He can't enjoy sex unless he ejaculates?

My partner and I have been together for 4 years and I was previously on the pill. I let him ejaculate in me multiple times and after awhile I was constantly getting infections from his cum. I stopped taking the pill because I was getting a lot of side effects and tried a few different pills but was having no luck. I refuse to go on the pill anymore and he refuses to wear a condom which I totally understand. For awhile I was constantly taking the emergency pill because he refused to pull out. We keep arguing about the same debate of him saying he can't enjoy sex unless he ejaculates in me and says he doesn't care if I fall pregnant and I said 'so I get pregnant and then you continue to ejaculate in me and I continuously fall pregnant?' He responds 'oh I don't know.' I ask him to pull out and as I have had a couple of previous relationship's, my ex's had no issue with pulling out but my current partner does and it's frustrating me. He got upset at me and said 'well go f someone else then' and I got angry at him for disrespecting me like that. He says it's not fair that I get to orgasm and come but he can't do the same in me. I said 'it's not my fault your cum impregnate's, mine doesn't.' Any contraception containing hormones give me side effects and his cum can cause infections. Any advice? I have broken up with him before about this.
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  • He’s a very immature and selfish man. He puts his own pleasure ahead of your feelings and concerns. If you stay with him, that self-centered nature will manifest itself in other ways. Get out of this relationship while you can and don’t look back. Red flags are everywhere here. He doesn’t care about you. He cares what he can get from you. It’s common sense that if you aren’t on birth control and he’s not using a condom, that he needs to pull his damn dick out when he cums. My advice, find a better partner.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Have you thought about having an IUD put in you? I love mine and I didn't want to continue taking the pill either.

    • No I'm not interested... Fake hormones don't sit well with my body at all.

    • A copper IUD is non hormonal

Most Helpful Guys

  • Well you gotta break up with him if he can't respect you. You get pregnant, its you who carries the baby for 9 months which affects a lot of thing. Whats with him of ejaculating in you. he's really not mature enough to meet your standards. Find a good man who respects your decisions. Its a simple thing, you cum and you get pregnant.

    • He doesn't have any and yes he says he wants a child and I have said no not for awhile. I am only just getting my life back after having a child 7 years ago on my own and I'm not interested right now. He just keeps pushing me.

    • Make him understand. If he still keeps you pushing, just leave him.

    • He was rude to me and I broke it off with him..

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  • He can pull out and come on top of your stomach, at least he’s still ejaculating or he can wear a condom sometimes if he feels the need to stay inside since he’s causing so many problems by coming inside you. But I hardly ever hear about a guy causing infections from his cum maybe you’re just not a good match chemistry wise anyway

    • I didn't mine him cuming on top of me he just sooked about having to pull out and do it. He would get upset at me and cum all over my neck and my hair. His way of pay back. I have heard other girls including my mum and my sister say the same thing, that they have gotten infections from their partner's sperm too. It's not unusual and if you google vaginal infections from men's ejaculation it will explain it.

    • That’s just strange the infection part, my past few experiences didn’t get infection from mine luckily but I haven’t been with more than 6 women

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  • Yeah he's being irresponsible beyond belief and extremely selfish. This is not the type of guy that if he got you pregnant would want anything to do with the child. Deadbeat dad in the making.

  • He should be wearing a rubber under these circumstances

    • He doesn't have any and yes he says he wants a child and I have said no not for awhile. I am only just getting my life back after having a child 7 years ago on my own and I'm not interested right now. He just keeps pushing me.

    • Sorry I responded to the wrong response

  • Honey you’re putting a lot of pressure on him and ensuring you guys have less sex. Make it about romance and intimacy, not ejaculation

  • I am in a similar situation rn now but no this is definitely a red flag 🚩

  • maybe try a diaphragm. Also you need to figure out why you get infections from his semen. He may have an infection.

  • It sounds like he might have a urinary tract infection and needs to see a doctor. It also sounds like you 2 do not get along.

  • Should look into non-hormonal birth control methods like copper IUD

    • He should just be respectful of my wishes. If he can't enjoy sex unless he ejeculates in me, that's his problem and it's a bullshit excuse. I broke it off with him. I don't like constant ejaculation inside me and he should respect that not me having to use things to stop me from getting pregnant just to get his way.

  • He is not respectful of your wishes or your health. He doesn't understand that when a woman says no, it means NO. If you broke up with him before about this then I think it is time to do it again permanently

  • That's his problem. He has the option of using a condom or of you making him cum in other ways (oral etc.). But he sounds like he has zero respect for you, you need to break up with that piece of shit.

  • Break up again. He wants to put a bun in the oven. You don't want the bun. How many kids does he have?

    • I don't want the bun I already have a child. I did it all on my own the first time. He can't even pay his rent and he thinks he can afford to have a child. I broke it off with him.

    • Screw yourself. And call yourself Sally. We don't care.

  • Infections from his cum... right

  • Better, you change partner

  • Looks like it's time for you to move forward.

  • That's normal.

  • Shit can him, he is an idiot.

  • Like for women, it's still very enjoyable even if you don't climax. I didn't read all this, but what I did read told me enough. I'd just move on from him. Sounds like you just have one issue after another (with him).