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He left me for his baby momma?

So me and this guy were talking/dating for 3 months. He said he really liked me and liked turned into love. The sex was amazing, and whenever I saw him, things were great. He got pretty distant about a couple weeks ago, and I noticed that he made excuses not to come over. Well he just got back together with his baby momma. :( They were broken up for like 5 months, so I don't understand any of this. He told me they never got along. Now I found out that I'm pregnant. And I told him, but no reply. It apparent that I guess he never cared about me. Now I'm here, pissed off at myself and I hate him. I'm getting an abortion, but I can't even handle this right now. What do I do? Has anyone dealt with this? What do I do if he tries to come back to me? My heart is shattered.
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  • You are wise to get the abortion and move on. Keeping it means you and the child are in for a lifetime of assholery from him. He was meant to be with his ex and she probably made him feel a lot of guilt and he bought it. Good riddance. At the first sign of trouble he seemed to have left her anyway and getting her pregnant was her problem too. Flip-flopping back and forth between you isn't fair to anyone involved and you are best to forget it, and will thank yourself later for terminating the pregnancy and considering this a lesson-learned.

    I am sure you'll be fine. Many female friends of mine who have done this exact same thing have told me just after only a year later that they would have been screwed to keep the child or worry about whether or not to go back. Great sex can be found elsewhere easily. He's not the only guy in the world. You and your future child deserve a guy who will be there 100% for both of you, be there during your pregnancy as a great partner, and stick with it through hard times. It seems he just couldn't hack the pregnancy and child and the sudden change in life they had and now he's regretting it, meanwhile, he was with you - not such a hot thing to know for the other girl who may or may not know her man had a relationship with someone else while they were apart.

    But considering that they have a child together and he's choosing her, even if he told you she was horrible, it's his decision and that's that. They had something more invested and you had a few months together.

    You can now move on and find a guy who will not put you through this kind of hurt and drama he put her through - and really - was about to put you through too. Start your life fresh and try and detox this person from your life for the greater good. Good luck! :)

  • ask him to go with you. it has to be face to face. but normally when guys get back with their baby moms is because its tough raising a kid and they were probably in love before he met you. And I know guys get back with their baby moms to not have to pay child support. But ask him if he would have your back nicely that sucks you are going through this no person should by themselves. or ask a close friend you trust to go through with this if that's your decision, and if that guy never supports you DON'T GET BURNT TWICE!

Most Helpful Guys

  • Millions of girls have dealt with and you know how this stories turnout. You are right to be angry at yourself; you should have been using birth control. Abortion is not an acceptable form of birth control and you should think very long and carefully about that option; many women regret that decision for the rest of their lives. Learn your lessons and move on.

  • Find a therapist who deals with pregnant women and get some help through this. That he went back to his child should not surprise you.

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  • Why abort when a couple can get the child?

  • First thing you gotta do (I know it's hard), but you gotta forgive yourself and not hate yourself. He did this to you at no fault of your own. Best bet? Get some good friends and just use them as a support group to help you through this. :)

  • well you know he had a baby with another girl , you know them relationships never work

  • just move on.

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