He said ‘you’re my slut’ during sex?

I have been seeing this guy for a while now and last niet we had sex for the first time. While we were having sex he liked to be rough which was fine because I’m into that as well. But he called me his ‘slut’ and he asked things like ‘are you my slut?’. So afterwards I asked him why he called me that and he said it just turns him on by saying it and seeing me as his slut in the bedroom. Is it true that some men like that or does he really see me as a slut?
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  • Hi there,
    Talking dirty during sex can be a huge turn on for a guy (and gal!). Don't overthink it. He is just super turned on and sees you as incredibly, irresistibly sexy. When a guy calls a girl a 'slut', or other sexually charged words during sex, it does not necessarily mean he sees you as a slut. Sexual arousal and excitement is often part of a power dynamic. When he calls you his slut while he is being a bit rough and having his way with your body, that is just a verbal expression of that sexual power dynamic. Again, it doesn't mean he actually thinks you are a slut. Just let go and enjoy the inhibition - both his and yours!

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  • I do similar things. He doesn't really see you as a slut in the normal sense of the word. It's just dirty talk. He may see you as a slut for him, which isn't the same as your generic slut. What it means is you do naughty things for him and him only, you are a "slut" but only for him (even though sluts usually are sluts for many people). But it's also not meant to be taken entirely literally. It's just dirty talk.

Most Helpful Girls

  • My husband tells me I'm his slut during sex and it turns him on as well as me, it's not so much he is calling me a slut but I'm his slut. In the bedroom or honestly anywhere I really am his shut I will do anything and everything I possibly can to please him and he knows it.

  • He gave you an honest answer. If you are here asking this it bothers you, might want to have a conversation with him about it. Ask him again and let him know how you feel, whatever that is. Little things can turn bigger with misunderstandings. Clear the air.

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  • This would only be a problem if you don't like that term and if you don't ask him to not use that term.

  • Did he say "His Slut" or "A Slut". There's a difference.

  • This is where stuff from BDSM (which porn picks up on) enters main stream sex but without the consent part.

    It is a part of BDSM which is degradation and is used as a sign of domination and ‘ownership’, however THE main reason for it, is the girl (submissive) gets off sexually on being called ‘his or her slut’, or words similar to it.

    it’s important to check before hand if this is acceptable, it’s part of informed consent, as degradation can be emotionally upsetting and in worst cases cause lasting harm.

    The Dominant always discusses this with the submissive in order to set limits and boundaries.

    Being Dominant in the bedroom is very important for submissive people, either those fully in to BDSM ( usually outside bedroom as well) or just wanting To be Dominated in the bedroom (other rooms also lol).

  • Calling a girlfriend a slut is not particularly complimentary.. He might have a low opinion of women..
    Keep alert for red flags.

  • It's normal, just for sex related things with him. It doesn't mean he really thinks you're a slut, many guys like to call their parter that in bed and many girls like to be called sluts in bed too.

    • *partner

  • I love being called a slut

  • i like being called “my slut” tho 🥴

  • It’s pillow talk girl, He likes that you are his slut , He doesn’t really think you are a slut , he is just turned on knowing you are his slut ,

  • You need to dump that asshole, ASAP! If he said it, he meant it. Why would any dumb ass say that to girl he had just had sex with?

  • I don’t think he actually thinks you’re a slut. Some people like getting degraded/degrading in the bedroom. If you’re not comfortable with it just tell him you don’t like it and he should respect that

  • Hmm message me

  • My man does that too. Hot af :)

    • @samantha_17 yes agreed, it’s also hot af from the Dom side of things as well, knowing she gets it at her core being.

  • It was only your first time having sex? I think it was a bit forward of him to say that to you. Seems rude to me.

  • Dumb ass should have shown some respect and ask you first if it was ok to call you that. But ask him.

  • a gourmet Chef in the kitchen a nanny to the kids' and a whore in the bed room!

  • Wait. Women don’t like being called sluts?

    Wow. Note to self. Don’t call women sluts anymore.

  • Well the saying is true a freak in the bed an a Lady in then streets some Men like.
    I like a freak in the bed an them streets as long as she ain't letting another guy touch her That's all good.
    So yes its true.
    God Bless

  • and?

  • He prob thinks since you might like it rough you might like the extra kink word play

  • Hmm it can definitely be hot to say stuff like that. I'd just make sure that he's a respectful guy outside that context.

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