He finished himself off in a handjob? what do I do?

[Anonymous]

Last night I was with my boyfriend and things got more physical and whatever and we ended up both giving each other head. He was fingering me and I started giving him a hand job. it was definitely in an awkward position because it wasn't 69 and we were both just laying down next to each other and it was weird. I've never ever given a handjob before so I was kinda clueless at first but then I started to get the hang of it. For starters, it took him a pretty long time to cum and second, he finished off himself. Like for the last 30 seconds of it, he took over and started going wicked hard and fast and finished himself. It made me pretty self conscious but I don't know what to do. Was I doing it wrong? Should I take it personally? Does anyone have any tips?

[AlphaMale1]

The way a guy strokes himself is a very personal thing. We know exactly what feels best. The ejaculation is the reward as it is intense. My guess is he knew he was going to cum and wanted to finish in a way he knew would be the most intense.

You had a very good learning experience with this. Did you pay close attention to exactly what he was doing and how he did it? He showed you exactly how he likes this.

[ArrowheadSW]

Well don't take it personally. Obviously he was turned on if he had to finish himself off. If he does it again, get into it by fingering yourself while he is doing it. Most of us guys enjoy watching a woman do herself.

[Zendrya]

Sometimes my boyfriend does that too. It's not a big deal. Usually I can get him there on my own but some days you just need to take control. The point is to make him feel good. Him taking a couple seconds to finish up doesn't mean you didn't make him feel good.

[nala_rawr]

handjobs are not for everybody. dont feel bad. especially if it was ur first time with him. all guys like it differently. next time put ur mouth on it. or ask him how he wants him. tell him u want to make sure YOU finish him off and u wanna kno what it takes

[LindsayRB91rds]

How guys like it us very personal. Ask him to show you how he likes it. Learn that and teach him what you like. It's what they call a 'teaching moment'. Unless he excludes you don't take it personally. He didn't mean it that way.

[Rick_Woodlands]

I'm sure you did fine for your first handjob. Call it a group effort :)

[countrydude]

That was pretty selfish on his part. He should have finished you off. But any way if you ever give him hj again. You know know to finish him off faster at the end. But you should let him know that you want your needs taken care of.

[Dave88]

You are fine, guys just know how to do it, how right to grip, how fast to go, plus it's a turn on doing it in front of a lady

[Anonymous]

I may have, at one point, finished myself off when I wasn’t getting there from my girlfriend stroking me. It was nothing personal to her - I was just having a hard time getting there and she was getting tired. We talked about it afterward and I did explain to her it was me just taking a while to get there. I let her get me after our talk and I enjoyed every second of it.