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Have you ever participated in a threesome?

Were you the guest star, did a couple approach you to join them?
Did you have a threesome with your significant other, how did you go about discussing it and opening the door for it to happen? Where did you find the third?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Unfortunately, I haven't. I would love to try it though and have been fantasizing about it for years. I'm kinky like that ;-).

    I've asked my wife many times whether she would be interested in taking on another person into our lovemaking. In the beginning, I always asked her about another guy. I have a pretty strong cuckold fetish and would have loved to watch her with another man. It's probably the strongest sexual fantasy I've ever had. For several years I've tried to get her into this idea but to no avail. Eventually I gave up on the fantasy, which was very hard for me. Knowing that I would never be able to try this in my life kinda sucks. So after that, I began asking her for regular threesomes. No power-dynamics involved like in cuckolding, just a regular, "vanilla" threesome. I even had the perfect candidate for this project: my best friend. He is good looking, very kind and considerate, very easy-going and open-minded in sexual matters. He's just a really great person. Plus, him and I know almost everything about each other, including sexual preferences and relationship dynamics etc.. My wife likes my friend very much... in fact, she sometimes even texts with him. So I thought this might be a match made in heaven. But when I brought up to her, she once again rejected my idea. Apparently, my friend is not "her type" in terms of looks.

    After that, I said to her: "well okay, how about you choose the third person?" I also suggested having a threesome with a girl instead of a guy. But she just keeps saying no to everything. I'm now at a point where I'm quite frustrated/disappointed about the whole thing. My wife's two standard explanations are: "I can't have sex with a person I'm not deeply in love with" and "there's no handsome guys besides you". I'm flattered by her attraction towards me but I also think it's a bit too much. I'm not even that special. Yes, I have a very handsome face but I'm also kinda chubby.

    One time my wife said to be: "if you want to have sex with another girl, it's no problem. Just do it. I don't mind." But I don't want to have 1-on-1 sex with some other girl. I want to have sex with my wife AND another girl or guy. It's a completely different thing. I want this to be a common experience that we make together, as a couple. I've tried to explain this to her but she just says "I'm not into other people".
    I really hope her attitude about this will change one day but somehow, I doubt it.

  • Yes! More than once. Both FFM and MMF. The men were straight, the women bi (if two). Also couple swap, same room, same bed (if on the bed). I did the full swap first. Best experience of my life. Twice, early in my marriage. Now divorced. Twenty years later. With a friends with benefits and we do swaps. I was the extra man in a threesome before. A couple wanted the husband to watch as I fucked her. He joined in after I went at it a while. Two cocks in her mouth at the same time. She loved it. We all did. On of my FWB's wanted to eat pussy she was we had an FFM. It was great, I'm fucking one and eating the others ass at the same time, WOW! Watching one eat the others pussy is incredibly hot! Gets me hard just thinking about it! It's great having one ride my cock as the other rides my face. How did I find? First full swap were neighbours in the apartment building we lived in. Then I met my FWB's on AFF and craigslist and fetlife. com. I credit fetlife. com the most. Lots of couples want a guy or girl to join them. Too many fags on Craigslist. AFF is not free. But fetlife. com is free and much more useful. You do a search on your city name and join the groups in the city, then private message the group members. You'll get a lot of people ignoring you or saying no thank you but someone will inevitably say "hey! Yeah, come on, let's meet"

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yes the first time my ex pushed me into it and it was awkward and exciting in the moment, but left me feeling insecure, so I didn't like it, fast forward 2 decades and my husband and I married 10 years and he's always been straight laced when it comes to sex, he was very vanilla in the beginning. I slowly brought him over to the kink side lol, but we had never discussed a threesome. One night out with the girls, my friend was looking to get laid and all the guys were not up to par. She said I don't care I just want sex, so I said if you want it that bad I'll share mine, and she said OK. I messaged my man and he was shocked but all for it of course. It was so how I had multiple orgasms with no one touching me. I was so over stimulated by the sensuality between the 3 of us that when I saw him touch her I gushed. We were all amazed. We are still great friends, I have a marriage that us stringer and deeper than it has ever been and I feel more confident and sexy all because it was done with someone who loves me.

    • That's fuckin' awesome!

    • "Brought him over to the kink side" omg I love that. 😂 I'm glad to hear it worked out so well. Was it acone and done thing or have you all messed around since then?

