if you are on birth control this shouldn't be an issue. However, it might be important to get across to him that you want a future. If he wants to have a future with you, then to make you feel comfortable, he's going to have to adapt until you are ready. For instance, just before he comes, he pulls out and squirt on your tummy. However, you would really have to trust him. Then again, you are on birth control, so you should be safe no matter what. Keep in mind, if this is really really important to him, he may stray, and the last thing you need is a venereal disease or HIV that he might give you because he strayed.
Having sex alone is just as much risk as letting him cum inside you. During sex, there is a lot of pre-cum that flows from his cock off and on during intercorse.. this pre-cum has thousands of sperm in it. The fact that you are on birth control protects you just as well now as it would if you let him cum inside you... So really, even aside from what he wants.. You are do yourself a major sexual disservice by not allowing him to cum at the same time as you. That is the MOST intimate aspect of sex.. Period
If you aren't ready for a baby, then you have to stick to saying no. I was on birthcontrol and did the same thing and ended up pregnant, not something a 16 year old wants let alone a 20 year old in college. If he truly loves you he will be understanding. Don't do it just because you feel like you owe him. He may do a lot for you, but one day ask him if he'd be ready to take care of a baby if you were to get pregnant. Good luck!
Did you have your baby or get an abortion?
I had my baby and gave her up for adoption.
Well If your birth control is used proper than you really shouldn't be worried; professionals are the best for determining what birth control method is the best one for you so that chances will be reduced even more, condoms are perfect for him to cum in you but its never the same I know.
The fear is a normal thing so if you are doing your birth control proper than you shouldn't be scared! Xx
If he REALLY wants it, use every bit of protection you can. I totally understand your concerns and it's odd that he doesn't... Just make it clear that you want to wait until you're out of school (or whenever you think you'll be ready).
Don't risk it, if you feel that strongly about not having a child. Not everything is 100% effective. If he wants it that bad, use a condom.
But she's on birth control.. If he is already not using a condom, then his precum is already putting thousands of speem in her before he even cums..
So where a condom before starting and pre cum problem solved. I don't know I don't believe pre cum really gets girls pregnant honestly. It's def the initial load itself. I never heard anyone get pregnant off if, and when I was in my 4 year relationship pull out method worked.
I have a couple friends that have become pregnant from pray and pull.. However I don't have any friends that have gotten pregnant while on the pill.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!if he has a condom on, thats another story... i wouldn't... try finding out why he wants to...
There should never ever be any coercion in love making he may be your fiancé but... You own your body and you decide alone what you will accept.
A man that truly loves a woman will respect her boundaries and Her concerns and try to use coercion to guilt the woman into giving in.
If I were you I would remind him "no means no" and while your at it take another look at this guy by his actions and selfishness he is giving you a very clear look at your future and how you will be treated.
You can't get pregnant on birth control if you take it. You can only get pregnant if you skip pills, forget to take the pill or take other medications that affect your birth control pill. If you really feel like you should just take a plan b pill the next day.
If he uses a condom the problem is over.
There is a reason you're on birth control.
Thank you!
Tell him if he can't respect this one request then you can't continue to commit to him.. That should change his mind if he's really interested in you for more than sex.
Well if he can't respect your opinion, there's a problem with him.
Sex is about trust and mutual pleasure. Pressuring you into something is not pleasurable, is it? If you aren't comfortable with it, you need to hold firm and tell him no. He's just going to have to accept it. And if he can't, maybe you should reconsider him being your fiancé.
I think there is a deeper reason you don't want him to.
Honestly, it sounds to me like he is trying to get you pregnant. Be careful, he may put a hole in a condom if that is what he wants.
Oh, and dont be surprised if a condom happens to "break" in the near future when he is in you and didn't "realize" it.
just say a big nooooooooooooooo for this to him
The condom is the solution.
Tell him not to cum inside of you until you are out of school.
Tell him to cum on your face or in your mouth.
Guy says "I want yo go inside you" and you're not ready, I'd say "red flag". Number one failure of relationships? Communication. If you can't tell him no, you need to break it off... that, or therapy
In my opinion, he should respect your wishes. And you should respect yourself enough to not compromise them for him.. If it's a good relationship that you do want to maintain.. Find another fun way to let him finish. There are all kinds of things "you can do for him" other that compromising your wishes. Especially a life changing one such as this. this is also where you find out how much you really mean to him.
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