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He couldnt cum having sex with me?

My husband and i were having sex, he was drunk, and high, so he got tired pretty quick and lost his erection. He couldnt cum at all, so he decided to gave up, and went to bed. I just found out that he was watching a woman shake her ass and boobs online on that day. He could either be watching it before and wanted to have sex. Or watched it after he woke up. If he did watch it before we had sex, does that mean he only wanted sex because of her? And he imagined doing her?
If he watched it after, was he jerking off to her to finish what he couldnt with me?
Would a guy go on without being able to cum but had his penis stimulated?

I need answers to all these.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't know and can't say for sure regarding your questions. It's possible that he got horny after watching her but really can't say for sure. Men are just very visual and even if he watched that and got horny and got it on with you, it doesn't mean he's imagining doing her.
    You gotta know too that being drunk and/or high, it's very possible to lose erection or be unable to cum. Have you heard of the term "whiskey dick"? Yyyep...

    Just my 2 cents.

  • For most men its usually harder too keep it hard or even cum when they are under the influence of alcohol or weed because there too tired or fucked up

  • He had whisky dick, stop stressing out over nothing

    • lol good one!

Most Helpful Guys

  • totally normal to not be able to get an erection, or cum, or both when you've had too much to drink. As for the ass and tits, I don't think you have anything to worry about there, and no, he wasn't thinking of her. Guys are guys, we watch tits and butts, that's just what we do. But that won't have any barring on his performance with you, the cause there is the liquor. ;)

    • Thanks for MHG! :) But really, you and your man should be all good, just make sure he gets you off at least before quitting.. cum on now! lol

  • A penis can fail.
    It can fail to get hard.
    If it gets hard, it can fail to give its owner an orgasm or give an orgasm without sperm:
    It's called delayed or impaired ejaculation
    www.mayoclinic.org/.../con-20034981
    www.healthline.com/health/delayed-ejaculation

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  • "he was drunk, and high"

    This is the only thing of relevance here. Ever heard the phrase "whiskey dick"? Substances are frequently the cause of guys not being able to perform. It has nothing to do with looking at some pics on the 'net. If he was sober, he'd likely have been fine.

    • I understand that drugs and alcohol can make a guy loses his erections. What im looking into is if he only wanted sex because he was looking at her or if he looked at her to finish what he couldnt with me. And if a man can go on without cumming when he had his dick stimulated.

    • Again, you're making up a bunch of stuff that doesn't happen. If he was looking at girls online, he did that because he was horny. But that has almost zero to do with anything regarding him having sex with you. He had sex with you because he was horny - which probably wasn't related in any way to being horny earlier in the day. Guys get horny all the time. You're trying to connect dots that just don't connect. And, yes, if a guy can't cum (for mental, emotional, drug-induced, or whatever reason), no amount of stimulation will change that, and no, he probably won't be able to maintain an erection for long in that situation - but even if he can, it's just going to be frustrating for him.

    • Im not making stuff up, im just assuming. But i see

  • Alcohol enhances desire and cripples performance.

  • Drunk dick does not apply if a guy is really turned on.. He maybe just wanted to come in and try to keep you satisfied. I have a very hard time cumming and while drinking, lol forget it! If he jacked off at all, it was while he was watching.

  • Mayby you need an extra cock to take care of your needs he might get off watching you getting ponded you won’t know unless you try it a lot of men enjoy watching or bring in another female friend she could please you if he can’t or it might arouse him to do you both

  • I think he had a case of whiskey dick, which makes it hard no pun intended to stay hard or generally have sex in some cases. I don't think it was you or the the woman he was watching, it was the alcohol and whatever he did to get high.

  • that´s called wiskey dick. dicks can fail if you´re intoxicated. don´t overthing the stuff with him watching another girl. all guys do that and no guys don´t value those random encounters more than their actual gf/wife.

  • Being drunk and high can make it really hard to maintain erections. Has happened to me too. They call it brewer's droop.

    • Yes i understand that. But what im more interested in is if a guy can go on without cumming when his penis has been stimulated. And why he wanted sex with me if he watched the twerking before.

    • It's in the brain as much as the body. Alcohol dulls the senses. All of them. If someone punches you when you're drunk, it doesn't hurt as much, just as having sex or getting a blow job doesn't feel as good when you're drunk.

  • Women seem to always be checking what guys do online when they're not looking. It's getting me concerned and nervous... 😅

    • No i wasn't checking on what he was doing. I was just using his youtube because it was connected to the smart tv. I just happen to see his activity.

    • I'll sincerely believe you, but it still seems common...

  • It can be very hard to climax when you're drunk. At least for men.

    • I understand that. What im more into is if he only wanted sex because he looked at the girl twerking or if a guy can go without cumming when having his penis stimulated.

  • If he had been drinking he probably couldn't quickly reach completion due to numbness. He probably choked the chicken afterwards where he could be slightly... rougher

  • I would be upset if my guy watched that

  • stop taking it so personal.. it happens.

  • Why do girls take it so personally when the guy doesn't Cum, it happens...

    • I dont take it personally, as you can see on my description i wanted to know more if a guy can go on a day without cumming when his dick has been stimulated.

    • The answer is yes, there's literally more times when I've had sex that I actually haven't cummed why? Cuz I actually prefer not too

  • Fuck you.

    • The hell is your problem

    • This guy has been posting this same comment to dozens of threads tonight. The admins are sleeping.

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