He Can't Fully Sexually Satisfy Me? Deal Breaker?

Maybe I'm too hard to please everything else is perfect but the sex I'm pissed he's also 28 and I'm 20 so ofc my sex drive is higher and I can go longer but it ends when he wants it to end and that's after 10 minutes.
It's a deal breaker
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Thank you guys. No I'm not leaving him I love him very much and yes I will communicate and take your advice. 💗
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  • Welcome to the real world
    You're going to find out that a lot of guys are selfish they're lazy and they only think about themselves
    It's usually the guy that's in a big hurry to get into your pants did Will wham-bam you thank you ma'am and that's it
    Some of them can't help it most of them can find a guy that is romantic find the guy that likes to kiss you touch you and make it all about you because those are the guys that have a lot more control when they come in when they don't find the guy it wants to please you and make it all about you find the guy that is patient and likes foreplay because he wants to melt you before you leave and puts it in you he wants to give you an orgasm before you even have sex that's the guy you're looking for

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  • Communication is the key.
    Speaking personally, if I desire to 'bed' someone, its not just for MY physical release... I vicariously revel in being HER source of pleasure. In college, we'd quip:" If I made you happy tell your friends, IF NOT, TELL ME FIRST". (I can't improve if YOU don't offer self-serving CONSTRUCTIVE criticism) Steer his ongoing foreplay.

    There was once a pop song whose lyric went: "you just keep on 'using' me until you use me up..."
    If HE finds your tutelage too ego-bruising, you're obviously 'bedding' the wrong man.
    His manhood may grow limp but he's got 10 fingers and a tongue!

Most Helpful Girls

  • In my opinion, no. If he can't get me to orgasm, it's not his fault. Been with a guy before and the sex was fun, great but I never orgasmed. I still liked him, dated him, and it never bothered me. I'm able to get myself off just fine most days, so that's all that matters. It's not about sex but about the relationship more, at least for me.

  • The amount of time he can last, doesn't have anything to do with his sex drive. If you want it 7 days a week, and he wants it one day per week, then he obviously has a lower sex drive than you. If this is all about you not getting an orgasm, there are easy ways to fix that.

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  • How do you feel about open relationships? If he's perfect in every other way but you just want more sex, could be the solution

  • There are girls that choose to live with boys that can't even have sex just out of love... You are fine... There are other solutions that come before breaking up with him... And the last one of them is just living with it

    • No I'm not leaving him but it's frustrating I'm trying to take into account that's he's almost 30

    • I mean if you love him then ir shouldn't matter... Im sorry ur going through this but its all fine

    • I do love him 💗 but I deserve to be satisfied too

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  • Sounds like you have 2 separate issues here. Both age and sex. You can’t to anything about age, so if you have age requirements for dating , then you have your answer.
    re: sex, you can probably fix that by communicating with your boyfriend more.
    age wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me, but eventually the sex would be if it didn’t get better

  • Only if he isn’t willing to ask, listen and learn what finishes you.

  • 10 mintues seems like a average time

    • It is I just feel it's not enough I also don't cum from penetration so maybe I'm too hard to please

    • Have you tried to use a toy during sex like a vibe?

    • I might just buy one for stimulation

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  • He cum? good! from a guy perspective it looks fine, but that question should been for girls only.

    • Ik I'm too late to out girls only

  • you need a lot more foreplay. Sex is over in about 10 with men. Love making takes us at least 30 minutes. Lovemaking with another girl can easily tank an hour.

  • If you are not having an orgasm with him regularly, it affects your relationship. Try having him giving you an orgasm orally, or different positions, or toys.

  • He needs to work harder or step aside for someone who is prepared to.

  • U should be telling us if its a delay breaker lol not the other way round this is somthing u need to decide I personly wouldn't stay with a person I was not sexually satisfied with have your told him about the issue

    • Yes I just told him and he said he's getting older which is true maybe we need more foreplay to make it last longer or I should try to take control

    • How much forplay do u do if u don't mind me asking

    • For example I can't last that long in the actual act of sex but because of this forplay lasts longer to ensure me and my partner both finish

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  • That's your choice, not the choice of a random bunch of people on G@G

  • He can do better if he tries. You need to figure out what is the problem and how he can fix it and talk to him about it. it doesn't have to be a big blowup.

  • yup ofcourse a deal breaker

  • That's totally up to you to decide. We don't know the other factors. Try to communicate with him about the matter. Discuss with him ways to improve. I have to tell you this too. If you want to see something long term with him, sex isn't the number one factor to consider. Otherwise save both of your time if the things are limited in the way he was built.

  • Communication first.
    If he still wants to be lazy after you tell him how much more you need... THAT is the deal breaker

    • Absolutely

    • Good luck. I hope he wakes up before it's too late.

  • So invest in some toys together and have him pleasure you before the actual sex starts. Get some last longer cream for him, stuff like that. Help him practice his endurance by edging for awhile regularly.

    If he's unwilling and you can't live with that then end it if he's willing then stay and work on it.
    You said everything else was perfect so it'd be a shame to end over something you can work on

    Also if he's physically having issues have him get his testosterone checked, 28 is about the time it can start dropping, especially if he isn't the healthiest.

  • If sex is that important to you, then yes, its a deal breaker.

  • What kind of loser only goes for 10 minutes? I can't even get off in that time unless I am already really desperate.

  • Yes. If he doesn’t improve, it will be a frustrating problem over time.

  • He should go for longer oral on you :P

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