I've done it more than a few times. Connected over the internet, talked then got together.
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D_Bone_SteakGuru
+1 y
What... you're not supposed to have sex on a first date? I thought the date was about accessing if we want to phuck or not...
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Sienna-RoseYoda
+1 y
No definitely not
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miiszmelExplorer
+1 y
No way. Even if I was strongly attracted to him and there was a connection, I would make him wait. I want him to respect me and not think of me as "cheap" Plus, if a guy waits patiently, that means he likes you for who you are.
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stifler1979
+1 y
Number of dates til a girl sleeps with me makes absolutely zero difference to how much I respect her.
gps181
+1 y
Will you wait till marriage?
doglover77
+1 y
I always thought this too. I recently had a one night stand with a guy I was head over heels in love with. We didn't speak for months until recently we started talking again to hangout. Turns out he was embarrassed about not lasting long lol. I think it's just a myth. I mean some guys think a female is a whore after sex on the first date but it's okay for them to do it? If you want it get on it! We need sex too and shouldn't be judged for it.
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miiszmel
+1 y
Most of the guys I've met said that if a girl puts out on first date, they would just hit it and quit it.
liTeWave
+1 y
So basically you are trying to control what I think about you? Interesting :) That sounds like an utterly useless enterprise ;) It's funny but not all guys think a girl who is sexual is cheap. There's all kinds of men out there. Personally, I don't need sex early, I usually don't want it either. But when I meet a girl who does not have sex not because that's what she wants, but because she's trying to control what I think about her, I think: this girl is controlling. Next!
miiszmel
+1 y
Each to their own opinions mate
liTeWave
+1 y
What I'm trying to tell you is that the guys who will quit if a girl puts out on the first date are losers. They are guys who are sexist, and who don't understand that women have the same right to a sexuality as men do. Sure, there are many guys like that, but they all have the same big emotional issue. If a guy judges you like that, the problem is him - he's sexist and judgmental - not you. And if a guy treats you like that, that's a great thing as one massive loser just auto eliminated himself from your life. My last girlfriend and I had such a strong connection that she wanted to sleep with me after 15 minutes. She wasn't the kind of girl who sleeps around, it was just there. I said no, not yet. After an hour, I was like I'm comfortable enough. It was amazing and we spent two and a half years together.
liTeWave
+1 y
What I'm trying to say is don't let losers slut shame you. Don't play be those idiots' rules. And don't try to prevent idiots from auto eliminating themselves from your life, it's a good thing!
liTeWave
+1 y
A good man will not fucking judge your sexuality!
ittybittyninjapandaXper 5
+1 y
I mean it technically wasn't a date but I did sleep with someone after just meeting them. It was more of a friend with benefits type of thing though.
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GeoBaeXper 3
+1 y
Usually sex on a first date sets the tone for the rest of the "relationship". For me, sex on the first date automatically denies any potential future with the girl and becomes a fuck buddy or one night stand, nothing more. When looking for a relationship sex is something to work towards, and sex on day 1 says a lot about her. If it was someone else, the she probably would have slept with him. And this is also something she probably does often which is a huge turn off when looking for a girlfriend (or more).
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GoodwifieGuru
+1 y
I did just the once, I didn't regret it but I didn't do it again.
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milantb1
+1 y
So gives us some advice what does a guy need to say to get action on the first date?
Goodwifie
+1 y
@milantb1 no way m8 you can work that out for yourself.
milantb1
+1 y
Thats gonna cost a lot of money for all those dinners. Cheaper to just buy a hooker. Hookers have been banged less times than todays women anyway
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Largh
+1 y
You shouldn't be banging hookers when you're not ready for highschool yet dude
milantb1
+1 y
I finished college already
who-disXper 4
+1 y
Gave him a bj. Regret it. I was drunk.
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gps181
+1 y
Why do you regret it?
who-dis
+1 y
The simple reason is that I could have caught something from him. I didn't, but I could have. He was a complete stranger. (It was also dumb to bring him back to my apartment at all. Again, he was a complete stranger. I met him online.) The bigger reason is more complicated, and I'm likely to be misinterpreted if I try to explain. I did it, but even as I did it, I didn't want to. It showed me that I had some real self esteem issues.
aaa9501
+1 y
Where did you meet him? When was this? Were you young?
