for sure. For women, it is more acceptable now for them to engage in casual sex, but they also feel more pressure to do so now than they used to. Porn has made sex better in many ways and has given men more power in terms of getting the kind of sex most men want. Many women are willing to engage in sex acts today that the majority of women of the past would not have considered. I think many women enjoy doing some of those things too but most do them, at least initially, because they feel pressured to, not necessarily by a man but by society and the sense that those things are expected. I don't know if I would say these changes have leveled the playing field, but they have definitely given men more power and probably taken away some of women's agency.

[ericclayton]

Porn has certainly normalized a lot of things and desensitized men to normal sexual interests. Also has pushed women into fulfilling the desires that men see in these scenarios. None of this is healthy sexuality.

[Asker]

Who defines healthy?

[LazerBean]

Sex never has and never will be the deciding factor on whether or not a woman will be able to "attract and keep" any man that is worth breathing the same air as. Perhaps that would be the case if said woman is trying to attract a manwhore, but not for any man with some amount of worth. The only thing porn has done for our society is promote a generation of perverts who have no idea how women work in real life and emasculate cucks.

[Asker]

I expected some defensive responses from some women. There is a grain of truth in some of what you said, but you're mostly just denying some important realities, and I think you know that. Thanks just the same for your response.

[LazerBean]

Sure, it's true if you are a whore living in a society of whores. But I'm privileged enough to live in an area where I can avoid whores like the plague and only associate closely with decent people.

[Asker]

Sex is super important to most men. I'm sure you're aware considering how much time you spend on GAG. Women have changed very significantly in what they do and are willing to do sexually now compared to 10 or 20 years ago, and that is mostly due to the influence of easily available porn. I see women complaining about that everywhere, but I don't see men complaining much. I will say that women complain less now than they used to, because they have accepted it as reality and even as normal. The things going on in bedrooms across America today are very different than they used to be, and that goes for a hell of a lot more than just "whores" and "manwhores". Well, unless you consider anyone who does something more than just vanilla sex a "whore". It's pretty much everyone, and we have porn to thank for that. Have women benefitted from it too? Sure, lots of them feel the same way the other female responder here does. But the fact is the vast majority of women would not be doing the things they do in bed today if it weren't for porn, and women are the limiting factor in that, not men. The sexual bar has been raised, and that has benefitted men a lot.

[LazerBean]

No you do not see men complaining about getting to have promiscuous sex very much. They really don't start complaining much until it occurs to them that divorce rates are on the rise and men usually get the short end of the stick on it, and that since they've been promiscuous for so long now no decent woman will have them. Also a whore is someone who has sex outside of marriage. So yeah, a lot of sad little whores these days complaining about how there are no good men/women and how divorce rates are so high.

[Asker]

No you do not see men complaining about getting to have promiscuous sex very much. They really don't start complaining much until it occurs to them that divorce rates are on the rise and men usually get the short end of the stick on it, and that since they've been promiscuous for so long now no decent woman will have them. Also a whore is someone who has sex outside of marriage. So yeah, a lot of sad little whores these days complaining about how there are no good men/women and how divorce rates are so high. You're right about some things, wrong about others. Men certainly do get screwed in divorce, but divorce is not on the rise at all. It has been declining pretty steadily since the 80s. You're also right that men don't generally complain about getting too much promiscuous sex, although a lot of men are not interested in it. But more importantly, and more relevant to this conversation, men are not complaining about the fact that there are far fewer prudes like you these days than in the past, and it's not just promiscuous women who are engaging in (and enjoying) everything from anal to BDSM, things that were far less common and accepted until the advent of free internet porn. Nope, men are not complaining at all that their wives are taking it up the ass and even asking for it. They are not complaining that their wives know how to suck dick like a porn start either. Like I said, porn has been a boon for men. Women tend to be far less judgmental about men being promiscuous than the reverse. In fact many women are more drawn to experienced men. But in general, the notion that "no decent woman will have" a man who has experience is just false, and I think even you know that. Your harsh judgment of women who have sex before marriage is a little surprising, and proof I guess that it is not just men who judge promiscuous women and call them whores. You will no doubt piss off some women with that attitude.

