I kinda understand where he's coming from. Sex isn't a "civilized" act. It's more primal than anything. In that situation, you're showing a side of yourself that you don't show to others, which is why it's intimate.
It sounds like it's his personal preference. There's more pressure on men in the sense that we have to perform, and we need to be "hard" and have stamina. It may be different for other guys, but I find that when I'm in control then I can perform better... because I'm in control.
I can stop when I'm getting to close. It's that kind of thing.
Respecting your man, I think plays into his ego and confidence.
I know there's a better way to go about explaining this, but it's just not coming to me right now.
I have the upmost respect for my girl, but in bed things are far more primal. You're animals.
Dropping some respect frees you up to be a little more aggressive, and a lot of girls like that. In public, he wouldn't grab your hair or spank your ass (if that's your thing).
I think I should have responded to this later in the day when my brain is more awake.
Does any of this at least make sense?
"Fucking" in the sense that it means he is just using her for his joy, and pleasure, with no care about her, well, YEAH!! THAT IS DEGRADING!!
Intimate, sensual loving should be shared, among equal partners, for the joy and pleasure of both.
A man DEFINITELY NEEDS TO RESPECT A WOMAN, and her rights, and her choices as an equal person. A woman is not some property, or plaything for a man!
How can she respect him, when he doesn't respect her, and treat her like a person, an equal?
I think he is trying to manipulate you, and get you to do things you might not want to do with him. He doesn't sound like he is worthy of trust or respect!
Ok first of all, women do not need to respect a man in order to have sex with them. Just anecdotally, and as a general rule. I'm not sure where he got that from.
Secondly, I'm not a man, nor privy to what goes on inside their heads, but I've never personally been with someone who treated sex as degrading. That's not a normal thing to think, and it sounds like he's got a lot of hang ups and harmful misconceptions about sex.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Nah, only pathetic fucking losers who are bitter because their mommy didn't love them see sex as degrading.
No man is authorized to speak for ALL men. He can express his own opinions, and he can summarize what he has heard from his friends ("birds of a feather flock together.") No, all men do not have those beliefs.
Well he’s a cock and has not got a clue.
simple as that he’s entirely wrong.
Any time a man speaks for all men he's falsely assuming that every man is just like himself. No it's not true.
Looks like another one bites the dust lol it's his loss and that's somebody who I wouldn't want to hang around with as a friend kind of sounds like a control freak to me
Sounds like an Arab man. Most of the civilised world thinks differently.
What kind of garbage is that?
Who told you this? Some clod who wants to treat you like crap, but you need to treat him like a king?
Find a better guy to get to know.
Sex (fucking included) is a beautiful and wonderful act.
Not at all true. Red flag. Run away.
Well first thing is first, everyone has different views and is different.
Personally I strongly disagree with the first statement. The second is true though for a lot of guys (and some women don't have to either, just ask my last fwbs lol). That doesn't mean though that he doesn't respect you necessarily.
He is not from THIS planet, is he? Must be from Mars or Saturn, maybe another solar system. Does he have five fingers AND a thumb. Look him over closely, maybe an alien !
Dump this moron !
It's not necessarily inherently degrading unless you have a fucked up view of sex. It can be a little degrading or some people enjoy playing around with that as a kink. But that's quite different from genuinely seeing all sex that way.
the second - it's absolutely true that men as a rule don't need to respect a woman to have sex with her. Not all women need to respect men to have sex with them but it seems like many do, at least in order to feel genuinely attracted.
I don't think this is even remotely true. Sex is the ultimate way to bond with somebody.
That's not how I see things, but I'm realizing that people think all kinds of weird shit.
Fucking, as long as it's not raping, is what you let it be mutually. If you let the other degrade you then so be it. If the degradation is bi polar than so be it.
The former - false.
The latter - true.
The former - fucking is the physical act of love for a man. Nothing degrading about it. Men connect physically, women connect emotionally. When a man is attracted to a woman he wants to connect physically with her. It's the testosterone - he has some 15-25 times as much as you do - the sex-drive hormone. It influences EVERYTHING for men. Women simply and physically cannot relate to this, it's impossible.
The latter - it's not so much 'respect' as it is DESIRE. If a woman wants to get with a man he would be nuts to turn her down. He might not want to marry her, but he'd sure do her.
If a woman wants to get with a man she'll break all the rules to do it.
If she doesn't, she'll make up a new rule every day why she can't.
I'm going to phrase it this way, just for me.
I NEED a woman to respect me in order to sleep with her and she should expect the same thing or she will get with men that are degrading her.
Not true at all, and he's got issues.
No even little bit true. Also fyi most absolute statements are false
No, not at all. Just don’t be a slut. Sex is great and there is nothing wrong with it. Enjoy it with the right partners and he and his buddies can talk about how it’s gross while they are watching porn hub.
The second paragraph is true.
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