He keeps calling me crazy like I’m the problem but can I get another perspective?

My partner drinks most days to the point where he’s sick, buys cocaine, bets loads of money, is rude to me, swears at me, even the police put a DVPO in place for 1 month, that I asked them not to.

every time I try to discuss his alcohol problem, I get ‘stop it’ ‘calm down’, abuse, ignoring what I’m saying or minimising it.

last week, I was making food and out of the blue, he told me I’m not beautiful. I said what? He said well you’re not ugly but you’re not beautiful. I feel this is a disgusting comment to somebody who has told him they have low self confidence. It’s like he knows my weaknesses and purposely tries to hurt me. It would be different if I asked him if I was beautiful but I didn’t and it was completely off topic. I don’t expect him to think I’m the most beautiful girl in the world but I don’t expect him to say that for no reason either.

tonight, we possibly had the opportunity to meet my aunt in an area he used to live in. He was drunk and started smirking and insinuated he may have slept with her (“oh I might have met her” then smirked). I said “so you slept with her?” And he said yes. He’s told me about encounters with prostitutes previously too. I’ve told him many times that it hurts me when he talks about having sex with people casually, even if it was before he met me. When he continued to say it, it may be petty but I spoke about my previous lovers to hurt him too. But he only sees that my retaliation about my previous lovers was the problem. Surely if he brings up his previous lovers he is opening himself up to the fact that I might bring up mine but he only sees me doing it as the problem. We have been laying in bed and now he’s said he shouldn’t talk to me at at all anymore as if I’m too sensitive and I’m the problem, forgetting that he instigated this by talking about the fact that he might have slept with my aunt. I just don’t get how this sort of behaviour is ok to the girl you’re meant to love and not want to cause pain to.
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  • I'm wondering to myself what is this gal doing still staying with this loser. sweet stuff, you aren't the problem. Red flag 1 he is drinking to the point of drunk, Red flag 2 he is buying Cocaine, Red flag 3 Police DVPO, Red flag #4 he said you weren't beautiful.(to any guy worth his salt the gal he is is beautiful to him, no matter what she looks like.) This is first glance, If i reread it I'm sure I could find more. Recommend leave before it gets physically abusing, sounds like its already mentally abusing.

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  • Sounds like we ain’t gettn the full story…cause obviously this dude is fuckin trash so why would you even give him the time of day? How hot is he? How good is the sex? You must be blinded by these things or trolling or lying because no fucking shit this dude is garbage, how do guys like this get women?

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  • Lmao dont listen to him you re not crazy.

  • My only question to you is, why the hell are you still with this loser?

  • Is he there last man on your planet? Why are you with him? Sounds like hell.

  • He’s full of bs

  • I don't know why you put up with this