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He wants me to be "rough" with him. What does that mean?

During a recent encounter with a guy I've been dating he kept saying "I want you to be rough with me." I asked what he wanted me to do and he responded "just be rough."

I tried all sorts of things that I thought might be "rough" like pulling his balls super hard, biting his nipples and his ball sack - HARD, finger in his ass, giving him a blow job but not letting him come till I told him it was okay.

He said he loved everything but wanted more so I need another ideas.

I'm thinking about asking him what is something you are dying to try but have been afraid to ask for. Is there another way to approach this with him or ask without being intimidating or embarrassing him? I would love to ask DURING sex but he has some hearing issues so while he can talk and sometimes read my lips most of the time it is impossible to communicate with words.

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  • Does he watch a lot of porn? (past porn addiction counts too.)

    If yes, ask him to watch his favorites on rough sex. You should get lots of ideas there. And ideas that he likes.

    Other suggestions:

    1) try toys like butt plug, cock ring, handcuffs, even chastity cage.

    2) tie him up and then milk him, then make him drink them.

    3) let him rim you. No hands, tongue only. (you write the story)

    4) prison scene: he's sentenced to 10 strokes of the cane bare butt. Make sure you buy a corporal punishment cane and hot ointment to apply after his ordeal.

    Well yes, guilty. I got these from porn 😜

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  • Could try a kinklist together I suppose? They usually cover a lot and let you specify how interested you are. Many of them also come with matching functions so you will only see what you both liked if done apart.

    Also, any fantasies you have will seem twice as appealing so don't hesitate to make it about you. If there is something you think would be interesting, do suggest it.

    There's always the obvious next steps to take stances towards.

    • Interesting place to start. Looked it up and learn a lot! I guess that is part of the problem is my repertoire is limited... i need to learn new tricks...

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  • You could try suffocating him with your melons, honkers, boobies, tits, milkers, chesticles, honkers, bazoombas, coconuts, fiery biscuits, cantaloupes, boom booms, or ginormous fun bags.

  • I don’t think there’s any way way you would embarrass him by asking that

  • He’s a sub

  • Why don’t you just punch him in the face i’m sure he will be pleased by that. Just kidding

  • Have you tried fucking him in the ass with a gigantic strap-on dildo?

  • He means he wants to be rough on you probably. He’s probably not bold enough to tell you.

  • Strap on..

  • Ask him how he feels about getting slapt or if he's into ballbusting.

    • I think he would definitely be into anything but part of the problem is my repertoire is limited... i need to learn new tricks...

    • Is it just rough handling or other forms of treatment as well?

    • He just says "rough" but I don't think it is necessarily domination because he likes to be in charge as well, even during the same session, and wants to be told I want/need it and who gives it to me, etc. Other than the forceful ball tugging, sack biting, and finger, I flipped him over and kissed his back, sucked on his neck while turning his head to the side by pulling his hair, then i got him on all fours and put his hand on his cock so he could jerk off while i licked his ass. he said he really liked that. I'm just not sure what else rough would be especially when there are no toys in the bedroom it is just me.

  • Just talk more about his desires. It sounds like he wants to share!

    • I guess I feel awkward if we aren't in the act or after but because of his hearing loss we can't do it...

    • Do you know ASL?

    • No... and neither does he. Usually we communicate with him reading my lips or a captioning app on the phone. I'm thinking about having him keep the phone next time because I don't see any other way.

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  • Fist him, peg him

    • Would you follow me

  • When he’s not expecting it just kick him in the balls as hard as you possibly can! If he wants more than what you’ve already done, then that seems like something worth doing.

  • Peg him

  • Do you want me to ask him for you?

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