Have you had Friends with benefits? Did you enjoy it?

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Could you share your experience?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

That’s the only relationship I will be in nowadays , unless I meet a girl that just blows me away and we have a lot in common then that might be a different story lol but finding that is a very slim chance these days , so the only difference with the FWB’s I get into , is there is some strings attached , meaning her and I are on the same page with things , We don’t go and screw other people , if we do , then we end the benefits part with each other and just remain friends , Sadly Most people don’t want commitment these days , mainly cuz of all the shit they see and read about on social media , fucking everyone’s heads up that everyone is a cheater and everyone back stabs you blah blah blah , or they just got out of a serious relationship and they aren’t ready to be in another commitment right away , So FWB’s is great because it gives the both of you time to really get to know each other and have amazing sex together without taking the big step into commitment right away , it’s better to take things slow with someone instead of rushing into a committed relationship, mainly because when 2 people meet they are just infatuated with each other , without really knowing each other the connection is amazing but to really know you have great chemistry with someone takes time, it might seem like you both have great chemistry in the beginning but as time goes on that’s how you really know if someone is in it for the long haul or the short haul, But my advice is do not take too long to decide what you really want or you can lose your FWB’s before you know it cuz usually one starts loving the other more , I made that mistake before with one girl that I was FWB’s with that I still kick myself in the ass for cuz I was blind a selfish at the time she was hinting to me that she just wanted me and I was in my own world just having fun and mingling with other girls’ not realizing I already had a great girl by my side , she ended up meeting someone else and I was devastated , so I will be in a FWB’s with a girl for a reasonable time , with the intentions of making it official if her and I have amazing chemistry and connection together

Googlemyahoo · Accepted Answer

I dated a girl who was in grade 9 I was in 11. We broke up eventually but it wasn’t a bad one and we still talked. One day she invited me over to see her new hedgehog pet. It was a pretty stupid pet imho did absolutely nothing and lunged at your hand with its spikes.

Anyways while sitting looking at the dumb hedgehog she asked “wanna fuck?” Ok !

So at school or wherever to hookup she’d always say “wanna come see the hedgehog?” It continued for years lol even while we dated others.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

I've had two.

The first one was intense. At least for me it was intense. He was my first. I liked him a lot and he didn't. The sex was okay though. Things ended when he moved away because he was my neighbor at the ttime. I was just 21 then.

The second one was with a long time friend. We had known each other since college and he had always wanted to be with me. I was so hung up over the first guy I mentioned above that I didn't give him a chance. It wasn't until recently, 2022, when we decided to be friends with benefits. The sex was way better than with the first guy and I guess it's because I was with someone who cared about me and I him. Needless to say we are together now in 2023.

Kha0tiic_xo · Accepted Answer

Yes I did, quite some time ago when I was a bit younger, and for me it was great, no questions asked, no bullshit, set dates and time to meet and it was wild and definitely an experience, but, and yes there is a but, at one point or another, the more time you spend together one of you is bound to catch feelings for the other one, it almost always happens, will not similar always but quite a bit! So you have to ask yourself what if that happens how would you react? What would you do?

Have fun but just be careful! Good Luck!

rachel776 · Answer

i usually have that but i have a boyfriend rn

BradBoy · Answer

Well, I never used that label but in my younger days, yeah, I had some sex-only relationships with some men.

Angel_ica · Answer

Yes I often have man I can call if I need sex they all are good

AviatorTom · Answer

After my divorce, I met a woman and we met a few tines a week for sex, nothing more. After 2 months of this, she tells me she wants more than sex, and it ends. It was fun while it lasted.

oldguystillhasit · Answer

My experience was good. I was 20 and we went to high school together, but, didn't hook up until after. We would try different techniques and kinks on and to each other to basically hone our sex skills.

megabamse · Answer

I have in the past. It must be open And honest. Both parts must know from the start that it is just that. And be friendly and nice with each other never the less.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I've never had a friends with benefits

shades777 · Answer

yes but ahe got too attached and ruined it by oversharing, its a delicate balance of just having fun and not getting to attached which ain't easy, because if you talk to much then they start wanting dates and to be treated like a girlfriend

In_Trance · Answer

yes also yes

OddBeMe · Answer

Dated only friends but it was official.

QuietRunner · Answer

yes it has been quite fun

jjj101010 · Answer

I had one for about 5 months, it was great, sex was good, she was very keen to please, we hung out occasionally too, she started to get feelings, she got jealous when I spoke to other girls in a flirty way. It ended as we both moved away around the same time.

yourloveistoxic · Answer

One of my friends with benefits situation was intense, drama filled, chaotic and caused a lot of pain emotionally. I caught feelings for him and he was everything I wanted in a man but things just didn't work out.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. It was a period of my life when I just didn’t want to deal with a relationship but still wanted someone to hang out with occasionally, listen to my problems and have sex. He was everything I needed him to be at the time. Eventually I caught feelings and today we’re a couple. He claims he knew all along that we’d end up together but had to be patient with me. So yeah, it was a good experience for me all around.