Guys, he keeps complimenting other women but not me after admitting he's into me, why?

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so there's this guy who i have met up with a few times and we flirted a bit.. we stated our intentions and i said that i wanted some fun and so did he... told me he's into me etc. i find myself flirting and complimenting him and he hardly does the same to me but he will compliment other women to me. he will be awkward when things get sexual with me but open sexually over others and it's starting to pss me off.

why would a guy do this? it's making me want to just say fking forget it, clearly you're into everyone but me so have at it. good luck.

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9 mo

by sexual, i mean the topic of convo of things we're open to doing.. he will kinda be short with me but when it concerns another he finds sexy he will let it be known that "i'd let her do anything to me" i mean wtf...

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FilmGuy93 Master
9 mo
People are always doing such weird and nonsensical shit. You should probably just ask him why he's doing what he is. A big part of communicating in relationships is speaking up when something bothers you.
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- Asker
  9 mo
  we're not in a relationship. we want friends with benefits but he's taking it upon himself to compliment others to me more than me.. even though he said he's into me. honestly i'm about to throw this douche to the curb someone else can put up with his ass while i find a man who actually desires me.
- Asker
  9 mo
  compliment others TO me!!! like wtf. have some class man yaknow?
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  That's probably a good idea. FWBs are never a good arrangement for women who want to be taken seriously. But what makes you think he's going out of his way to compliment every woman but you?
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- Asker
  9 mo
  because he hardly compliments me when i compliment him and yet i hear him complimenting others sexiness all the time. i literally just mentioned in my original post the kind of stuff he's doing. i want a friends with benefits.. unfortunately a lot of dumbasses forget the friend within the friend with benefits... i think i'm going to stop trying with this guy.. friendzone him because... i just find what he's doing a turn off and makes me want to give him a right hook.
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  No no, what I'm asking is whether you have directly said the words "[Fuck Buddy], I want you to compliment me more," or expressly asked him "[Fuck Buddy], why are you complimenting other women more than you compliment me?" Ending things is probably a good idea, just in general, but women don't always realize how important it is actually say these things in unambiguous terms.
- Asker
  9 mo
  why the fk would i want to ask someone to compliment me... the thought alone makes my clit shrivel. i want a guy who desires me not who i have to teach to be attracted to me lol believe me i communicate but there's some things i'm too prideful to say because they should be common sense... or naturally happen. im just not going to flirt with him anymore.. im furious. i swear the audacity people have these days is unmatched.
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  You aren't asking someone to compliment you by telling them that it hurts your feelings when you feel like they desire everyone else more than you! lmao I get what you're saying though. You want to feel wanted and you don't want to feel like it was your idea to want you.
- Asker
  9 mo
  exactly!!! to your second bit. but yea.. it looks pathetic if i have to ask for a guy to BE attracted to me. get the whole hell out of my face while i find someone who's ACTUALLY into me. it bugs me way too much and i'm a proud woman
- Asker
  9 mo
  so.. here's an update lol i said to him at the end of a message discussing tomorrows plans.. that i feel it's best we're just friends as i don't feel he's that attracted/into me. it's ok though i appreciate his friendship. when in doubt, friendzone lol what ya think? better than begging him to want me right lol
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  I would give him a chance to prove himself. If he finds out that he's losing you, he might step up his game.
- Asker
  9 mo
  he had a chance... he fked it up. that's that.. i have someone else in mind anyway :P he can suck on my toes before i'd give him another chance... what he did i consider disrespectful.
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  The way to get people to respect you is to have healthy boundaries and communication with them. The problem with FWBs is that those healthy boundaries aren't usually communicated with any clarity.
- Asker
  9 mo
  i'm ok with boundaries.. but being attracted and desiring someone isn't a boundary it's a must otherwise what's the point. besides.. he doesn't seem bothered he just simply said "thanks for expressing your feelings on the matter and i'm glad you told me :) " so it's whatever, respectful... but what an idiot tho lol
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  The boundary is not wanting him to talk up other girls with you
- Asker
  9 mo
  he doesn't talk up other girls.. he tells me how hot he thinks someone is. there's a difference. like if you're wanting to sleep with me and seduce me don't talk about how hot you find sally.. go fk sally and leave me alone to find a dude who wants me. is my point there. he's not bothered anyway so.. fk him lol there's other dudes.
- Asker
  9 mo
  he's not my friend with benefits officially yet, he said he was into me and would love for us to do more eventually... and instead of trying to make my chicka wet for him he'd rather talk about how hot he finds others. either way it's done.. he's done. fk that lol
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  That sounds like a really pointlessly weird situation! lmao This kind of thing really is why I don’t do FWBs; it always gets pointlessly weird and uncomfortable. Too many people forget that you have to nice and respectful to your fuck buddy. They aren’t a sex toy; they are your friend
- Asker
  9 mo
  EXACTLY!! that's exactly my point my dude. i'm glad you get me there, there is supposed to be a level of respect in a friends with benefits. it's almost like a form of negging that he was doing. ah well he's friendzoned now and i hit someone else up. he's attracted but not as much as i'd like and he makes it known he's single by walking away from me if pretty girls appear in public lol but he doesn't talk about how hot other women are around me or point out one that he finds hot.. and when he's with me we chill and then i find as we speak more he gets closer and more... flirty/sexual.. you can feel that sexual pull, almost like it's only us in the world for that moment. now that's what i want. see how it goes.. i dnno. i'm not jumping into bed right away i'm just... seeing the best one for the job so to speak. i been single for 4 years, havn't had sex in 3 so... wish me luck i guess haha thanks for responding by the way appreciate it :)
- Asker
  9 mo
  was talking about the other guy i hit up there, by the way not the douchebag one haha
- FilmGuy93
  9 mo
  I knew who you meant!

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HSalenko Xper 6
9 mo
Seems like he's playing around, or he doesn't feel like he has to put in the effort anymore. I think it's the former, I don't know him but it could be the novelty of you has worn off now that he knows you're "available" to him. Seems rather stupid to me. Dump and move on, friends with benefits is only real of you see a benefit.
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