He masturbate in the garage?

My husband always go smoke and sometimes do weed in the garage, and he always, always take forever. I just found out that he's taking forever because he's watching porn and masturbating! Im so pissed off about it because im always available and never rejected him, but why the hell he gotta choose porn over me? Im still in shape, nothings changed. I dont mind if he does it when im not available, but doing it when i am?
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  • your husband has a problem. you need to confront him on this. not to condemn him but make it clear you don't like what he's doing and ask him why he's watching porn when he doesn't have to. (don't get mad. you need to honestly want his answer. don't yell or nag. -remember anything negative you do he can think to himself that the pc or phone doesn't do that. giving himself a dumb excuse for porn).
    after you ask listen to his answer. the next question is how long has this been going on. (If he says it started recently he's probably lying. if it actually started recently he will know the specific time and situational cause) the next question is to ask if he's addicted.
    more than likely he needs counseling. you need to research how addictive porn is. I don't think you understand yet the repercussions. guy into porn are more likely to cheat on their wives and molest children.
    not to mention his habit makes you feel insecure like you aren't good enough bc he'd rather watch a flippin screen than be with you. -you can't let this continue because it will destroy you inside and negatively affect your self worth.

    you need to let him know porn is not acceptable. you are his wife and you well not let some whore on a screen replace you with your husband. and you will not let him disrespect you like that either.
    if he makes any excuse, acts like he's doi g nothing wrong, or like you're overreacting (remember don't get mad. if you stay calm his claim will be false) then you know his is addicted.

    if you are a Christian you have it easy bc you can show him in the Bible porn is wrong. if you aren't Christians you just have to hold that it's wrong and go off of him being addicted.

    If he says he's addicted challenge him to go thirty days with no porn.
    or you can give him an ultimatum that he will get counseling and you both get marriage counseling or you will leave him.

    his answers when you confront him will determine which of those options you shouldn't choose. just remember DONT get mad. those women on the screen never get mad at him. that is what he'll be thinking if you blow up on him. you need to be calm but firm and no-nonsense. it needs to be clear that you mean exactly what you are saying.

    • I will ask you this just to be safe, is your husband a violent person? if so, you can either have your phone in hand or call 911 and tell them you're about to confront your husband about something, you don't know how he will react and just wanted 911 to stay on the phone just in case. the. you have your phone on the counter or in your hand when you talk. you can put it on speaker and turn off the volume so you can't hear the caller but they hear you. it's always best to stay safe. specifically if he's the type who might get violent this way you're protected.

  • sometimes a wank is better than sex. little effort is involved and you know exactly how to get yourself off. its a quick release.

    also, (im talking from my point of view here) the more sex a man has, the hornier he is. So it could just be that he needs a quick release.

    • Really? It seems lile the more sex we have, the less he wants..

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  • You're over reacting. I've masturbated for a few years and I recently became sexually active and so I don't use masturbating to satisfy that urge. I don't need it for that reason. I do it because it improves my mood and makes me happier and less stressed. It's like a way to cope and make life less stressful. Your husband is probably the same way.

  • quick questions
    1 Do you work?
    2 How do you dress at home
    3 Do you both show a lot of affection towards each other at home?

    • I dont work, i now dress to show my skin cause he hates me showing skin. Yes we do from time to time

    • Like men are visual creatures. So you're home all the time and if he sees you with messed up hair and normal clothes every day, that becomes unattractive ( I'm not saying YOU are unattractive) but you get to comfortable and lose the spark. So thats why its always nice to "dress up" and do romantic stuff together to keep the flame going. Now I'm not saying you have to do that everyday but maybe once a week you have date night. So have a conversation with him and try to work on your marriage before its too late.

    • by the way its not all on you. He has to make an effort as well.

  • You really need to talk to him about what it is he's getting out of this.

  • Porn and you are separate issues

    One doesn't substitute the other

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  • I'll suggest you to watch the movie DON JON, It's the perfect representation of your situation, Trust me. You won't regret. Stay Blessed. 💞

  • When my wife caught me masturbating I was massively embarrassed. However, she came in the room and asked if I would like some help with that. I ain't tupid... lol Every now and then I would let her "accidentally" catch me. Guaranteed a nice blow job and sex.

    That was a long time ago. Even before the Internet and easy porn. Since then we divorced and went our own way.

    I still let the woman in my life "accidentally" catch me. The result is always the same. A couple relationships ago my woman would jack me off till I came if she was not in the mood.

    I learned when a woman "catches" me masturbating she is always more than willing to "help" me with it. Never once did any of them get mad. Women much prefer to be a part of what is a natural human desire than have me do it without her.

    I can't speak for all women. And I would not make it a habit of "accidentally" getting caught. If your husband must masturbate consider pulling him away from watching porn and be a part of it. It will add a new dimension to your sex life and if you really enjoy doing that for him he will know and look forward to the next time. And the next. And the time after...

  • Sex with you isn't enough to get him off maybe? He's not being stimulated enough.

  • Tell him you want more sex.

  • Has your sex life been affected in any way because of him masturbating? Or are you just against him doing it?

    Some guys just want do it cause it's minimal effort for a similar pleasure. Don't think it's a big deal unless the frequency in which you two are having sex is going down.

  • You should tell him how you feel , why sneak to smoke and masturbate not fair to you?

  • Louis CK talks about this😂. He says since he had kids he didn't get much sex and privacy so he would masturbate in the garage

  • they're two different things. they aren't tradable.

  • you probably aren't as available as you think. my partner thinks she's available, and im unhappy every day. i masturbate every day in the shower. he wouldn't need to if you fulfilled him.

  • he wants something you probably won't provide... something either taboo or fetish.. OR GAY PORN!!! yes its a reality sometimes.
    good luck:)

  • So does he still show lots of interest in you

  • you must check other dicks if he wasting his on garage.

  • Why would you even marry a dick like him? And also there are Hot as fuck girls like mia Khalifa. Also, fill in a divorce. If you want.

  • How many marijuanas does he do?

  • i'd have to see a pic of u first ;)