He can't cum with a condom on? Is this because my pussy isn't tight enough?

Question

My boyfriend and I decided to use condoms one night. We don't ever use them because we are monogamous and we don't need to, but we just randomly did one night. Well, it still felt good for me, but he was starting to get annoyed after awhile because he just couldn't cum. He said it's because condoms completely desensitize him and he can't feel much, so he can't cum. Other guys can cum with a condom on with their girlfriends tho, so am I just not tight enough for him to feel with a condom on? When we have sex without a condom, he can cum. He says I'm tight and that I feel good, but do condoms really desensitize a penis so much that they can't cum? Or am I not tight enough so he can't feel me as much when he's wearing one?

Searlas · Accepted Answer

Have you changed your pussy?😅 I guess not, being the same pussy, he is the one with an issue.
He seems to be used to having sex without a condom, which has made it less stimulating over time. Men who wear condoms a lot remain very sensitive because they yearn to do it without it. That’s why they cum fast when not using it. Men who never wear condoms become less sensitive with time because they get into some comfort zone. It is psychological and human, once you are used to something it becomes less fascinating, for now it might seem impossible for your boyfriend but a human mind also play great role, if he wants to retrain his mind and regain sensitivity, he can i. e. if he wants it and can’t if he doesn’t, he needs to continue wearing condom and through his mind start recreating some form of stimulation, focus and finally it will happen. If he doesn’t want or keeps complaining it can’t and will not. He can try different types of condoms with different thicknesses and shapes. There are also non-latex condom options he could try, such as polyurethane condoms. Polyurethane condoms though less protective allows greater sensation, and conducts heat, that’s why some people prefer them to latex. If he believes he can, with time, practice, and confidence, he will regain stimulation and shoot when wearing a condom.

Twalli · Accepted Answer

Condoms do desensitize sex. I didn't have problems when I used them though. It noticably doesn't feels as good though. Your tightness wouldn't affect it that much though. It wouldn't feel as warm nor as wet inside though.

Caliguy88 · Answer

No, it’s the feeling. You don’t get nearly as good feeling with a condom. It’s not you.

najekim · Answer

Some guys do become too desensitized (I'm one of them) that orgasm is not going to happen no matter how thin the condom is. So I doubt it's you.

jerdanro · Answer

Your parts are fine. Sometimes guy don't cum.

Seppel · Answer

No it's because of the condom

curator · Answer

Maybe it's not your pussy but it's his mind that doesn't like to have sex with a condom on

HrdRok12 · Answer

I’ve been able to cum wearing a condom if it’s during bj. I really just have to be lost in the moment in order for my junk to wake up. If it’s during intercourse though my junk won’t work