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who-dis
+1 y
Not that young. It just wasn't the right decision for me.
seriousMaster
+1 y
The answer is a big NO. First of all I am asexual and I find "sex" as totally disgusting and second I have never been on a date.
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PrincessPieEditor
+1 y
Never have done that, and never would, i only sleep with people i'm in exclusive relationships with.
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dothejohnwall97
+1 y
Flowers for the ladies, and dick for the hoes
Unit1
+1 y
@dothejohnwall97 You got it, pal 😎
dothejohnwall97
+1 y
@Unit1 🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽🙏🏽
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layschips
+1 y
@dothejohnwall97 lol.. great answer buddy !
dothejohnwall97
+1 y
@layschips thanks bro
stifler1979
+1 y
Yeah, good luck with that disgusting attitude, guys.
dothejohnwall97
+1 y
@stifler1979 thanks pal
The_FallenOne
+1 y
Same
browneyes13Xper 6
+1 y
I have. We ended up dating for 2 years
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shan_shanXper 6
+1 y
I never had nor would i ever have sex on the first date and the reason is that i take sex seriously i would never do it with anyone whom i don't or who doesn't love me back
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Claire61Xper 5
+1 y
Never and never will. Not my cup of tea. I don't want to give someone the impression of me being very easy to get. It's emotionally not healthy too.
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lovebug093Xper 5
+1 y
Yes I have, but it was with the guy I'm currently in a relationship with. We have known each other for like 8 years so we were pretty familiar with each other, we just took it to the next level on our first date.
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10dswYoda
+1 y
About 10-15% of my dates have led to sex on day 1. And about 80% of those dates came off Tinder
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PaminaGuru
+1 y
Has happened before, yes.
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Blonde401Guru
+1 y
Usually cause of chemistry or that I knew them prior to going on a date.
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SimiSomi
+1 y
Nice
COCOCHANEL
+1 y
so you are saying it's happened more than once and no one is downvoting you but i got 8 downvotes? peculiar.
Blonde401
+1 y
@COCOCHANEL I’ll get downvotes soon. I literally get them on every comment no matter what I say. And yeah more than once because I’ve dated friends.
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Blonde401
+1 y
@COCOCHANEL though not sure why you’re bothered about my downvotes?
COCOCHANEL
+1 y
i'm commenting because of the similarity of our answers. i doubt you will get downvotes.
Blonde401
+1 y
@COCOCHANEL nah I always get downvotes. Usually quite a few from my obsessive fan club. My answer must have slipped through the cracks.
passinbyYoda
+1 y
most of the time actually
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NovaByteXper 3
+1 y
Everyone I've been with from the age of 24 onwards have put out on the first date... despite saying they wouldn't. Think 99% of women are closet sluts.
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ghostqueenInfluencer
+1 y
I never have and never will.
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liTeWave
+1 y
Why?
ghostqueen
+1 y
@liTeWave It doesn't interest me.
liTeWave
+1 y
Care to explain why? (To be honest I feel the same way, just trying to understand how you think about this :) )
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ghostqueen
+1 y
@liTeWave Because you barely know someone on the first day and I don't want to fuck a stranger.
liTeWave
+1 y
I hear you. Are you unable to feel lust for a stranger, purely on a physical level? Or do you feel it but something else holds you back? Genuinely interested haha :)
Darknut123
+1 y
Yeah right
liTeWave
+1 y
Yeah right what, darknight?
Darknut123
+1 y
@liTeWave she never have and never will lol... whats that old saying never say never
ghostqueen
+1 y
@Darknut123 Live your life how you want to and I'll do the same.
ghostqueen
+1 y
@liTeWave I'm pretty sure everyone's capable of feeling lust for strangers. A stranger is a stranger, you have no clue if they're worth being with just by one date. What if something goes wrong and I get pregnant? That's not a situation I wanna be in with a stranger. Condom or not what if he has something? Strangers lie all the time. What if we don't actually have chemistry and the sex is terrible? Sounds like a waste of time to me. I could allow myself to be in all those situations but choose not to. Being with someone I know well sounds much better to me.