[LazerBean]

Wow lots of words. Enjoy your whoring while it lasts 💁🏽‍♀️

[Asker]

May you find satisfaction as a prude. I feel sorry for your poor husband.

[LazerBean]

And he feels sorry for you 🥺

[LazerBean]

Actually he doesn't, he has no sympathy for whores either.

[Asker]

Sounds like you two prudes were made for each other.

[LazerBean]

Yeah it's amazing never having to worry about your husband leaving you because he found a woman who gives better sex.

[Asker]

Sure, that's what you think now. But it's inevitable that he will eventually realize most women are much better equipped and willing to satisfy him than his prudish wife. And one of two things will happen... you will either up your game, because you know you have to, or your marriage will become one of those statistics you spoke about earlier. Why? Because men can and do expect better from women today than men of the past could. Because they can. The bar for female sexual performance was raised. Prudes like you are becoming a thing of the past. And we have porn to thank for that for the most part.

[LazerBean]

And that mentality right there is why men like you are prone to cheating and thereby worthless.

[LazerBean]

Be sure to tell your "fiance" that of you ever get bored of her you're going to test out other women and leave her for one you like better. See how long she stays with you then.

[Asker]

It's fiancée, because well, she's a woman and all. And trust me, I will not get bored with her. She's not a prude like you.

[LazerBean]

So you won't tell her that, even thought it's true because you know she would dump you immediately. Yeah I'm not surprised.

[Asker]

Why would I tell her something that isn't true?

[LazerBean]

Backpedaling at it's finest lol You have MULTIPLE times asserted that if a man gets board with a woman sexually he will leave her. Therefore it is true that IF you get board of her you will leave her.

[Asker]

I think the word you're looking for here is bored, not board. Unless you're talking woodworking here. You're wrong because there's a significant difference. I know my fiancée very well, both sexually and otherwise, and I know going into our marriage that she is not a prude like you. Quite the opposite, actually. Me getting bored with her would be like getting bored of crab legs or caviar. It's just not gonna happen. Your husband, however, had no idea what he was marrying into with you because he didn't know you sexually at all before marrying you (unless you were, as you say, a whore). You didn't even know who you yourself were sexually because you had zero experience. Now, if your husband is fine with being married to a prudish starfish princess then you have nothing to worry about. But, there's a good chance he is going to have sexual needs at some point that a prudish starfish princess like you would never want to engage in. That's when your trouble will begin. And as I said, you will either up your game to the standard men expect today, or there will be trouble in your marriage. You see, my fiancée is starting as a 10, so she has nothing to improve on, and I won't be getting bored. You, on the other hand, have started as a zero. You may develop and become something better, but it's unlikely with your puritanical views. But hey, maybe you'll break out of your shell and become a valuable wife. I hope you do, for the sake of your marriage.

[LazerBean]

Text to speech error. And that's a lot of words that don't matter because the word "IF" is in the sentence.

[Anonymous]

I think overall there is some truth in this, but I think you exaggerate the extent of it. I don't think it's really "leveled" the playing field, but maybe nudged it a bit in men's favor simply because women are self-conscious and we don't like to feel unattractive to a man, which is why we give you the porn fantasies.

Women still have the advantage primarily because men are so desperate and will put up with just about anything just to get sex. As long as men are like that, it'll never be a level playing field. We aren't worried about loosing you over the sex, we're just worried that we won't measure up to your fantasies and that makes us insecure.

So yeah, men are getting just about anything they want from us these days, in the bedroom. But women are still the gatekeepers, we still decide when, where and how, and most men will still bend over backwards if they think they'll get some.

[Anonymous]

If you need porn to enhance your sex life, your sex life must be real shitty.

[Asker]

You missed the point, but thanks for taking the time to respond.