Have you ever bought a sex toy in a shop, as apposed to the Internet?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is a master of teasing and psychological manipulation. One day we were walking hand in hand, and he pulled me into a sex shop. I resisted, because I was so fucking embarrassed to be seen in there. What would people think of me? But I realize now that everyone is the store are in the same boat, and we're all there for the same reason.

We looked around at all the garments, lotions and potions, and then we checked out the toys. He said he wanted to buy me a dildo. I turned beet red. I begged him not to. I finally realized he wasn't going to take no for an answer, so I told him I would go and wait for him in the car.

Nope. He handed me a big dildo and a hundred dollar bill, and said: "Buy it."

My heart dropped on the floor. There was no way in hell I was going to go up to the counter and buy it. He insisted, and he started making chicken noises. lol

OK, that was it. It's ON! I showed him I wasn't chicken. I remember that on the way to the counter, I was contemplating making a great story. "This isn't for me, this is a bridal gift for my friend." Yeah, because the guy at the cash register never heard that line before. lol

I ended up just not making eye contact with the clerk, and just handed him the dildo and the money. I thought I was going to die.

Why am I telling you this? Guys, don't buy her stuff on Amazon, take her to the store and mind fuck her like my boyfriend did with me. My God, I wanted his dick right there in the car, but he made me wait until we got home. Fellas, sex is 90% mental. Fuck her mind and her pussy will follow.

[IsoUser]

My girlfriend as well as others prefer to buy our sex toys online mine can mimic hands free BJ or not to be blunt f#$king the temperature is regulated in both at 98.6 degrees and is self lubricating and is completely controlled by remote control within forty feet or by cell phone via internet. I gave my girlfriend a probing extending essentially dildo/ vibrator and with just the use of my phone she came twice inside Our favorite restaurant. Then I gave her mine after letting heatup She made me have two of the largest orgasms of cum and precum inside her in the morning that is exactly how she woke me up in the morning Omg it felt so good to cum twice inside.

[Asker]

I had to give you the prize for that post. lol

[brianthenewguy]

I went into a sex shop last week for the first time and bought a 7.5 realistic dildo and my heart was beating out of my chest it was awesome

[Asker]

I like that I think you understand the meaning of my post. It's about doing things together. I will never forget when my dad took me out for an ice cream cone. My boyfriend, now husband took me to feed ducks.

[HighlyVolatile]

The closest I got to that was buying an adult magazine at an airport bookstore when I was 9 years old. My father dropped me in the store with some money and said I could buy whatever I wanted to read on the airplane.

So I picked out an adult magazine and wanted to see if they would sell it to me. So I brought it to the counter with a huge smile on my face and the clerk was an old woman. Then she looked at the magazine, and looked at me, then looked at the magazine again and was like, "Uhh... oh well!" and sold it to me and put it in a paper bag!

Then I was so happy clutching my adult magazine like my ultimate treasure. But my father caught me looking at it and was like, "What the hell did you buy?" And I was like, "It has pretty naked ladies in it!" Then he almost had the same look as the clerk and was like, "Uhh... well, don't tell your mother!"

[Asker]

OMG. That's fucking awesome. I'm not saying it was good or bad, but you will remember this until the end of time. I'm of the belief that when we get to the end... we won't regret the things we did, but we will regret the things we DIDN'T do.

[HighlyVolatile]

I see it like we tend to regret the things we wanted to do but avoided out of fear. It's the fear we tend to regret as I see it.

[Asker]

Life has no wrong or right answers. Twice in my life I was given the opportunity to skinny dip with a group of friends. I've never done it. I'm fat, and I feel very self conscious about it. But my girlfriends were also fat, and they just didn't give a shit. To this day, I'm searching for the ability to not give a shit. I very much want this freedom, but it doesn't come easy. They were laughing and splashing in the water, but I was the nerd on the dock.

[HighlyVolatile]

Oddly, I'm trying to reach a point where I give more of a shit. :-D There might be a balancing factor there since I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie and thrill seeker. Being reckless tends to be my bigger problem than avoiding things. Well, I figure fear can be useful to prevent us from doing needlessly risky things. If you lack it as I often do, then you have to count on wisdom instead, and I'm very slow to get wise. :-D

[VinnyMac]

When I was younger I used to be really embarrassed of the idea of going to a sex shop 😳 . My first ex- Girlfriend was far more open about those things and she convinced me to go in with her. She had fun with the experience and would laugh at some of the dildos, party stuff and quite a few other things. It was through my first relationship actually that I became comfortable with them. We'd often go there for different massage oils, lubes, sex books and things like chocolate fondue and body paint.

