He’s A Fast One?

[Cutiesub]

So, last night I had sex for the first time and it hurt like hell, but he came very quick as soon as it stopped hurting for me (like immediately after it stopped hurting) and since I hardly felt any pleasure I asked for a round two and that time he didn’t finish either but I felt amazing.
Today, it was the same thing; he came quick after my pain went away and we went a round two but he lasted a little longer yet I still didn’t even come close to finishing. I’ve told him about me not being able to finish fast or at all sometimes and he understood, but I don’t understand what makes him finish so fast. He says it’s because “it just feels so good” and “you sound so cute” but I want him to last longer, it’s an accomplishment that I made him finish so fast honestly. But four times and two out of four I’m in pain or he’s too deep so I can’t feel as much pleasure as he does, it just doesn’t feel fair. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

Be sure you are wet and ready for him before having intercourse. If you're not, have him eat you longer first. Try some lube if there is still pain. If it continues see your doctor.
If he's cumming too quickly have him take a break when he's getting close and have him eat or finger you. Also try some positions to make it less tight such as missionary with your legs spread wide.
If he's going too deep for you, tell him what you can handle. Try cowgirl position so you can control the depth.
If you're not getting enough pleasure to cum, try fingering yourself during intercourse.

[Cutiesub]

He doesn’t really use his fingers unless I tell him it hurts too much and he’ll only do it for like 10 seconds before going trying to go back in, he also has never gone down on me once and he usually doesn’t use lube; he’ll just use his spit when he realizes how much it hurts for me. I’ve also told him that it was too deep before but he just kept going and ended up finishing like a few seconds after. When we tried it with me on top it didn’t feel as good but he still felt good, and I ended up getting off and asking if we could try a different position but he responded with something along the lines of “can you suck me off”

[Opinion Owner]

I get the impression that most of the problems you are experiencing are a result of him not having any interest in giving you pleasure. I suggest inviting him to see a couple's or sex therapist with you. If he refuses that will confirm it.

[Cutiesub]

Honestly I feel like it’s already confirmed with me since I’ve always gone down on him but he’s never once done it for me, but I like him enough to try and work things out...

[Opinion Owner]

Give him the opportunity to work things out and see how he reacts.

[Cutiesub]

Thank you, I’ll let you know how things go. Right now he says he wants a break from sex because it’s too much for him and he feels like he won’t be able to control himself, so after the break is over I’ll give an update. Thank you for the advice.

[Opinion Owner]

I hope it all works out for you. I look forward to the update. Best of luck to you. 🤗

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the update. It sounds like he's now interested in helping you finish. Hopefully with a little more direction and positive reinforcement he'll get you there. I'm looking forward to your next installment.

[RealMarek]

The first time is usually not the most pleasurable. You should tell him it is important for him to try to last longer. There are things he can do that help (make sure he’s aroused for ten minutes before penetration, have him go down on you first, have him vary position or angle of penetration if he’s about to orgasm too soon, he can even recite the alphabet backward to distract himself from how good it feels).

[Cutiesub]

Wow thank you so much, I’ll definitely keep that in mind. Right now he said he wants a break because it’s too much for him

[RealMarek]

You’re welcome. It’s okay to take a break. Just know that you will both get more skilled sexually with experience together, especially if you communicate well.

[RealMarek]

Thanks for MHO. I saw your update. I’m happy the two of you are figuring things out!

[Jessica405]

Simply tell him what YOU want! Too many guys just think of themselves. They cum, and it's finished. You have to teach them how to pace themselves, so you get there at least once, before they do.

[Cutiesub]

I’ve tried a little but he didn’t exactly listen too much

[Jessica405]

That's his problem. Maybe find a new guy that is more skilled and wiling to learn.

[Anonymous]

He's just Worried about himself, so he fucks you untill he cums, then he is done. Doesn't even matter if you want more.

[Cutiesub]

He said that he can’t go more than one round with me because “it feels too good” which is also why he finishes so fast, him finishing fast doesn’t really bother me though it’s just not getting any pleasure at all from it and then him being too rough or too fast...

[buddysboy16]

If you're not already, using a condom could help his endurance. It would help you too if its one of those "for her" condoms that slows the guy down and speeds the girl up

[Cutiesub]

He finished fast when wearing the condom and without...

[buddysboy16]

And then keeps going?

[Cutiesub]

It takes him at least like 3 minutes to get ready again and by that time it hurts again when he goes back in

[buddysboy16]

Send me a dm. I have a few ideas but have more questions first

[Cutiesub]

Okay

[buddysboy16]

I sent a reply

[In_Trance]

who ever said life was fair?

[Cutiesub]

Well I may have just lost my virginity but I do know one thing about sex and that is that it’s usually supposed to be a mutual feeling, the only guys or girls who think it’s okay for the other not to get off are the ones who can’t manage to do it. But maybe I’m wrong. Who knows?

[In_Trance]

That comes with experience and is not necessarily a universal truth or automatic reciprocation

[Cutiesub]

Eh fair point, I just don’t want to be unsatisfied but I like him enough to work something out I guess, I just imagined that my first time would be a lot more pleasurable than what it was you know? Thanks for the dope response by the way

[MisSmooth765]

Big dick just feels so good, fuck!!!

[Cutiesub]

Well I don’t think it’s something that’s too good for beginners or for a first time lol