Have you ever been shamed or threatened to keep silent about sexual assault, abuse or harassment?

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  • I voted a.. For # reasons.. Many years ago i was at a party, and got very drunk ( part of the reason i dont get drunk any more), and i passed out. I woke up to some random girl on top of me, telling me to be quiet, it will feel good.. i got her off of me, and when i went to report it, i was laughed at, i was told that as a man i cannot be raped or sexually assaulted.

    Scenario 2 here is not sexual assault, but domestic violence. i was with a woman that was extremely jealous and excessively violent. One day i was fed up with her attacking me, screaming at me, and constantly telling me that i am a cheater.. So i kicked her out.. Later on she came back to my home to "apologize and say good bye" her words.. When i opened the door, she hit me with the bottom half of a pool cue, The rubber on the end was gone and what was there was an exposed bolt. She hit me in the face slicing it up, leaving me bleeding and needing dozens of stitches. I reported it, The police showed up. The FEMALE officer that too my report said "I am sorry we dont charge women with domestic violence. If she was still here, you would be going to jail not her. If she so much as reports that she broke a nail hitting you, we will come and arrest you and charge you. You're a man, you must have done something to deserve this." I go to the hospital to get patched up and the first thing out of the doctors mouth was "What did you do to deserve this?" When i have never, and i mean NEVER hit a woman in anger or self defense.

    Suffice it to say i learned from those two situations that as a man reporting these things is pointless. Apparently the Duluth model is responsible for the second situation. Look it up sometime.. Its the most sexist training model for the police i have ever seen.

    • It's very unfortunate that I hear these stories this often. I'm a 6'7 dude, if a cute blonde hits me, no officer would act and no judge would take my side. I would very likely go to jail for even pushing her away. That said, I sure as hell would respond. Let's hope it doesn't get to that.

    • @TallAnon Exactly.. Im not as tall as you, but im a big guy. 6 Feet and well i look like i played football for years, 250 pounds. i look mean but anyone that knows me, knows im quite the opposite, and it makes me sick that because of how society views men, no matter what happens, we are never seen as capable of being victimized..

    • Yeah, I totally get that. Rapidly approaching the 300 pounds here, but also a game developer/programmer. We're not violent people, haha. But if someone hits me, male or female, I will hit back. Hypocrisy of feminism right there; Equality only when it benefits them.

  • Yes absolutely, from a rape hotline "this didn't happen, and if it did no one will ever believe you anyway. Don't call back."
    On G@G "I hope those ladies had a good time"
    Are some of the more notable ones

    • I’m glad you made it through, hon. You’re a good man, truly.

    • Thank you.

    • I'm sorry this happened to you <3

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  • My mother always tells people that I was raped when I was 5 and she shouldn't do that, even if they wanted to know.

    I only told my therapist about this.

    • What the hell seriously? That’s fucked up of her. She should never tell anyone that without your permission

  • I only kept quiet cause he gaslighted me into thinking i fully gave consent. I also kept quiet cause i didn't wanna disappoint my mom.

    • I am so sorry to hear about that 😔

    • @SilverRain92 thank you

    • God im sorry my friend. the psychological stuff is the worst, the scars never show on the outside.

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  • Yeah, out of the few times it’s happened to me only one had a positive outcome from speaking out.

  • I've never been in that position. Anyone who tries to control me by threats is probably going to get the opposite of whatever they want!

  • Somewhat, yes.

  • That is very sad to hear... I honestly hope that does not occur often. If at all. But if you are saying it, it saddens me to think you had to have a knowledge of it happening in the first place. 😞

  • Yeah

  • Yeah

  • Yep.

  • Yes. Both.

    • Hug 😔

    • ❤ Never again.

    • Never ❤️

  • Yup by my social worker when I was 10.

    • I’m sorry 😔

    • Thank you, I'm okay now though.

    • I’m glad :)!

  • No, but I feel bad for someone whose up against this situation

  • No!!

    • I hope you never are :)

    • ❤❤ How about you?

    • Yeap, I don’t keep silent about it. He can fuck off. :)

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  • Yes .

  • Never in my life

  • Has someone done that to you? 😮

    • Yeah, but that’s not what this is about. I’m just curious currently

    • *big hug* 💓💓🌹

    • *hug* ❤️❤️😘

  • No, but people don't threaten someone of my size anyway (unless drunk).
    I am quite prone to the "You fucking what?" Followed by a punch. If someone would even try something like that to me.

  • @DizzyDesii Damn I sorry to hear that!

    • Thank you. Im better now