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He grabbed me, but I got wet, am I weird?

So... let me start this by saying I have a bad temper and when I get mad I hit my boyfriend. I don't mean to, but it happens and he keeps telling me I better stop, but I don't. So we got into a fight the other day and I slapped him in the face and he got pissed off and grabbed me by the arm and restrained me and said very angry, and stern, don't you ever put your hands on me again, do you understand. I was just standing there looking him in the eyes and I could move because he's strong. And all of a sudden I got soaked and as he loosened his grip on me I just starting making out with him and we ending up having sex. Am i weird to find him yelling at me sexy?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I think you just lived out a pretty common fantasy of being dominated. As you learned, it can be hot as hell. But you also need to talk to him about this—sooner rather than later—and do it outside the bedroom. Only he knows how serious he was and only you know how serious you were. Tell each other and be honest. Talk to each other about how far you can go, and establish a word or phrase that either of you can use to end the encounter immediately if it gets too rough or too intense. You were lucky it didn't escalate beyond what it did. I'd hate to see you get beaten up for real. So take extra care, and if you ever feel seriously threatened, get help!

    • Seriously, you're telling someone who is known for hitting her boyfriend, to watch her back as if the guy is known to be dangerous and abusive? We know nothing about him. SMH..

    • Obviously the guy can take care of himself if he's restraining her that easily. She's antagonizing the shit out of him and everyone has a breaking point. But she's clearly vulnerable if she pulls something like this again. And he has the benefit of the doubt here; I told her to talk to him about it, not run.

  • Nope. You were testing him until he decided to man up. In my mind, what he should have done is make you get naked, roughly manhandle you over my knee, and just spank the fire out of you pert, round bare bottom until you promise to be a good girl. Make a game out of it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I saw this video where this chick kept beating her boyfriend. But he's a big strong guy so he was just taking it. Even face shots. Then he grabs her and hugs her and tells her he loves her. She keeps full on punching him. Then wam!! He starts beating the shit out of her!! She gets all bloodied up real quick and a lady runs to help. She calmed down real quick tho. I hope that happens to you.

    • PLEASE LINK I NEED THE FUCKING LINK! sorry it sounds really fucking crazy

    • Omg... i was not expecting that ending. Damn...

    • Burn in hell

  • I'm also having the same relationship with one of my good guy friends (who is hot as fu*k). I can never stop gleaming and smiling every time I see him. We get into these "play fights". Trust me from experience he loooooooves you.

  • you should probably work on that, you don't want things getting out of control in an argument
    that said, I don't know if it's "normal" but it's pretty common 😊 I love to be subdued

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  • Sounds like you are damaged goods. Try not to attack your boyfriends, you'll end up in a relationship where you get beat right back.

  • Bitch you cray-cray.

    • Lmfaooooo

  • Not weird at all. Anger is arousing, and maybe you have a submissive streak. Have dun.

  • I like girls
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  • Not weird. It's just a problem that part of the reasons you do these things is because deep down you want him to dominate you, because to you that is him being a man. You probably feel like he's not being enough of a man, so you dig into him and start fights looking for that reaction you want. That's an unhealthy way to go about it.

    • I only say that, because girls when they really like a guy and are very attracted, truly feeling like he's a man. They make things really easy for the guy, because you know he'll be that guy for you. But if you love him, but he doesn't quite fit that mold of what you see a real man as you'll likely poke, poke, poke till he explodes and you get those emotions you wanted.

  • don't put your hands on your boyfriend. Jeez

  • You found it sexy that he can and will overpower you. It's your instincts.

  • wow thats fucking hot, i secretly hope this happens to me.

  • You have anger issues. You should see a psychologist before you continue dating him.

  • Nah it's not weird. I love stuff like this. Don't hit ur boyfriend tho

  • you like being dominated big deal most women do too

  • show me the wet spot ;)

  • You get turned on being dominated.

    But keep your anger in check and don't put yourself in this situation where you have to get physical again so it doesn't get worse on either side. It's one thing to diffuse a tense situation, but you need an open and honest communication about this, and not resort to violence.

  • Your behavior is abnormal in the sense that this isn't how the two of you should be behaving with one another. You are getting violent and making physical contact while you're angry and upset and this is not a mature way to work out your differences. It is understandable you to become aroused when he's aggressive and restrains you, because that's just instincts within you taking over and your body is responding to a dominant male taking possession of you and your instincts are to mate with the strongest male in proximity to you. That being said, I go back to my original statement that even though what you felt was instinctual that doesn't take away from the fact you're both acting immature by laying hands on each other when you're upset and angry. Learn better ways to work our your differences and if you can't do that on your own, then seek our a professional to help you with your anger management.

  • have you tried anger management classes? men shouldmt hit women, but, women shouldn't be hitting men either

  • You're in for a long, deranged, BDSM relationship...

    • Bahahaha yes

  • You like dominance.

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