Having sex with a teen isn't pedophilia, agree or disagree?

A teen between 13-15 isn't pedophilia in my opinion. Someone that age is conscious enough to decide if they wanna do it with the 18+ person or not. They also have hit puberty. People back in the day used to Marry in that age normally.
Having sex with a teen isnt pedophilia, agree or disagree?
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  • Voted "Results," bit only because the poll options provided are insufficient. As a legal matter, sex between someone age 18 or older and someone 15 to 17 is pedophilia, like it or not. In the case of two people both in the 15 to 17 range - and actually even younger to some extent - it is not.

    In the former case, it matters not a whit if the teen thinks that they are ready for sex or not. By law it is considered pedophilia and will get you in trouble with the authorities. This is, to be sure, a legal convenience. The line must be drawn somewhere and since you will meet some teens who are ready for sex and some 20 year olds who are not, a line, rooted more in statistical averages than case-by-case, is drawn.

    In physical terms, of course, a teen is physically mature enough to have sex. The male can produce sperm and ejaculate. The female can bear young. However, as civilization has developed, our evolutionary patterns have developed something of a dissonance. Once a person is physically sexually mature, they instinctively want it and even need it.

    However, can a teen handle the effects of their biological instincts. Can a boy protect a family and provide for it as a male's prehistoric ancestors did. Can a girl handle the responsibilities of caring for a child with all that entails in terms of providing an education and so on.

    The irony is that civilization is harder work and requires more skills than does instinctive behavior in the state of nature. So the legal rules are drawn in distinction to our animal instincts.

    Frankly, I was 16 when I lost my virginity and my girlfriend was 15. It was - because we were lucky enough to have time and privacy - an amazing experience and I would not have changed it. However, the fretting I did -- after that initial phase of feeling like a man and totally in love wore off - at the thought that I might have gotten my girlfriend pregnant (we had not used protection) tell you that the laws may not be perfect, but they are not frivolous either.

  • Agree. By definition pedophilia is sexual attraction to prepubescence children. Teens are not prepubescence, so it's not pedophilia.

    The term pedophilia gets misused a LOT. So much so that a lot of people don't even know what it actually means.

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  • Things are deemed illegal and immoral for a reason. Would you want your 13 year old daughter being persuaded by a man who is in his thirties to do adult things? Would you want your baby girl getting pregnant at 13, dropping out of school, being a stay at home mom or something else similar to that scenario? Psychology student here, during puberty an adolescents brain and body are still undergoing critical changes and that also includes that they are not emotionally mature yet fully and the part of their brain that is involved with decision making isn't fully developed either, hence, teens are more likely to do more reckless things. The brain undergoes changes throughout life, but during this stage it is not mature enough. That's how young boys and girls get lured and groomed by predators. I was around that age when a man who was 26 started talking to me, he told me how I was so mature and such and treated me like a woman.. but I wasn't a woman yet. I was still a girl and just going through a really confusing time in my life because of stinking puberty. I was a stupid kid. Intelligent overall, but my decisions weren't always on point. Even though I never was the type to party, do drugs, smoke, have relations with fellows and such, I still made stupid decisions when it came to boys and men. If I had gone off with him my life would have been ruined.

  • Apparently teenagers are really stupid. But then so are most adults.

    No adult could have persuaded me at ant point in my life to do something I saw as wrong. Not age 5 10
    15 etc

    Force and persuasion are not the same and should not be treated as such. Just raise kids to not be painfully dumb. That should work.

    People get used and mistreated and raped by people their age. Age is not the issue in my opinion.

    I believe children should be protected from attack. If a kid pours hanging out with an older person I really don’t care. I think a lot of the hysteria is just basically controlling Puritan mindset.

    And It’s not pedophelia - bc that is pre pubescent

    • I was at my adult height by 13- which is taller than a lot of guys. Don’t think older men and some women did not attempt didn’t “persuade” Me... i was never interested in anyone older than me but more importantly I was not an idiot. You can’t just persuade a smart person. And being a teenager if you have to deal with life you become discerning. People worry About kids being too inept to make decisions bc they baby them and infants can’t think logically. I was working and by 15, moved out. If I had decided to had a relationship with a 20 year old, that Would be completely reasonable given my situation and where I was at... For him to go to jail and be labeled a sex offender, would be INSANE and a crime. in my opinion

  • Pedophilia means sexually attracted to pre pubescent children or children before the age of puberty

    Any person who has reach puberty is not pre pubescent

    • but it still gross and weird for a person aged 18 or older to want to have sex with a minor or somebody as young as 13,14 or 15.

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  • well your allowed to have an opinion. But a young person like that doesn't have enough experience to know what to do, making the older person to take advantage of them. Which is why it’s illegal.

  • You suck!!

    • Me? why?

  • While by definition it might not be pedophilia since pedophilia is defined as an attraction to prepubescent children, however it is still absolutely predatory. Teen minds are emotions are underdeveloped at this stage in life. What defines a predator is intent and exploitation.

  • I mean, technically its not pedophilia, its ephebophilia.

  • If what was done "back in the day" is the measure of what is acceptable, then your parents should take you out of school and put you to work on the family farm.