After one of my other exes and I broke up I was pretty down and I purchased a flesh light from there. They mold them from the different porn stars pursues. I doubted if it would work well or not, but it was a way of feeling something similar to sex after having being broken up now.

My Fiancèe has a best friend who manages a sex shop and she would often suggest this or that to try. There's also a site online where you can become a consultant for this company that sells sex products. My Fiancèe has quite a few different vibrators, a giant rainbow dildo and rose gold butt plug. I think sex toys can be a good way of doing something different and fun, and growing closer to your partner.

[Asker]

Thank you for your very thoughtful answer.

[MTC29]

Several times. There is no need for a story or an explanation, all that the salesclerks are interested in is getting your money.

[Asker]

They don't even give a shit about your money. They just want to go home at the end of the day.

[MTC29]

LOL. That sums it up perfectly,

[RobT312]

Yeah I have bought leather gear such as cuffs, blindfolds harnesses and cock rings.
It took me a while to have the guts, but I went in with confidence, the sales guy was super nice, and ended up having fun with it. He even helped me try stuff on at the store

[IMuser]

Any tips for "fucking her mind?"

[Asker]

Only two things come to mind. You can go on YouTube and search for pickup artists. 1. Negging Negging is giving her a compliment, and then taking half of the compliment back? Confused? You should be You approach a woman at a party. You say: "That red dress looks fantastic on you. My grandmother had the same dress." She's now confused as fuck. You paid her a wonderful compliment, but then you took half of it back. There could be 10,000 hot guys at the party, but she will be fixated on you. You fucking owe her a half of a compliment, and she wants it. She will stalk you the entire evening, waiting for the other half of her compliment. (I learned of this from this very site. I didn't think it was real, until I Googled it) 2. I want you to NOT picture a purple elephant. What did you just imagine? Humans are helpless in that way. You can put images in people's heads, and they are powerless to stop it. Tell her a story. And don't be afraid to make it about another woman. That might even be better. Tell her about the candles, fire place and wine. Tell her that it was a snowy blizzard outside, but you guys were set for supplies. There was no electricity, so there was no Internet of TV. It was just the two of you in front of that fireplace. Trust me. These mental images will haunt her and drive her insane.

[IMuser]

So basically, confuse her? And thanks for the tips

[Nikkilee12]

Yes I have! The staff usually are really helpful as they review the products! Would recommend xx

[Asker]

I used to live on the other side of the state. (I moved back home) there was a sex shop that gave their employees sex toys, but with the condition that they had to review them online. Wow, it was so hot. I don't really know why., I just remember that when we went into the shop, I was imagining who was who. I wondered who was writing the reviews.

[Nikkilee12]

YeahN haha! At least you no they will be honest!

[Asker]

Their husbands also reviewed products, even though there really aren't much stuff for guys.

[Nikkilee12]

I didn’t no that! Haha brilliant x

[Asker]

It was a small shop that wasn't a part of a chain, I like supporting small businesses, so that might be why I liked the place.

[DonkeyDan]

Yes, I've been in to sex shops with previous girlfriends and on my own, don't really see it as a big deal.

Some of the chain sex shops over here employ quite a few women which can be interesting when they are assisting with questions on your purchase 😉

[Asker]

Be honest, Dan, did you read my entire post?

[DonkeyDan]

I did yes, I know your point was about being dominated into buying the toy and that turned you on, I've never had the issue where the girl I've been with was embarrassed about buying something though.

[Asker]

Dan, you're one of my faves on this site, but I still felt the need to ask if you read my post and got the gist. It was all about the mind fuck. It had nothing to do with getting a toy. If your women never got flustered by buying toys, then you need to ratchet it up. I'll be honest with you. I have zero clue about BDSM. I just don't. But when that 50 shades movie came out, it was wildly popular. So, Dan, I can only give you my theory. I think all women have a slut lurking inside, but they suppress it. I mean, it's not hard to do, because you have a notion of what's right and wrong, and you just play it safe. But playing it safe doesn't change the fact that women have slutty desires. Most men hate sluts. (especially on this site) But other guys do like that side of women, and have a way to bring it out. It's not easy, and it takes time. I think it's mostly about trust. Women are terrified about being judged. I know women who've never sucked their husband's dick. They want to, but they're afraid of being labeled a slut. That sounds crazy, but it's the truth.

