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  • Well, it was not accidental.

    Truth in advertising, I've been with my girlfriend for over a decade and we have three children. I have been heterosexual all my life. However, in our very early days, for reasons having mostly to do with me and which, for reasons of brevity I will not go into here, my girlfriend and I were a bit wild.

    One thing that my girlfriend used to enjoy - and still does - is gay porn. Something about watching guys together turned her on and so we would watch it periodically. Really nothing more than that, though, and I'll even admit that seeing her turned on would turn me on.

    So life went on and then - in a life imitates art moment - at a Christmas party with my gfd's office, a homosexual co-worker of my gfd's happen to mention to her that he thought I was cute. Very long story short, they came up with the idea of he and I having sex and she could watch to turn her on. His only stipulation is that sometimes he could be with me, just the two of us.

    A few drinks and they thought this a brilliant idea and approached me about it. At first my answer was no, flat out. However, after much backing and forthing - and a zillion details I'll skip here - I gave in and, for the next 8 months or so, give or take, I found myself in a homosexual relationship.

    It was not just in front of my girlfriend, but the guy and I would spend nights together and even two weeks one time when my girlfriend went out of town. (This was before my girlfriend and I lived together.) Funny part was that I enjoyed it - not in the same way or as much as I did, and do, being with women, but it was surprisingly pleasurable.

    In terms of the sex - and yes, I was both top and bottom - it took getting used to but the sensations were weirdly arousing. It was different and that was a turn-on in ways that I did not expect. In part, I took this as being since a man understands a man's anatomy, we sort of understood what works. Just a guess, but it was not unpleasant if not quite as satisfying - at least for me - as being with a woman.

    In terms of the emotional connection, I have to say that what I realized is that there are things that guys might share with another guy in a personal way that he might not even with a woman he loves. It wasn't love, per se, but there was an unexpected intimacy and empathy between us.

    The two weeks we spent together while my girlfriend was away was not a sex-fest. We had work and other things going on, but we did have sex, and we would wake up next to each other and hold each other and, in brutal honesty, a sort of bond developed.

    Still, it did not end well. For all that I still was not perfectly comfortable and we could see that he was getting more and more attached to me. What was going to be all about the kinky sexual thrills was clearly going further. So we ended it.

    He took it hard and my girlfriend felt bad and found herself trying to match make for a gay guy. Nothing worked, but eventually he found another job and moved on in any case and we lost touch.

    Frankly, I would never want to repeat the experience, but in brutal candor I did enjoy it - the sex very much included. That was, as I say, over a decade ago and my girlfriend moved in with me ten years ago and we are parents and we are not at all wild the way we were in our early days.

    Still, in a strange way, it was an experience I am glad I had. It was fun, it actually felt physically good, and I learned from it. Could be worse, I guess.

    • I appreciate your honesty but... I'd rather be alone than with a guy. Trauma from childhood maybe, but there's no way in hell for me.

    • @Andres77 Don't misunderstand. I would not recommend what I did to anyone. I am glad that I had the experience because it gave me insight into another aspect of my life and my character and human relationships. Also, frankly, to my surprise, the sex just felt good - way better than I expected. However, our sense of ourselves as men is very much tied up in part with our sexual needs and instincts. You don't play around with that and honestly if I had not been in a certain frame of mind at that time in my life, there is no way I would have tried it. As indeed now, even having enjoyed the experience to some extent, I would not do it again. Believe me, without even knowing about your reference to childhood trauma, I get where you are coming from.

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  • I'm not sure how you have an accidental gay experience.

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