Have you ever told a partner about your sexual fantasies?

I have asked a few partners about sexual fantasies and they insisted that they did not have any. I suspected that they were just bashful and didn't want to say them out loud.

Have you ever had a partner ask about your sexual fantasies? Have you ever told your partner about your fantasies without them asking? How did that work out for you?
I don't have sexual fantasies. . . really!
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I have sexual fantasies but I'll never tell anyone else because they are too perverted or kinky,!
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I have sexual fantasies but I'll never tell anyone else because I would be too embarrassed!
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I have sexual fantasies that I've described to a partner without them needing to ask. It didn't cause any problems.
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I have sexual fantasies that I've described to a partner without them needing to ask. Then they thought I was a weirdo
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I have sexual fantasies that I've described to a partner after they asked. It didn't cause any problems.
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I have sexual fantasies that I've described to a partner after they asked. Then they thought I was a weirdo.
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Telling fantasies doesn't always work out very well. I told one partner that I fantasized about her shaving all of her pubic hair and she asked why I wanted her to look like a little girl!
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  • I've talked about sexual fantasies with partners before. It was just playful, not like I had an obsession or an overwhelming need to fulfill them. It was mostly benign stuff like binding their wrists, securing their arms to the headboard, having them dress up, and spanking their butt. I don't have any BDSM fantasies beyond that. I don't have a foot fetish. I don't have a desire to fuck them in the ass or to cum on their faces.
    I HAVE fucked women in front of mirrors. I had the most amazing time fucking a woman from behind while a vibrating dildo was up her ass. I fucked her in the ass once, just to see what it was like. But that's not really my thing. I like it when women dress in costumes. And I do like swatting their soft, round, plump, jiggly bottoms. I love titties, but don't consider that a fetish.

  • Most women I have known do not openly share sexual fantasies, because 1) they were mocked and teased when they did, or 2) they think theirs are so strange that a guy would be afraid of them!!
    I don't want to laugh, but most don't really know, and have read things, or watched some serious porn, and they imagine their own things, and have fantasies!! After you get over the fear of sharing, and they realize that they are SOOOOO NORMAL, and so COMMON, some kind of laugh, at themselves for being so afraid!
    I have been with a few, over the years, and when we get past her fear, and she realizes she isn't the 'freak' she is terrified that she is, it is actually a lot of fun, playing out her fantasies!!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yes because openness and honesty is how good compatible sex happens.
    How can you be so intimate with someone but be too afraid or uncomfortable to be open or honest to communicate with them. Kind of an oxymoron if you ask me 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • Yes, but a common occurrence!

    • Very sad but very true

  • I have no problem with asking about the desires of someone I'm interested to. I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, I have a list of fantasies and it's a conversation we better have early in the relationship

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  • Yeah, but none of them have fit the fantasy so never tried it with them. I will say, if I end up with a partner like I fantasize about, I won’t tell him about it until after the fantasy happens.

    • Seems like a specific fantasy.

    • @ecfresh very specific

    • You probably don't want to tell everyone what your fantasy is, so you can just whisper it to me! 😃😃😃

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  • We've revealed erotic fantasies to each other whether asked or not. "Fantasies fuel us."

  • I told my wife about my fantasies when she asked. She listened respectfully. I did likewise to her. We tried one. The rest we agreed should remain fantasies.

  • Worked out well, she was down to try them.

  • I did a few times and I regret it. I feel like I spoiled a movie or something 😂 which sucks because they were actually my original fantasies (I made them up) and original ideas don't come so easily.

  • No, my fantasy will remain just that.

  • Told her a bit about it. Will see over time if i can tell her more.

  • Well, somewhere between D & E.
    She went through with it, but wasn't all too thrilled.

    • Did you try to make one of her fantasies come true?

    • she never has any.

    • That's not as much fun!

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  • I'm not afraid to tell a beautiful woman, that i love it when women wear dark pantyhose and heels 😍😍😍😍😍
    👩👙👠👠

  • I've explained my sexual fantasies to her. It didn't cause any problems but she didn't take the hint that I might want to try them out either.
    Doesn't matter though because I've done them with other women anyway.

  • I’ve had several but never told them because of embarrassment and they probably wouldn’t like it or let me

  • Yeah! I've been spanked, slapped, tickled, walked on a collar and leash in public, etc.

  • Caused no problems

  • Single as a mother f'n pringle

    But even if I wasn't, I would not

    It's a fantasy, meant to stay private, that's what makes it, a fantasy. They're not meant to be played out. Unless of course you are constantly coming up with new fantasies