Have you ever been sexually catfished by someone on GAG?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I recently found out that someone I’ve been talking to on gag isn’t who they say they are. Now I feel foolish because I trusted. The sexual talk and sexual disclosure by myself and them were very personal but now I realize they faked all of it. What do you do when you find out that the person you’ve been talking to is a total fake?

[Paul_in_Indy]

That would usually not happen to me more than once a day (sometimes twice) if I let it. Everywhere on the internet, there is plenty of that. I guess I must seem like a soft touch around here? I get frequent, poor attempts to catfish me (I assume it’s just for fun for most of them. …or maybe it’s the same guy hitting me every day? I don't know)

I’m sorry that you were hit where it hurts by this. I’m in a situation where I’m not emotionally vulnerable. I know that puts me in a position of privilege. I hear your distress and frustration.

[ShiftingMonke]

If you dont engage sexually with anonymous people online, it's harder to get catfished by them.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

True. But sex is a fun topic and generally I help people out and they feel better.

[ShiftingMonke]

I agree that it's fun, and while I've given advice on it, I generally try not to engage with anyone on a personal level nor do I express any personal interest or desire to another user. It's just good policy in my opinion to assume folks have ulterior motives on this site and be mindful of such. I am sorry that you were misled though, it's a terrible feeling. I hope it doesn't negatively impact your views of users as a whole.

[virgincountryboy]

Sex is noii

[virgincountryboy]

I think that sex is a a good topic for me because I have never done it before or anything and it is All new to me and I have always been very emotional and very shy and nervous to even talk to anyone about it or try to learn

[Anonymous]

I assume everyone here isn’t entirely who they say they are. When people are behind an anonymous screen name, they often pretend to be someone they’re not. Have fun with the site but don’t be too trusting or reveal too much personal information.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I assume that too. But I have met some really fantastic people here that are real and honest. Sadly they live far away.

[katiesmuff]

This is why you should never take a site like this for real or serious and use only as a fun time. I'd bet there is more unreal than real identities on here.

[summiter]

I have not and I'm sorry it happened to you. At times I think we all need to be more careful about any personal info. Hang in there.

[SnowedIn]

Sorry you had that experience. :(

[Bricealan]

I have heard the term "catfished" but don't know EXACTLY what it means and in particular with your situation?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

It was a person that wasn’t who she said she was. It was a guy and they pretended to be a woman. They live far away and there isn’t a romantic component to it but it’s just that they made me care and yet they lied. I’m upset because they made me care but wasted my time.

[Dargil]

If you parse their word use and thought pattern, sometimes you can tell. M and F think and talk differently.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Yeah. I’m better at reading micro expressions but of course that doesn’t work online🤣

[Dargil]

I am certain I have read men trolling as women asking sexual questions. Guys tend to be more rude and blunt than women. I have thought "women don't ask questions that way. Even Joan Rivers didn't talk that way.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm sorry this happened to you, but this is very common on these websites, I believe there are catfish and scammers tried to scam me or trick me into falling for their lies it happens all the time.

[Mansearching]

Block them anyway. DTA, I always say. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[AsaKyo]

No, because I'm not that stupid

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Has nothing to do with being stupid.

[AsaKyo]

I mean, it kind of is stupid to chat with random strangers you barely know on a website like this, specifically "sexually", so I don't know lmao

[Breanna_nonbinary]

My conversations usually start talking about helping that person. What upsets me is that invested time getting to know them and they lied about who they were.

[Zayed_]

No, because I don’t use this website for sexual purposes.

[Vivian_Amber13]

I have, and honestly felt ashamed for sharing my personal life with that person. I hope you feel better about yourself soon too

[Breanna_nonbinary]

@Vivian_Amber13 Thank you. What’s your story? How did you get catfished?

[Vivian_Amber13]

We mainly talked about things regarding both our lives, things and stories about his "girlfriend " and experiences that I've had. We kept sharing and I got very personal because I like to share and then he ended up telling me that everything he had told me was a lie and that he only wanted a photo of me...

[riverrat3]

So sorry, he was an ass

[Breanna_nonbinary]

@riverrat3 Vivian is catfishing people.

[riverrat3]

@Breanna_nonbinary how so

[Breanna_nonbinary]

@riverrat3 she claims to live in Indonesia but for someone who’s first language isn’t English her grammar, diction and syntax are all indicative of someone who speaks fluently. In addition her vocabulary is not that of a 13yo. When I explained this to her she understood what syntax, diction and grammar were. So definitely someone who’s older and male. She also is too accommodating for a 13yo.

[riverrat3]

@Breanna_nonbinary thanks

[Still-alive]

i have a pretty good radar for detecting catfishes before i ever even talk to them so thankfully it hasn't failed me yet.

[Kelly6]

I mostly ignore them, and if they keep bothering me I just block them.

[Hanrej]

Shrug!

What can you do?

[bananathunder]

I've had many attempts but it's pretty easy to weed them out in my opinion

[Breanna_nonbinary]

@bananathunder I knew that she was catfishing me from early on. Her low exper level, the picture and the lack of questions. I just like to see how far they take it and what they will say once I call them out. Weysally is also someone that is catfishing people. Only she posts a lot of sexual questions and is fairly active. So be cautious of her.

[bananathunder]

don't worry. I have been on here long enough to know all the higher level/very active pink catfish acounts. The funniest thing is to watch them catfish each other LOL

[Paulychicagoluv]

I report and block. I recently called one out that was/is pretending to be trans and then I got blocked. I reported the page and hopefully they got booted.

[CubaPirate]

Fortunately not

[krin_m]

I hope not, but you never know.

[Emiliamazing]

Completely agree 😊

[Cheerfull009]

Most GAG users have fake profiles and pictures, so don't believe

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Catfished, yeah, but not sexually.