[DonkeyDan]

Firstly thanks for saying I'm one of your favourites on here, I've no idea who you are though Ms anon but thanks anyway 😂 Yes I understand what you mean about the inner slut, and yes I agree that many men don't like it, I in the other hand love it. One of the reasons I like posh intellectual reserved types, get them in the bedroom and they are nothing like that, their inner animal comes out to play. I never believed that were women out there that didn't do blowjobs until years ago talking to my friend and he said his wife had never done it for him before, could understand why he married her then 🤣

[kinkynicci]

Yea a few times. Never ordered off the internet though

[Asker]

In my opinion, that's good. I totally understand the discreet position of buying online. But it's hard to put in words what it's like to have a dom that pushes your boundaries. I hated what he did to me, but I loved what he did to me. It was like being on a roller coaster ride.

[Dargil]

Only Amazon and Ebay.

[Asker]

That's like buying your trout at Costco! lol You need to get a rowboat.

[Dargil]

Neither sentence made any sense at all. Would you care to explain?

[Asker]

No, I don't like explaining what's blatantly obvious.

[Dargil]

As you wish. It was probably wasted sarcastic remarks.

[Fireguy17]

yes, that way my partner can look and see which one she will like.

[Asker]

Get them while you can, because retail stores are soon going to be gone.

[Fireguy17]

ya, and it can be haed, no pun intended, to really see what you are getting on a computer screen. The actual size and what it does.

[Asker]

I got me a postal mail box for just that reason. They really don't cost that much, and I just don't get how people have packages sitting outside their door. I'm just so used to shopping retail, that I had a hard time switching. But now I get the picture. Back during the mid covid time, I wanted a VR gaming system. I drove all over town, and ended up back at home and had Amazon deliver it in two days. What a waste of time. All the retail shelves were empty. So I'm all about buying via the Internet, but sometimes you would have more fun going shopping.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I'm not someone that likes to invest money is something I can get rid off within a few rubs, once I bust a nut, the guilt would kick in, masturbating with your hand is a classic and nothing wrong with it, personally I I need sex toys but to each is their own

[TheMajesticKing777]

I dont*

[n4meAL]

it turns out that my insight is not broad enough, I thought women don't like sex

[Asker]

Really? They love it.

[n4meAL]

it turns out after I read that the sex period of men and women is different. men reach their peak sex as teens (maybe 14-24) but women around 30(probably 25-35).

[Asker]

Those are peaks, and you are right.

[Drumlin2001]

Nope. Only online

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You are making me blush with that foul language young lady

[Asker]

Don't blame me, a fella on this site kind of challenged me to ask a question.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Asker Okay it's all cool young lady

[Asker]

We're all here to just pass the time away. We aren't solving the problems of the world, we're just getting through the boring day.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Asker It's all cool and awesome no problem I agree with you xD

[exitseven]

Great post. I hope that you got to keep the change.

[Asker]

I've read hundreds of your opinions. You seem like a good guy. Come over to similarwords. GAG is fucking dead. You can't deny that. I had a really good talk with a guy on this site, but that is rare. We talked about a cabin experience I had with a boyfriend and another couple. In my mind, I'm a slut. In real life, I'm afraid of being judged.

[exitseven]

I never heard of it.

[Asker]

Now you have. The only good part is the politics. The rest is mental diarrhea like GAG. I'm hungry. I'm tired. But the political part is bare knuckles. If you like scrapping, it's the place to be.

[RebeccaBI2000]

I have in a shop. Too hard to determine true size on line.

[Asker]

Why is that?

[RebeccaBI2000]

Just because it lists measurements on it. Nothing is like seeing the real thing for yourself to determine

[Asker]

Yeah I understand. This one was big, and I felt so embarrassed. He ended up getting a job across the country, and I supported him. I cried myself to sleep many times, but life goes on.

[TacosRAwesome]

No but I love visiting sex shops (trashier the better) with partner when I'm on holiday.

[Asker]

You put an evil thought in my head, but I'm not going to ask the question on this site. I might ask it on another site. lol

[clemdenim]

asker, ask it here

[Mechanisimus]

You'll be fine, as long as you didn't walk out of there with a rubber fence post.

[Caliguy88]

Yup. Several times. Best time was when I was out with my girlfriend, her roommate and her roommates boyfriend and we bought some. We went to our rooms…. Used them and came back out and drank for a few hours. Lol. A little weird, but hot.

[Asker]

Wow. Nice

[ND4SPD31]

Haha yes. But it’s been a while.

[Asker]

I'm surprised these stores still exist. I suppose it's just a matter of time before everything will just be shopped for online.

[ND4SPD31]

Well that’s true u have a point there. Lol.

[Asker]

Who would have ever thought that phone booths would vanish?

[ND4SPD31]

Haha yeah.