He was a virgin?

[Anonymous]

I’m slightly older than the guy. The first night he said he was experienced, then when it was time to put on the condom he didn’t know how to and surprisingly fucked it up so we ended up not having any intercourse that night.

we saw each other again and this time he finally told me that he had lied about being experienced. We actually had intercourse that night. I’ve come to realize that since our encounter he’s always reaching out for more and more. Can guys somewhat get attached to the person they had their first time with?

[CelticCrusader]

Some can yes, i mean you're sharing your body with another human being thats pretty intimate and if youve never had sex before you're insecure and you finally found a woman who let you experience what its like to turn two people into one for the first time in your life id be more surprised if they didn't

[Asker]

Thank you. So then essentially men are not that different from women? We have been taught and conditioned into thinking that only women get attached from sex, but men can separate sex and emotions

[CelticCrusader]

Some men do just want to play the feild but not all of us and you're guy doesn't sound like a player because otherwise he wouldn't care. Part of it is the toxic veiw society has of men. there's pressure on us from both other men and from woman to act, look, and feel a certain way were "not supposed" to cry, or need emotional support were supposed to be too strong to need that and were supposed be the one that takes charge and ask the woman out first. That is stressfull as hell, were not as different from woman emotionally as most people think we just have to pretend to be or were "beta male simps".

[KostasKouvalis]

You pretty much answered the first part of your question.

As for the second part, yes. But also once you've had sex once, you start to crave it, so I think that's what's going on here. And you just happened to be his best option

[Bboyawall91]

Yes but it's more that he has never been able to get it before and now he has had it so he's gonna want more. It's like supply and demand if I sleep around nobody feels special. When I let a moment build up the person is associated with a major event so they will hold more esteem. If you like the guy give him a shot, he'll likely worship you and who doesn't want that?

[Asker]

As far as I know, he’s possibly getting it somewhere else too. Of course I wouldn’t wanna consciously ask him these kind of questions as it’s not any of my business, but his strokes have since improved

[abc3643]

OF COURSE!
This is exactly how men fall in love!

[Asker]

I thought guys, unlike girls, couldn’t get attached from just sex?

[Guy__]

They can, if they don't identify as an alpha man... lol. if only girls can, we can always identify as a girl and still fall in love.

[Asker]

Haha, so then getting attached from sex has nothing to do with gender? I feel like we were conditioned to think that men don’t get attached from sex, hence why the question

[Guy__]

I'm kind of trolling with this tranny confusion crap. But the way how we feel and fall in love isn't that different. There are many ways to go about this. Simply the oxytocin hormone is raised during orgasm in males...

[abc3643]

ALL MAMMALS GET "ATTACHED" THROUGH REPETITION. It is Psychology 101: Positive Reinforcement. When the organism detects that certain conditions repeatedly lead to something good happening, then that becomes predictable and... SAFE. THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT EVERY VERTEBRATE WANTS. So, when that happens, the organism "loves" those "conditions" that lead to "good" and "safe". And when those conditions disappear, "heartbreak" and "fear" occur and the highest priority is to get back to those conditions and do whatever is possible to prevent them from being threatened with disappearance again. The sad thing is that, implicitly, it also describes how an organism can cease to ever love again. When the "conditions" that cause "good" and "safe" often become removed and thus lots of "heartbreak" occurs, the organism learns from negative reinforcement not to expect "conditions" to last, so the organism becomes detached and doesn't bother getting to love because the subsequent heartbreak is a threat to survival. Understand? I wrote that sort of scientific and meta-like, but it does describe love. So, if you give a guy steady sex, you are creating a predictable, reliable, good experience for him. And, consciously or not, he will enter love. He may not realize it - sadly, he doesn't recognize love until the first heartbreak - but, if he does, that's a good thing.

[Guy__]

Lol, not everything from our textbooks is set and stone... definitely not for LOVE... but in this case we know males get addicted to pussy.

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t know for sure but I bet they can. I know girls can.

[20yearsolder]

I don't know about attached but since that was his very experience with pussy and you allowed him to experience it. He's definitely going to try to come back. All the way up until this point in his life he's never had the opportunity to have sex and you gave him that gift

[Asker]

So it’s like a comfort thing? He’ll keep coming back until he eventually gets tired of having sex with me? 😂

[20yearsolder]

He keeps coming back until you come to the realization that he's only using you for sex and you shut it off

[Kabluie]

It's possible, but it sounds like this could be a friends with benefits situation, it be sex often or every now and then.

That's funny saying he was experienced and flopped on the condom, that's an easy tell Although to be fair we never used a condom until almost 2 years after losing our virginity. But I had tried them on solo once in-case it was needed or for a new partner kind of thing, he should have done that.

[Zolly99999]

I never got attached to my first.. she was my girlfriend at the time but she cheated on me ( many times I found out later) so we had a bad break up. .

[Asker]

I’m sorry she cheated on you. Getting cheated on is the worst thing ever

[Zolly99999]

No kidding.. unfortunately every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me. .

[Asker]

That is awful, I’m really sorry. It’s quite hard to find decent people in this generation

[Zolly99999]

I was just really bad at picking girls... I used to be superficial and went by looks... I have since grown up and learned the true value of a good women

[hostboy__fastestlaps]

Did you know Jesus Christ was a victim of virginity? The Virgin MARY!!!

[Asker]

Hahaha quite funny