He's being dominant during sex. Do you think that this means that he doesn't respect me?

He grabbed my neck and slapped me in the face. My friends said that probably he just likes being dominant. He does stuff like that all the time during sex. Is not that i hate it I just think that maybe he doesn't respect me cause he is treating me like a whore. What do you guys think?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm just guessing here but I feel like he's just being dominant but you need to talk about it. If he's gonna get rough, which is fine if you're okay with it, then you need some safe words to use. With safe words, you can role play and resist and he'll know you're just role playing and can subdue you. It's a huge turn on for me when she struggles and I have to overpower her and take what I want.

    There is absolutely no disrespect in that. It's important that he understand that in a Dominant/submissive scene, it all starts and ends with the consent of the sub.

    Does that help?

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  • Did you talk about doing anything like that beforehand? That's the most important part of what's called a "scene" Setting limits, hard limits, what you absolutely will not do, and do not want done, and soft limits, what you're willing to try but feel nervous about. Also a safe word to end the scene. Try talking to him about it, because right now you are in an abusive relationship. If it isn't a scene, if it isn't established parameters, safe, and comfortable before sex, you will get hurt emotionally and physically. I'm talking rape and collapsed orbital or busted teeth at best.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If he treats you well outside of the bedroom then I would say that he is just being dominant and still respects you. Does the rough sex upset/bother you? If so talk to him about it. His reaction to you bringing it up will show his true character.

  • Talk to him about it. Could be that he's just dominant, plus probably seen it in porn

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  • I wouldn't do this without talking about it first to see if she likes, but it has nothing at all to do with lacking respect. I just enjoy being dominant.

  • If its consentional and you talked about it beforehand, than its fine. I dont think he is disrespecting you. Its just his kink

  • He is just being dominant and possibly replicating what he saw in porn since that is what he has learned is dominant behavior. If he is a sweet guy aside from this i assume he may also do it because he expects you to like it. Talk to him about it so you both know what works and doesn't work as a couple and who needs what during sex and the reason they need it.

  • I don't like him doing this without prior discussion. Face-slapping is pretty rough. How do you feel about it? That's the only thing that matters. Also how does he treat you otherwise?

  • If you are in a romance with him, if he doesn't do that stuff to you outside of the bedroom, then he's just sexually dominant which is normal amongst males.

  • It doesn't mean he doesn't respect u. He's just dominant in sex. Let him have some fun in bed (if u like it too) and if he respects u out of bed u shouldn't worry.

  • Nothing wrong with guys taking the lead... we are supposed to... but abuse is unacceptable.

  • Should ask him or maybe do it yourself dominate him most dominant men want it themselves I know I'm the same I act like that during sexy but fantasize about girl doing it to me make him worship u head to toe worship feet all day up demand and make him

  • "he is treating me like a whore"
    So when are you going to run to him again and ask to be treated like that again tonight?

  • If he treats you well all the other times he respects you, he just likes being a bit rough in sex.

  • It's abuse

    • That's exactly what I thought.