Help, I am scared that I might be to innocent/shy?

so i am 15 years old. i know i am still pretty young and that it's normal to be innocent on this age. BUT, i am scared that i also might be to shy. I haven't even hold hands with a guy yet. i am very social and have no trouble talking to guys i know. I just get shy when i don't know them and i feel intimidated pretty quick.

I am scared that if i ever get a boyfriend, i don't know what to do. This might be surprising, but i DO watch a lot of porn. It's just that porn is nothing like sex. i think i do know what to do in a relationship. I do see myself as a person who kisses a lot and cuddles. I just don't know how to do those things.

These days i see so many guys and girls on the internet being horny/experienced. And im just sitting here to fantasize a bit. My fantasizes are WILD, but i know that irl i would be to scared to actually do those.

I don't know what to do. And if you were a teenager guy, what would you think about this type of girl? And if you're extremely experienced, would that be a problem?
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  • Alright, when I was a teenager, I dated, well, a lot of girls, not at the same time of course, but yeah. And I do have experience with type of girls like you. Those are the ones who are really shy on first date, don't talk too much, but later, when we would get to know each other better, she would get really comfortable with me and wouldn't be as shy as before.

    What I'm trying to say is that maybe you should be in relationship first and see how you act. And, for all those things you said, you would like to kiss and cuddle, you should show your partner that you're not uncomfortable with them, so he can be comfortable enough to start doing them. Or, if he's slow, you can try to kiss him after every date, and cuddle with him while you two sit close together. He won't refuse I tell ya.

    You're scared to get a boyfriend because you wouldn't know what to do? Well, you just need to be a girlfriend, aka yourself. Hang out with your boyfriend, talk with him, kiss him, cuddle with him etc. etc. See him as your best friend, someone you can talk to whenever and whatever you want, go out - but you're also in romantic relationship. It's that easy.

    But, one more thing is important. If you feel you aren't ready for a relationship yet, don't rush it, after all, you're still pretty young, guys will come and go. Good luck.

    • Yess i will never rush it. Tysm this made me think in a good way. I do know from myself that after the 'get to know you' phase i am not shy at all. Maybe only a bit when we would go further as example, but even then i would feel comfortable. ty

    • That's completely normal if you ask me. Not a lot of people are comfortable with people they're attracted to, so don't you worry, it's normal.

    • Okay tysm

  • Look at ATK Girlfriend porn, is the best descripton of a relationship.
    What will you do?
    Spend time whit your future boyfriend
    Talk about diferent things (memoris, opinions about life, event that you 2 want to go, travel etc.)
    Sex in the way you 2 agree. Because you 2 gone talk olso about sex.
    I didn't hold hands whit a girl whntile 22 yare , but i wasn't inocent any more.
    As a girl you just need to chois, guys will come to you if you look good, if you akt nice. They will ask for phons numbers, dates, social media acount, try to invite you to theyr place or a public place.
    Stay calm, is normal to be shy especialy if you are not use to thous situations.
    Take you're time, go to school, be nice whit your friends, family and evrething will come natural.

    • Okay tysm!

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  • So take a step back and realize that nobody knows what they're doing at 15. Hell, I still don't know what I'm doing. Being innocent is fine. People are different, and they're inevitably going to have different tastes. At your age it's just trial and error. I guess a way to get over being shy is to talk to more and more people until you're comfortable with small talk. Then you can work your way up from there.

    • Yea true. I first have to get through the 'get to know you' phase. After that i feel comfortable :)

  • If you want further insight, PM me, but really your fears are unfounded. You'll grow into this all, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. Just take your time.

  • At that age i was hoping to take advantage of the wildness because i was having wild thoughts too. Lol