He’s made it known to me that he likes Big Breasts…?

But I have very small breasts.. but a big butt. Not that that matters. Is he settling for me?
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Again, I don’t know if this matters but he’s told me that I have one of the prettiest faces he’s ever seen. And I’m very confident about my body and self, but ever since he’s made it known that he likes big breasts I’ve been made to feel like what I have to offer isn’t enough. He called my breasts “cute”.. but all throughout his phone (his likes and search history) are women with big breasts and he’s constantly making jokes about big breasts.. I don't know. It makes me feel a little inadequate.
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  • I'd say it's pretty insensitive of him to say that to you, and to keep bringing it up like that. Is he settling for you though? Hard to say. I mean, there must be some reason why he's with you, but I hope it's not all about looks to him. He says he likes big boobs, he says he thinks you have one of the prettiest faces he's ever seen, and he says he thinks your boobs are "cute". But does he say anything about who you are and your qualities as a person other than your looks? Does he talk about how he values your traits, your interests, your humour, etc? I can only hope he does. Hopefully he's not in it just for your looks, or that he's just "settling" for you.

    For me, a partner should make you feel cherished and valued the way you are, and doesn't create feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. If you were confident going into the relationship and no longer have that same self-confidence with him, that's a sign that something is wrong, and for your sake you can't allow someone to mold your self-worth in a negative way like that.

    However, I would talk with him more about it though. I know it might be hard, but tell him how him saying that makes you feel. Tell him that it makes you feel inadequate when he says things like that, and see what he says. Communication is so important in any relationship and you need to talk about these things to come to a better understanding about them (whether good or bad), or else they'll just begin to fester and eat away at you.

    Best of luck, and despite what happens, you're beautiful enough the way you are. Just don't allow someone to determine that for you.

    • Thank you so much. That last part really hit home for me I really needed to hear this.

    • @fwcheerios Hey, you're welcome. All the best to you.

  • You should ask his opinion of your butt. It's well known that men that like big butts cannot lie, a fact others cannot deny.

    If so, then you can believe him when he says he loves you, and not worry about him 'settling' as he's very happy with you.

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  • Ask yourself, if you liked bigger dicks than what he has, would you be settling for him?

  • I doubt it! I go more for bigger breasts but I have several friends who have smaller breasts that I would LOVE to get my hands on.

  • May not be settling. Just because he like big breasts in a general sense doesn't mean he doesn't like yours.

    • Regarding your update: you have to choose to believe in yourself that he likes you -- or not. Feeling inadequate is a choice. One you're allowed to make, but a choice.

  • Maybe your breasts are bigger than you think

    • Mm.. nope, they’re pretty small

  • People are going to have preferences but I would say it becomes an issue when it's constantly brought up by the person. Your breasts are just one aspect of who you are and it's nearly impossible to have everything your partner may want. Don't worry to much about it unless he keeps bringing it up every time he can.

  • Is there an aspect of him that you don't prefer? Are you settling because of this attribute?

  • I suggest you ask him if big breasts are a deal breaker.

  • Have you asked him?

  • Ah, a member of the itty bitty titty committee huh? Ain’t nothing wrong with that. In a way yes, we all settle for stuff. It’s just a matter of how much is that a deal breaker over anything else.

  • And?

    • If you like him, then you need to remind him how that makes you feel. Whether you date him or not depends on how he answers.

  • TBH I personally prefer a big butt any day. just saying

  • maybe he has changed to big butts over big breasts

  • how small exactly are yours?

    • Very small. A cups to be exact

    • well at least they are not flat