Darknut123
+1 y
Inpossible.. somebody is always cockblocking me or there's some kinda distrust every time
liTeWave
+1 y
Thank you ghost :) I appreciate your answer, and the opportunity to understand your views which of course are entirety legitimate :)
ghostqueen
+1 y
@liTeWave You're welcome.
liTeWave
+1 y
My reasons are a bit different. I'm not really as worried about pregnancy or STDs (I trust protection more I guess), but then I feel very little lust for strangers for whatever reason - I'm a bit sapiosexual, plus despite appearing very confident and friendly and outgoing and extraverted to people, I actually have a little bit of hidden social anxiety so it takes me a little time to feel comfortable enough with someone. I've had situations where that was not there, but then we're talking about the connection being so strong it never would be a one nighter. I also don't want to feel used.
liTeWave
+1 y
Oh, plus to be really honest, there's so much better quality sex in this world hanging on every tree that low quality stuff with someone I don't feel comfortable and safe with and who I can't be myself with seems dumb :P Why would you choose a $10 dollar bill if someone's offering $100 instead right over there?
What Girls & Guys Said
71 125I've done it more than a few times. Connected over the internet, talked then got together.
What... you're not supposed to have sex on a first date? I thought the date was about accessing if we want to phuck or not...
No definitely not
No way.
Even if I was strongly attracted to him and there was a connection, I would make him wait.
I want him to respect me and not think of me as "cheap"
Plus, if a guy waits patiently, that means he likes you for who you are.
Number of dates til a girl sleeps with me makes absolutely zero difference to how much I respect her.
Will you wait till marriage?
I always thought this too. I recently had a one night stand with a guy I was head over heels in love with. We didn't speak for months until recently we started talking again to hangout. Turns out he was embarrassed about not lasting long lol. I think it's just a myth. I mean some guys think a female is a whore after sex on the first date but it's okay for them to do it? If you want it get on it! We need sex too and shouldn't be judged for it.
Most of the guys I've met said that if a girl puts out on first date, they would just hit it and quit it.
So basically you are trying to control what I think about you? Interesting :) That sounds like an utterly useless enterprise ;) It's funny but not all guys think a girl who is sexual is cheap. There's all kinds of men out there. Personally, I don't need sex early, I usually don't want it either. But when I meet a girl who does not have sex not because that's what she wants, but because she's trying to control what I think about her, I think: this girl is controlling. Next!
Each to their own opinions mate
What I'm trying to tell you is that the guys who will quit if a girl puts out on the first date are losers. They are guys who are sexist, and who don't understand that women have the same right to a sexuality as men do. Sure, there are many guys like that, but they all have the same big emotional issue. If a guy judges you like that, the problem is him - he's sexist and judgmental - not you. And if a guy treats you like that, that's a great thing as one massive loser just auto eliminated himself from your life. My last girlfriend and I had such a strong connection that she wanted to sleep with me after 15 minutes. She wasn't the kind of girl who sleeps around, it was just there. I said no, not yet. After an hour, I was like I'm comfortable enough. It was amazing and we spent two and a half years together.
What I'm trying to say is don't let losers slut shame you. Don't play be those idiots' rules. And don't try to prevent idiots from auto eliminating themselves from your life, it's a good thing!
A good man will not fucking judge your sexuality!
I mean it technically wasn't a date but I did sleep with someone after just meeting them. It was more of a friend with benefits type of thing though.
Usually sex on a first date sets the tone for the rest of the "relationship". For me, sex on the first date automatically denies any potential future with the girl and becomes a fuck buddy or one night stand, nothing more. When looking for a relationship sex is something to work towards, and sex on day 1 says a lot about her. If it was someone else, the she probably would have slept with him. And this is also something she probably does often which is a huge turn off when looking for a girlfriend (or more).
I did just the once, I didn't regret it but I didn't do it again.
So gives us some advice what does a guy need to say to get action on the first date?
@milantb1 no way m8 you can work that out for yourself.
Thats gonna cost a lot of money for all those dinners. Cheaper to just buy a hooker. Hookers have been banged less times than todays women anyway
You shouldn't be banging hookers when you're not ready for highschool yet dude
I finished college already
Gave him a bj. Regret it. I was drunk.
Why do you regret it?
