He wants sex but?

[Anonymous]

We never slept together because he stopped texting or replying to my texts and started seeing other girls. On our dates, it was mixed signals because he was saying things that indicated short term only but he was mentioning his friends. However, he has continued to play hard to get, chase me, be extra nice to me sometimes and when I texted him after several months, he replied and was saying how sweet I am, how concerned I am for him etc. He stares at me a lot too. Sometimes he can be standing somewhere then suddenly turn to watch me. He also never deleted my number and still has it saved. He was also acting jealous, when he saw me with a guy. I met him after 2 weeks after he saw me with my friend and at first, he wasn't even talking to me. Then I kept talking and he was talking but he looked annoyed. He didn't even come with me through the same door. Later on, he asked me who the guy was and why I lied saying i was going to buy groceries when i was meeting that guy. to which I told him I bumped into the guy and didn't go to meet him. So I don't understand. If he just wants to have sex with me, why is he acting like this?

[WhitneySnow]

He does not like you for real. Guys just get crazy jealous when they wanna have sex with you but you say no. If you do it with him he’ll lose interest right after. He isn’t acting like a guy who really has feelings for you. A guy who really has feelings wouldn’t ghost you or start seeing other girls.

[Asker]

This has been going on for several months so how is it that he doesn't like me?

[WhitneySnow]

He just wants to screw you. He does not like you for real. He’ll be gone once you give him what he wants.

[Asker]

But why jealous then? What do you mean? I had texted him to let me know when he's free but he didn't. Instead he met up with his friends girlfriend whom he brought over to uni. He told me he's meeting "someone" . I also feel bad that he messages and meets everyone but me I also didn't know I would meet my friend but we walked past him and the girl and since that day, he's been acting weird with me

[WhitneySnow]

He doesn’t meet up with you cause he thinks you won’t put out. If he thinks he really has a chance to have sex with you he’ll drop everything (except maybe sex with another girl) to be there.

[Asker]

But he knows how I am. He knows I care for him because he began the nice guy act after I sent him texts when he was freezing, sick etc and he was replying to those too. He expected me to ask him out the best day he said he was feeling better but I didn't and he once again didn't reply He acts so whimsical and after that day he saw me with the guy he was weird. He wouldn't even talk on his own and he looked annoyed. All this for sex only?*

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. All this for sex only. Guys are weird that way. A lot of them value quantity (how many people they’ve done it with) over quality (how good it was).

[Asker]

Really? But he gets sex from many girls. Hegoes to bars almost everyday and there are hot girls there so why hung up on me so much?

[WhitneySnow]

Cause you’re the one he couldn’t have He sounds like he’s kinda smart. He probably knows you’ll think he’s so hung up on you cause he likes you. It is possible he really likes you, but it’s much more likely he’s just trying to use you for sex. Don’t forget, he ghosted you and started seeing other girls. That’s not the actions of a guy who’s really into you.

[Asker]

Yes but still guys like this don't really waste time on girl who won't give them sex when you have a bunch of girls exposing their chests and asses at bars all the day. He can easily get sex from there but it's been 8 months and he's been staring at me since Aug 2021. Then he got jealous? What do you think of that?

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t understand it either. But some guys are like that. And he’s jealous cause he thinks you’re gonna do it with someone else and not him. Don’t trust him. He doesn’t like you like you.

[Asker]

And what about this? Like meeting his friends girlfriend and addressing her as someone? He's done this before and said he's going to sleep on a female friends couch but she has a boyfriend etc

[Asker]

Do you think he's jealous though?

[WhitneySnow]

No clue about that. I do think he’s jealous when you talk to other guys though.

[Asker]

Or because he likes her now that's why he's acting weird? Because he has no interest in me anymore? Because when I stood next to him, he just looked and gave a fake smile and wasn't saying anything until he said how's work? He remained very passive aggressive, didn't even come with me to the door, instead took the other door to get in (I saw he waited but decided to take the other door rather than the one with me) and seemed quite fed up too. Like when I asked him how's research going he was like same shit different day. What's all this?

[WhitneySnow]

No clue Dw bout him. Find a diff guy. One who doesn’t ghost you and hook up with other girls.

[Asker]

Guess please

[mandyfire98]

He can just want sex and still not like seeing you with other men.

[Asker]

But why? Do you think he's jealous

[Paul_in_Indy]

There are other guys to pursue. Some of them with them will make the pursuit a fun experience; rather than an ordeal. You have options. You really do.

[Asker]

What is he doing?