He couldn’t get hard but then came really quickly. My fault?

I met this new guy and we’ve been going out a while and he’s very affectionate and treats me nicely.

our first time sleeping together though and it took him FOREVER to get hard. I’m paranoid he’s not that physically attracted to me because I used to be able to just touch my last boyfriend and he’d get hard.

Then it was like all of a sudden he got hard and we had sex for about five minutes and he came.

Is this normal?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Yes. It is very normal, especially at the start of a relationship. Guys, and girls too, can be anxious about how they are going to perform. Are they going to be good enough.

    It is not the fault of either person. Just one of those things that happens.

    • He didn’t even try to sleep with me again the next day. He just wanted to get up get ready me go out together

    • I feel that he might be a bit insecure about him finishing so quickly.

  • yes, it is normal, esp for a first time/new boyfriend... he has nervous issues and is worried about if he can please you...

    its normal...

    give him time

    • I just worried so much he wasn’t sexually attracted to me and it made me so sad :( we’re really good in every other way

    • stop worrying... all that matters is you got him to boner status and he was able to ejac!

    • Eventually 🙈🙈

Most Helpful Guys

  • Nervous at a guess but he may have a problem. Definitely not your fault but it's sweet that you thought it might have been. There's an opportunity to get him totally focused on your needs here, at least until he's warmed up.

  • Normal for the first few times until he gets more comfortable and confident with you.

    • Are you sure? I just felt like it was our first time and all he wanted to really do was kiss and then the next morning he didn’t even try to sleep with me again 😢

    • It can be very scary and nerve wracking for some people. Try again and see how it goes.

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  • It happens. Likely he was nervous, but depression and other things can cause it. Some times I can get hard easily and last forever other times I'm pushing rope and last second. Major depressive disorder really fucks you up.

  • He could have been nervous or something

  • First time nervousness.
    Help him relax without any pressures and be understanding.
    The next time (s) will probably get better.

  • He was just nervous that's normal

  • He could have been nervous for getting a boner and that's not your fault

  • It happens. How long does it take you to get wet? Sometimes longer then others I'd guess. Basically same thing with a guy.