He fell asleep during sex-- should I be offended?

So I've been seeing this guy for a little bit now. Friday night, he invited me over. He was having trouble keeping his eyes open within about 10 minutes of me being there. He wasn't drunk, just apparently really tired. We were watching a show, and he just kept falling asleep leaning me. So I finally told him he should really just go to sleep. He asked me to stay. So... we both went into bed. We ended up having sex. He initiated the sex. He was on top of me, going pretty hard, when... all of a sudden... he stopped, while he was inside me, and was just... still. I couldn't seem to get a reaction, and then he started snoring, so I knew he was totally asleep. With A LOT of effort, I ended up squirming out from underneath him, because I just could not wake him up.

I ended up just going to sleep, too. Twice, during the night, he woke up and started trying to initate things again, but he would quickly fall right back asleep.

I don't know how to feel about that. I'm confused about why he would have invited me over at all if he was so tired, and also feeling kind of insulted that he fell asleep while inside of me.

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  • This is familiar. If I recall we got back to my place and watched a movie, it was early on in our dating life. I was dozing off and we decided to just hit the bed immediately when it was over. We were able to oral sex each other to get off and then we went missionary, it was slow and sensual but after cumming inside my eye lids felt very heavy and it was like zombie but can still talk a little bit before passing out kind of thing so I was able to kind of turn us to the side, my last words until 6am was saying i love you, goodnight. She thought it was cute I said the words which made sleepy time and waking up early all the more worth it. Maybe she would have been offended otherwise? I never asked, she didn't tell me she loved me until another week.

    I just think sometimes we just try to press ahead with whatever stamina left and then after cumming your realize it's worse than you thought.

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  • I've been that exhausted a few times. "She's" been that exhausted a few times. I put it in quotes because it's been multiple women over the years. If it's the exception, not the rule, don't sweat it.

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  • I understand exhaustion, but with the speed... just make sure he isn't taking anything. I would be a bit concerned.

    He cares about you and wants to make love. Sleeping with each other is a good thing.. you would be the first girl I have heard of, who didn't like sleeping with a partner, especially after good sex. He would (in normal circumstances) show this as a way of trusting you and being comfortable around you. Check his work schedule and ask if he took any medication. Seems like a concern for his safety than your entertainment.

    Sorry sis :[

    Best to you both!

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  • Wow, I've fallen asleep during blowjob before, but never during sex. Dude must have been exhausted.

  • depends, if after orgasm on a following plug, then not due to you no offended. if its first attempt it seems weird unless after 1130pm.

    • It was at around 1:30 AM, so it was very late, and he had worked that day and had to coach his son's baseball game... so I'm sure he was exhausted.

  • ngl that's kinda funny. but nah he must've been mad tired.

  • Was he on top?

    • Yes.

    • Lol! Then, you probably shouldn't be insulted.

  • poor guy must be exhausted. I have done this. When we had our first kid he never slept and i was falling asleep all over the place. i fell asleep during sex more than once..

  • I would say if that happens often when you are with him he should speak to his doctor as it doesn't sound normal.

    • Thankfully, this is the first time I've experienced this with him. He made up for it in the morning with a great time, but... yeah. Hopefully, it doesn't become a regular occurrence.

    • He may have legitimately been overtired. Keep an eye on it.

    • Yeah. I don't know if he actually realizes that he fell asleep during sex. The next morning, I said, "You were falling asleep as soon as I got here last night.. I didn't realize you were so exhausted when you invited me over." And he had said he hadn't been getting much sleep lately and that he legitimately didn't realize he was so tired when he sent out the invite. If it happens again, I guess a more serious conversation will have to happen.

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  • No you shouldn't be offended. It didn't mean anything besides he was just tired. I fell asleep while an ex was giving me a blow job one time. She didn't get upset or offended. She knew I had a long day. I had worked a 12 hour shift that day

  • Even though he was extremely tired he still wanted to see you. You shouldn't be offended, you should feel honored that he used the last bit of energy to try to have sex with you. Give the guy a break this time.

  • Nah. It just means you gave him a great night. Only if you didn't orgasm yourself, should you be offended, which is likely what this is being disguised as. This question, I mean

  • Sounds like he's got a little narcolepsy. He needs to get it checked out. Or he's been staying up really late and crashing. Then on the other hand he might be up early I'm going to bed really late.

  • That's hilarious

  • Jesus

  • Obviously, he REALLY wanted to have sex with you, but was just TOO tired.

    What he should have done is invite you to sleep over, and then woke up in the morning refreshed, and make mad love to you!

  • He should have a good sleep I think

  • Him sleeping and still wanting to have sex with you shows how he cares about you.

    and he’s also comfortable

  • I've done that myself. I get it because I was so tired I quite literally couldn't stay awake. Don't take it personally it happens to all of us.

  • I definitely never had that happen to me before. But he fell asleep I would be offended.

  • he made some memorable story here! LOL

  • shit

  • Has he taken any of those COVID shots? Have you taken any?

    • What does that have to do with anything?