Having sex when someone else is in the same room?

My boyfriend and I are going together with one of his friends on a journey. We will be walking for a week and on our way there aren’t many hotels because it’s in the countryside and many hotels had only one room so the three of us will be in the same room most nights. Do you think is disrespectful to have sex when his friend is in the same room? Do you think he could hear us?
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  • Frankly, I am surprised by the number of people who say that it is disrespectful. Without being sure of the particulars, he may be a bit surprised, but how it is disrespectful is beyond me.

    First, he has to know what men and women do with one another physically. You both have natural instincts and he presumably has them too.

    Objecting to that would be a little like saying that a hurricane is disrespectful to you. It is natural and indifferent to intent or motive,

    As I say, he may be surprised. That is understandable. Not all couples are that open about having sex in the presence of others. My girlfriend and I - in our early days - were pretty much indifferent and "been there, done that."

    We felt that what we were doing was natural and beautiful and nothing that anyone would object to. Even now, we would not object, it is just that we travel with our children now and that makes it less likely that we would be traveling with others.

    Also, I've been on the other side of that - sharing a room with a couple who was having sex. Honestly, it was something of a turn-on and I hardly thought it was disrespectful.

    That all said, as the replies here suggest, everyone will be a bit different. So, rather than put your friend in an uncomfortable position, be honest. Ask him if he would object or feel uncomfortable and make it clear that you are good either way - even if you would rather that he would allow it.

    (In that connection - of course he will hear you. Don't think that you can have sex by stealth, or that if you try that it will be enjoyable.)

    Then be bound by his answer. Yup. It'll be frustrating if he would feel uncomfortable but you'll get over it. It is not like you will be sharing a room with him every day of the trip.

    Have a great trip - however things work out.

    • It's disrespectful the same way two of them sharing a slice of cake when he can't have any would be; they're indulging in a pastime he would like to enjoy, but can't.

    • @taleswapper Well, if I am not entitled to a slice of cake, I can hardly feel disrespect if I don't get one. You make an interesting point. There is a presumption of entitlement where there is no entitlement. You have no right to demand - and therefore no basis on which to expect - sex with another person or persons.

    • It's not about entitlement; it's about exclusion. He's just as constrained as the couple; there are no other rooms to be had. NOT having sex until you can be private is the obvious choice. Or invite him to play, as well. Either would work to improve the group dynamic.

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  • If I had someone to have sex with itd be less disrespectful. But its pretty fucked up. I once worked on a Senate Campaign and a staffer came into the room on the night we lost the election. He and my intern started fucking. It was extremely disrespectful because it marginalized me as a person. The intern was a hot blonde chic. She asked if it was okay to take off her clothes. so i approved. She did in front of me. Had no idea sex was going to happen. Thought she was just crashing on the floor or in the bed nearby.

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  • The answer is very simple you can wait for him to go somewhere and have sex while he's outside. Unless it's your kink and you want him to hear you two or watch you.

    • she's kinky..

  • Horrible! How can you even think of having sex with that poor guy in the same room. Unless you plan on inviting him to a threesome.

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  • Yes it’s extremely disrespectful. I would not be happy if my friend did that to me.

  • Just another question for a TROLL to ask this morning!

  • It's just a week. You'll survive. And yes its extremly disrespectful

  • Be aware that some guys love being a voyeur. It could be a real turn on for him. Most likely will.

  • Are you really 25-29 years old and asking this question?

  • I would think it’s disgusting and yes I would be uncomfortable by it, I wouldn’t try it

  • If the other guy is ok with it I don't see a problem.

    • Won't it be inviting for him

  • What your boyfriend thinks of it? Would he like to have sex while his friend watches or at least listens what is going on in the room?

  • Yeah it's disrespectful.

  • You'll have plenty of time for the three of you to discuss it while you're walking.

  • Make it a 3 some

    • Yeah... u seem to have some good fantasies lpl

    • @jackyn01 check ur pm

  • Yes, he can likely hear you. Yes, it's pretty disrespectful to have sex in the same room, unless you invite him to join you, or at least watch. Would you think it disrespectful of him to casually whip his dick out and beat off in front of you, if your partner wasn't there?

  • I mean you guys are couples and it's his choice to stay in the same room with you.

  • I've had sex ( fully naked ) when random people just walk by. It was on an erotic event "kamasutra"

  • It is possible only if both desire 3some.

  • He'll hear you. If he isn't invited to play, it's disrespectful.

  • It is disrespectful.

  • Yes, it's very disrespectful. I know I wouldn't want to be in the same room as a couple having sex.

  • Yes it is

  • I don't know depends on how you and your boyfriend feel about it all if you all donthe kind go for it or make it a 3some but damn if the guy just has to sit there and listen that's fucked up how would you feel if you was with one of your girlfriends and she fucked her man next to you? ?

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