    Reaching puberty does not mean that you sufficient mental maturity to make good decisions for yourself about sexual matters and it does not mean that you are ready to deal with the consequences of sexual behavior. Are you ready to get married and raise a child? You do know, don't you, that no method of birth control (other than abstinence) is 100% effective?

    People your age are always impressed with how much mature they are at age 14 than they were at age 10-12, and they think that they have arrived at the plateau where everyone else resides. In fact, young people your age still have much to learn and your journey has barely begun.

  • The act on it self isn't pedophilia.

    The problem is how do we know that the kid knows what they're getting into. And how do we know if the adult feels like they're actually taking advantage of someone or not. And how do we know if they care and how do we know whether or not the kid knows if the adult cares to know if the sex is consensual. . . knowingly.

    But at the end of the day the question that really matters is, if we jail adults for taking advantage of younger people mentally to get sex, why aren't we punishing kids of the same age for the same thing? Or when adults do it to other adults? Why is one thing so much more of a travesty than another? Isn't dating people who it turned out were only using you a part of growing up?

    Which brings me to the second problem, doesn anyone actually know what pedophilia is? Is there really a definition that we all agree on because "older guy having sex with younger girl" is kinda stupid.

  • the way i see it, it's a child raising a child. someone with no life experience, and no idea how to deal with hundreds of situations that are going to pop up, i dont think they'll be able to handle it alone. I don't think many adults today have the discipline required to properly care for a child, so envisioning a child of age 14 raising a child is just ridiculous to me.

    in earlier times, yes, there was a lack of laws regarding this kind of thing because early civilization (depending on how far back you go) didn't have things like 'medicine', or 'hygiene' so life was often pretty short. you needed to establish a family right away so you had descendants that could take over your belongings, and carry on your family name.

    there's no urgency for that anymore, and no reason for a 14 year old to be betrothed to someone.

    and no offense buddy, but a 14 year old isn't conscious about anything. live another 10 years and you're going to turn inside out from cringe at some of the choices you're making today.

  • The cut-off point for pedophilia is at 11 for females and at 12 for males.
    Being *attracted* to young adolescents is normal, having sex with them is most often just taking advantage of their stupidity, however.

    That being said, age of consent is set far too high in many western countries, particularly in those where it is 18.
    In the US, you can join military, be tried as an adult, and drive way before you can legally consent to sex, and that's indeed silly.

  • 13 is not old enough to consent with someone 18+, or in general. Neither is 15.
    Mentality is SO different and its overwhelmingly easy to manipulate them. You're FOURTEEN, you think you know all there is to know and that you're mature for your age. I'm not insulting you in any way- all teenagers are like that. In 10 years, you will be DISGUSTED if a friend of yours expressed interest in a 13 yo child.

    • Well, I don't think I know everything, but does any of us? I'm naturally attracted to slightly older girls.

    • 14 attracted to 16 is normal. Even 16 attracted to 14. You're both children. 20 attracted to 14? Not so much.

  • It's not technically pedophilia but it is still properly illegal for adults to have sex with young teens. They are not old enough to consent. Yes, teens used to marry but that didn't mean it was consensual. Daughters were the property of their fathers and then their husbands.

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    • lol hello. so different countries have different laws concerning the age of consent and its 16 in the uk

  • Well it isn't paedophilia, there's another term for it. It is wrong however. Very few children 12-18 are anywhere near mature enough or responsible enough to deal with the potential consequences. They are generally also far less experienced in life and far easier to manipulate into things.

  • It's illegal in my part of the world. I know my kids don't need that kind of attention.

  • Their brains still aren't fully developed, neither are their bodies, and neither is their maturity.

    • Please consider that me and you are teens...

    • Nobody's brain is ever finished developing

    • As for bodies they are, they can have sex and have children

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  • that would be ephebephilia

    • Well, that's still not wrong

    • ... or hebephilia depending where the cut off of how developed you like them

  • It's not pedophilia (hebephilia?), but it is rightly illegal, with some exceptions for similarly aged partners.

  • Yes, If the guy she's screwing is over 21.
    A guy I used to work with was dating his future wife back in the `60's and they were both teens, but she was about 2 years younger than him. They'd already been having sex. Once he turned 21, he told her, "I'll wait for you!" They went the next two years without sex and, as soon as she turned 21, they got back into it again.

  • Technically no. It would be ephebophilia.
    I'd say it is ethically wrong as they would be vulnerable to manipulation, they need to mature emotionally some more

  • 13-15 is sorta pushing it, it’s more 15-17..

    • Well, why is this? I'm attracted to many 18+ women

    • 13 is much too immature, most women have barely fully-grown breasts or haven’t experienced their first menstrual cycle yet. If you’re attracted to older women sexually then that’s sorta disturbing, no offense.

    • The pituitary gland is what dictates the onset puberty... it secretes sex hormones and other chemicals.

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  • "Pedophilia (alternatively spelt paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children."

    By this definition teenagers would be excluded if they were
    pubescent.
    It would still be sexual conduct with a minor which is another illegal thing though.

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