The simple reason is that I could have caught something from him. I didn't, but I could have. He was a complete stranger. (It was also dumb to bring him back to my apartment at all. Again, he was a complete stranger. I met him online.) The bigger reason is more complicated, and I'm likely to be misinterpreted if I try to explain. I did it, but even as I did it, I didn't want to. It showed me that I had some real self esteem issues.
Where did you meet him? When was this? Were you young?
Not that young. It just wasn't the right decision for me.
The answer is a big NO. First of all I am asexual and I find "sex" as totally disgusting and second I have never been on a date.
Never have done that, and never would, i only sleep with people i'm in exclusive relationships with.
Flowers for the ladies, and dick for the hoes
@dothejohnwall97 You got it, pal 😎
@Unit1 🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽🙏🏽
@dothejohnwall97 lol.. great answer buddy !
@layschips thanks bro
Yeah, good luck with that disgusting attitude, guys.
@stifler1979 thanks pal
Same
I have. We ended up dating for 2 years
I never had nor would i ever have sex on the first date and the reason is that i take sex seriously i would never do it with anyone whom i don't or who doesn't love me back
Never and never will. Not my cup of tea. I don't want to give someone the impression of me being very easy to get. It's emotionally not healthy too.
Yes I have, but it was with the guy I'm currently in a relationship with. We have known each other for like 8 years so we were pretty familiar with each other, we just took it to the next level on our first date.
About 10-15% of my dates have led to sex on day 1. And about 80% of those dates came off Tinder
Has happened before, yes.
Usually cause of chemistry or that I knew them prior to going on a date.
Nice
so you are saying it's happened more than once and no one is downvoting you but i got 8 downvotes? peculiar.
@COCOCHANEL I’ll get downvotes soon. I literally get them on every comment no matter what I say. And yeah more than once because I’ve dated friends.
@COCOCHANEL though not sure why you’re bothered about my downvotes?
i'm commenting because of the similarity of our answers. i doubt you will get downvotes.
@COCOCHANEL nah I always get downvotes. Usually quite a few from my obsessive fan club. My answer must have slipped through the cracks.
most of the time actually
Everyone I've been with from the age of 24 onwards have put out on the first date... despite saying they wouldn't.
Think 99% of women are closet sluts.
I never have and never will.
Why?
@liTeWave It doesn't interest me.
Care to explain why? (To be honest I feel the same way, just trying to understand how you think about this :) )
@liTeWave Because you barely know someone on the first day and I don't want to fuck a stranger.
I hear you. Are you unable to feel lust for a stranger, purely on a physical level? Or do you feel it but something else holds you back? Genuinely interested haha :)
Yeah right
Yeah right what, darknight?
@liTeWave she never have and never will lol... whats that old saying never say never
@Darknut123 Live your life how you want to and I'll do the same.
@liTeWave I'm pretty sure everyone's capable of feeling lust for strangers. A stranger is a stranger, you have no clue if they're worth being with just by one date. What if something goes wrong and I get pregnant? That's not a situation I wanna be in with a stranger. Condom or not what if he has something? Strangers lie all the time. What if we don't actually have chemistry and the sex is terrible? Sounds like a waste of time to me. I could allow myself to be in all those situations but choose not to. Being with someone I know well sounds much better to me.
Inpossible.. somebody is always cockblocking me or there's some kinda distrust every time
Thank you ghost :) I appreciate your answer, and the opportunity to understand your views which of course are entirety legitimate :)
@liTeWave You're welcome.
My reasons are a bit different. I'm not really as worried about pregnancy or STDs (I trust protection more I guess), but then I feel very little lust for strangers for whatever reason - I'm a bit sapiosexual, plus despite appearing very confident and friendly and outgoing and extraverted to people, I actually have a little bit of hidden social anxiety so it takes me a little time to feel comfortable enough with someone. I've had situations where that was not there, but then we're talking about the connection being so strong it never would be a one nighter. I also don't want to feel used.
Oh, plus to be really honest, there's so much better quality sex in this world hanging on every tree that low quality stuff with someone I don't feel comfortable and safe with and who I can't be myself with seems dumb :P Why would you choose a $10 dollar bill if someone's offering $100 instead right over there?