Have you experienced racial fetishism? What was it like?

When i first started college, people in anonymous spaces would ask me weird questions about my body. I like people who like me for me. Its made me a little suspicious of interracial dating (I'm not against it, but I feel the need to ask if its a fetish).
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  • Yes, I have. It was the first year of college, and it was online because of covid. There was a local groupchat for our college and some courses.


    This one kid who was black and Vietnamese (I think), took a liking to me. I’m mixed, but I obviously look white and I have curly hair. I “stood out to him” apparently. So, he messaged me privately and started talking to me. He was in one of my courses, so I thought it would be nice to have someone to get to know and guide me in my very first course in college.


    Anyways, I mentally blocked this out but I’m remembering it now lol. He wanted to get to know me personally, I was fine with that. He was nice. However, 2 weeks in, he started asking very weird sexual questions and it all revolves around interracial sex and weird fetishes such as making ME (a white person) into slaves. Yeah, it was weird, to say the very least.


    After he said that, I was a bit shocked and confused but just laughed it off because he made it sound like a joke. After I realized he was dead serious, I immediately blocked him and I just ignored him all throughout the course semester. I have never EVER been so uncomfortable in my life.

    • Im sorry that you had to go through that. I had the luxury of only experiencing this in online spaces. People seem a lot more timid in person, but I'm like male dark skinned and 5'10" so that likely helps. I always wondered if its because people are sheltered or sexually repressed that convinces them to dehumanize others in such a way.

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  • Yes. I am Indian but I don’t look like one and I admit it. I have had some men (from the west) who mistaken me as Asians (Thai, Indonesian, Filipino type) saying some weird things like me having tighter vagina, obedient, and submissive.

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  • I’ve been accused of it, but unjustly. When I first started college I fell hard for a fellow student who immigrated here from Ghana. She was genuinely happy, in a way that Americans just can’t seem to manage. I liked her smile and her energy, respected her intelligence (she’s probably a doctor by now, that’s what program she was in and this was in the mid 2000’s) and she was bubbly and fun and enthusiastic about everything she did in life. I didn’t deserve HER, but to people outside our immediate friend groups who knew nothing about either of us we were each other’s tokens. I remember one time when I was walking with her to a restaurant, a car full of fraternity jerks threw eggs at us as they sped by. It was humiliating and degrading, and provided a small glimpse into the lived experience of other people that I’d never been exposed to before as a sheltered 18 year old. We had a long chat about that which only made us determined to be seen out and about more.

    • I'm so sorry that thats happened to you both. People can be absolutely garbage, and absolutely beautiful. I know the fetish talk can be really sticky but no one should humiliate you for living.

  • There was this one girl who left me letters at my desk written in Spanish (she's white, I'm mexican) that translated "you're so cute <3." I'll admit but someone tryna talk to me in Spanish is one way to get my attention lol. I also remember one time she sat next to me at the lunch table and gave me some carne asada and horchata that SHE made herself. It was actually good and I had to date her which we did. My first and only experience of racial fetish (if it even is in my case) was positive but reading the comments down here sounds like some people were a little too obsessed 😂

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  • Personally no, luckily

  • No, I haven't.

    • Thats a good thing i think. Its pretty awkward having people ask if you can fulfill their fantasies. I've even had men ask despite letting them know I was strictly heterosexual

    • Wow, seems very rude of them :(

  • I don’t believe I ever have.

  • Yes i have

    • Care to share? You don't have to, i know its demeaning and dehumanizing

  • Nope never

  • I once had a boyfriend of a different race. I didn’t really pick up on it at first until we started having sex. His dirty talk was always racial in nature and it became obvious he had a fetish. I tried to accept it but then I couldn’t help but wonder if he was really into me or if I was just an object to satisfy a fantasy. I become more and more uncomfortable and eventually left.

  • No but there is a racemixing agenda being propagated by the elites so that's probably why. Racial fetishism didn't exist 20 years ago.

    • Thats not true. Raceplay and racial fetishes are old. They tend to be a result of the taboos which are traditionally started by the elite (racism being the result of myths created by southern elite here in the usa). People like breaking rules especially in sexual arenas. I think its weird but people have always been weird.

    • Consider that my father is in his 60s and has lived through fetishism himself

    • Well I've certainly never seen it where I live until recently. I have not seen it online until recently either and I've been on the internet since it started. When the internet first went online, there was child pornography readily available because it was still unregulated. But strangely, no race fetishization.