    • That's wonderful. It is amazing when it works out that way. Good for you!

  • No. I think the way men go about this is the opposite of the reality when it would most likely happen. I can see two bi-curious girls getting a little rowdy and picking some random dude to try new things out with. But when guys are fantasizing about a three some and are trying to get a girl they are romantically involved with to add in a third most women are like "hell to the no". Same way most guys don't wanna see any other dude doing their chick.

  • Not me BUT
    my HS friend would spend the night over at her GFs cottage behind parents house when her BFs would call on her during the sleepover.
    Once her boyfriend gave her sex in the dark while the other gal masturbated quietly in adjacent bed 90d to head.
    Another guy came over and all three were found on the floor wrestling, so...

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  • I've had many threesome all fmf. It takes trust, honesty and laying down ground rules to avoid jealousy. Sometimes it was random women we picked up while others were trusted friends that we shared from time to time.
    My ex fiance was was extremely bisexual and loved to pick up women so there was no issue.
    Current girlfriend and I are talking about the possibility. She brought it up just today. Feeling very lucky.
    It certainly is not for everyone and it takes the right attitude and mindset.
    I recently considered an mfm though I am straight. It is only fair as she is so open and wonderful.

  • Yes I have done ffm and mfm with my boyfriend. We were talking fantasies one night and we each liked the idea. We find the 3rd person on vacation.

  • Nope, and I'm not sure if I would. I'd be open to an FFM, but not sure about an FMM. If my woman was bi, I'd be open to the FFM just because I know she is also attracted to women and that would give her some outlet to her sexual desires. As long as there was loyalty and it included me, I'd be okay with it. FMM on the other hand, not sure how I'd feel about my woman being penetrated by another man. Maybe after we have been in a relationship for a while and we wanted to spice things up.

    • I wouldn't push for it though. It would have to be something she would want and it would depend on our level of trust and compatibility.

  • In a house (duples) when I was in c=school there were about 6 guys and 4 girls, One of them I was friendly but had never been sexual with. She had a very cute friend whoi was what then was called a stewardess and you only got the job if you were an attractive woman. This friend and I had the longest dance where we both wanted each other but hadn't my reason was it kept me kind of mildly to moderatley thrilled just having that sense of inevitablility. A bottle to many of wine dropped the inhibitions and we were all playing touchy games in semi-undress. Gon't even remember what the tippping point was but yes, Never had one schedules, just spontaneous

  • Yes, it was with two girls I met at a video store Around for my apartment

  • I haven't and don't think I ever would, but if I had to choose, I think I would be the guest in a ffm or fmf.

  • Have you done it threesome?

  • Yuck. Never

  • No... and never want to.

  • Closest to that was having sex in dark while roommate in next bed listening

  • Never and if anyone out there wants to kill anything they had and considered special with their significant other, go and participate in a threesome. One stupid night vs. Lifetime mate. Easy choice for me...

  • Me and my girlfriend have been having threesomes like twice a week at this point. FFM.. I scope them out on tinder. Just sort of fell in place when she noticed the amount of sexual attention I get. The fact that she has an extremely high sex drive and is also bisexual helped as well lol.

    • Twice a week? Damn that's insane. I may have to pick your brain on this at some point.

    • Ahaha sure

  • No. I think is wrong.

  • I have a threesome pretty much every night, me and both my hands.

    • Lol!

  • I am sexually not Really experienced. So i would rather want to learn to be a hard pro sexually with my (nonexistent) girl - further questions will be discussed in the future for me - although i worry to live out such fantasy

  • I have done once...

  • Nope, my friend dated this girl who wanted to have a threesome with me and him and I declined. It’d be awkward being in a threesome with another dude, let alone one of my best friends.

  • I've been both guest and host, as it were. As a guest, it's always by invitation. As host, it was at the request of my partner. I enjoy sex for its own sake. Who and how many aren't as important to me as the act of pleasuring and being pleasured. But I understand that others give it a lot more significance, so I defer.

  • yes i have. My ex-wife asked me once if i ever had a threesome in which I replied I never did, so for my birthday she convinced her best friend to join in. She told me that she will choose who will partake and gave me only one rule, no kissing on the lips of the other girl.

    • Both Lips?

    • @philipph no just the mouth

  • I haven't participated in a twosome

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