Have you ever cried during sex?

Question

What was the reason?

I cried before, but it was a good cry. The moment was very intimate and I felt so spiritually connected to my boyfriend that night. He felt the same way and cried too. It’s not something I’ve ever experienced before and it’s so hard to even explain. It was just this euphoric and transparent feeling. I’ll never forget it ❤️ (If anyone else has experienced this, let me know lol I’m sure you know exactly what I’m describing)

nightdrot · Accepted Answer

Oh yeah. Not sure why, but it has happened a few times. I just get overwhelmed by the feelings.

Normally my girlfriend and I tend to a raw and primal kind of sex. Not BDSM, but sort of like two animals breeding in a field. With licking and even some biting and scratching and I am the dominant alpha male and she is the submissive female.

Yet the funny part is that it gets very emotional. We are all that we are, naked and no pretenses. It is total giving and total and unconditional acceptance. I am mounting her and giving her the most elemental thing I have to give her - a part of me, my sperm, my seed. (We have three children whom we both dearly love to prove it.) She is receiving me openly and no defense and giving herself to me to be impregnated and bear my young.

It is weirdly primitive and animal and yet deeply loving and romantic and sometimes I get overwhelmed. Again, not often, but she will end up holding me as I cry in her arms and I just want to be held and loved and wanted. (Something similar happens when I nurse my gfd's breasts and she holds me and strokes my hair. It is weird, like I am a baby again.)

Anyhow, the first time it happened I can remember just crying into her arms and looking up and sniffling and saying, "Boy, you sure got a macho guy when you got me, didn't you?" She just smiled at me and kissed me and I snuggled her and cried.

Not my shining hour, to say no more. Though my girlfriend likes it. She said it makes her feel like she is caring for me - which makes me feel good, I admit.

Still, I feel a bit better after my girlfriend, who works in family law and policy and sees a lot of research data, found some data that made me feel like less of a whimp. Apparently 41% of men have had the experience of crying during or after sex at least once, with 4% experiencing it regularly.

Not sure if I am happier to be part of 41% and thus not that unusual or that I am NOT part of the 4%. Either way, here is the article - https://www.health.com/sex/post-coital-dysphoria

Bottom line, yes I have cried - and truthfully it is, for me at least, tears of joy and an intense feeling of connection, bonding and total love. Not macho, and glad it does not happen to me all the time, but I won't lie it is pretty amazing.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

------------YES god damn it... Yes I did.

I stubbed my toe on her child's transformer so bad that I will admit I had a few tears coming down my face.

I wanted to take that toy and snap it half. But I didn't... i was a gentlemen. Gentleman I say.

pinkiemint · Accepted Answer

i had a very similar experience to you. my first time ever, my boyfriend was just being so loving and gentle. i did start to cry because i was just so thankful and happy for him and i felt so connected to him in that moment (also ngl it hurt quite a bit but yeah), and he even stopped to make sure i was okay and i told him i was so then he kept on being so gentle and ahh he’s just amazing.

and lolol another time we were having sex and ended up accidentally doing anal so you already know i was crying a damn river cause it hurt so bAD

mixedforever29 · Accepted Answer

yes i have! and it was my first time also... i started to cry we the sex started to get really intimate and EMOTIONAL. he was on top ( missionary ) kissing all over me caressing me and in the heat of the moment i started to cry because it was so good and i was feeling everything in that very moment. it was something special and sacred

robske · Answer

I have, but it wasn't the spiritual or emotional aspect that got me She bit down while giving a bj

RedKitteh · Answer

I was abused and I tried to learn how to deal with this over the years. I managed to do it eventually, however I can't get rid of the crying part which appears very often and out of nowere. The point is that those bad memories don't pop-up because of sex, it's just an automatic mechanism, but I'm pretty lucky because both of my exes found crying being sexy. Maybe the fact that I'm a petite docile type-of-girl was also a plus and didn't made the whole whimpering part looking weird.

MrOracle · Answer

I once bounced myself off of the end of the bed and crashed down onto a table with my head and hit my shin on the bed frame. It's possible that there was a tear...

sagevalentineee · Answer

I wouldn't say 'during' sex but sometimes after very powerful orgasm or feeling very very intimate I cry a little bit. But for myself, crying doesn't mean I'm sad, it just means I'm experiencing very strong emotion and I feel overwhelmed. Feeling of love.

eviegurl · Answer

I've done a lot of things during before and after sex crying isn't one of them for me or my sexpartners so thankfull for that would be hella awkward

Curmudgeon · Answer

I have not. However, if that is why you cried, that is quite sweet.

Martinasita · Answer

When I first got to experience sex without the fears, I cried, then I married him.

fauchelevent · Answer

I've cried before, through intimacy and through pain.

mistixs · Answer

I've never engaged in sexual relations

Aminals · Answer

I've cried before. Sometimes it's out of spiritual enlightenment and others it's been because I had sex for the wrong reasons. Doesn't happen often though.

Sensmind · Answer

I think the experience is very much as you described it - A good emotional "Overload" - You are probably hitting a number of levels , being comfortable to cry in front of someone, to give yourself to an experience to hit that level, to trust someone enough to go there, to love someone enough to have these feelings - I would guess it would be hard to describe, it would be like say the eye contact straight after a deep passionate kiss , no words to fully capture it but still loaded with emotion and feeling. I am glad it happened to you, store it away as an exquisite memory and who knows it might happen again.

ChronicThinker · Answer

I've cried laughing when hella awkward shit has happened, but never like: *weep, weep, weep* "I love you so much and your cock is so goddamn beautiful!" Shit like that.

LiesLockeLamora · Answer

Virgin :P  :(

Secret6620 · Answer

Yes I have. My man is very well endowed and he did a stroke that was extremely deep and unexpected and the tears just came rushing down. My cervix was very bruised afterwards so lots of rest and ibuprofen 🥺🤦

SoWhAt249 · Answer

Nope. I've felt the feeling you speak of, but I haven't cried. Usually, if it's with a significant other, I big spoon my SO and put a big smile on my face.

wynn-ing · Answer

Can't have cried during sex if you've never had sex 🧠

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

It happened, a couple of times because she hurt me and another one because I was happy.

Account2 · Answer

Yes, twice, for different reasons. I think I cried the first time we had sex after my mom had died, but it wasn't sad crying. That would be difficult to explain. The other time was because I had a sort of episode during it, which wasn't good. That didn't end well. But besides those 2 I don't remember it happening during regular sex.