He told me I’m bad at my sex positions?

I have a friends with benefits and he told me I’m bad at doggy style which is his favourite position. He’s my first time and I’ve only ever done missionary and on top. We tried dodgy style the other day and it just didn’t work because he said I wasn’t positioned right. He told me to watch pornhub then to get back to him in 3 weeks when I’ve watched it. I’m a bit offended lol but I just take it on the chin. How can I prove to him though I’ve gotten better before inviting him? I don’t wanna invite him round when he thinks I can’t arch my back properly and he’s not gonna come if he dosent think I’ve improved, help?
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  • It's up to the guy to put you in the position that works well for him. Then you can feel it feels good or not. I'm wondering if he's a bit clueless and trying to blame it on you. There are probably slight differences in preferences but the whole thing about doggy style is that the man's in control for the most part and the woman is there to enjoy it. Some are ok with a woman adding a bit of movement. Depends if the man is ok with that.

    Post Note: Porn hub isn't the whole expert on sex. You might look up some ideas on you tube and buy some actual books. Look up Silk Labo. It's a Japanese company that caters more to women viewers. The scenes are more "gentle" and "couple" orientated most of the time but not always. In those videos you see the men positioning the women into the correct position whether it be couple videos or hook ups scenarios.

    • Don't get to deep with this man. No nudes. He seems a bit selfish.

  • Is sex with someone who says offensive things really what you need in your life?

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  • I'm not quite sure how any woman can be bad at doggy? She just gets on her knees ass in the air, knees slightly spread, hops tilted up. Then he may need to pull you closer or raise your butt a bit higher but after that the woman basically just holds that position while the guy does the work. There really isn't anything for you to do wrong or be bad at doing?

  • Okay. Just breathe. We can fix this. First of all, for me the only proper doggy is chest down, ass up, knees apart, hips tilted doggy. Do you best to show him your clit from behind. If you want to enhance things, reach back with both hands and spread your cheeks.

    Does that help?

    • That helps yes thanks. But how shall I prove to him I’ve learnt. I know this sounds silly but he’s not gonna wanna see me until he kinda has proof on it. He lives very far away.

    • Send him a very explicit photo but encrypt it first. Are you into anal yet?

    • So do you think I should send him a picture of me arching my back or something? I’ve sent him a few nudes before but he said he prefers if I were to start sending videos? And no I’m not into that yet

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  • Unless you are overweight, he should be able to grab you by the hips, neck, and/or hair to position you exactly how you need to be. That is, in fact, the whole point of doggystyle. That he doesn't seem to know this tells me he doesn't know what he's doing.

    • I mean I didn’t feel positioned very right though since we were in a kitchen leaning on the side.

    • If he is a bit on the short side, you might need to stick your ass out. But apart from that I can't think of anything, regardless of where..

    • Yeah he is a bit on the short side

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  • Well if it's your first time you just need practice honestly that the only way you going to get better.

  • He has shown you unforgivable disrespect. There are diplomatic ways to discuss sex but he did not respect you enough to be "lawyerly" about it. You should cut him off.

  • I would never tell a woman that.

  • Leave such a judgmental guy and find another one who will help you, not judge you.

  • Disgusting behavior. So much fail. QUIT DOING THIS.

  • He needs to quit getting his tips from porn. People don’t really have sex like that. Instead of just telling you to watch porn he needs to be vocal in the bedroom. Move here, arch this , scoot back right there. The more you both communicate the more enjoyable it will be.

  • LMAO. How can a girl be bad at doggy style? All she has to do is take the dick. If something isn't working, it's HIS fault. Everything is on him. It's literally his responsibility.

  • There's not much you can do as a female during any sex position actually (except cowgirl). That being said, if he didn't get any pleasure from doggystyle position, it's mainly because HE sucks at it not you.

  • Find someone else and practice together.
    After all, you are allowed to talk during sex.

  • You are good

  • He spends way to much time watching porn obviously

  • I think you have stretcing your back. if you stretching your back, you can do arch better. An example you can do: Cat-Camel (google it)
    Good luck dude :)

  • Tell to f**k off and get a real boyfriend to learn more stuff with

  • This guy sounds like an ass. If he were a nice guy he would be more interested in you as a person and not just how you position your body during doggy style sex. And to say to get back to him in 3 weeks after you've watched porn to learn this? What a dipshit this guy is. Yeah I like doggy also but I wouldn't think about saying this to someone.

  • ''I have a friends with benefits''

    Any sentence that begins this way always ends the same. It's a sign of a declining society. You are asking how to adjust to someone that has no respect for you. Continue on this path, and by the time you are around 30, you will face regret and be unable to bond.

  • I didn't know you could do anything wrong! lol But just say, "I watched some porn like you said and I see what you mean, come over and lets try it again!"

  • He's and ass, don't see him again.

    If you weren't " position right " , whatever that means. He could have just told you how to position yourself or helped you. That's how sex works.