Help I hate doggy style?

Hi guys, I have a problem. I really don't like doggy position and I think for most guys it's their favourite... I NEVERRR want to try it... I'm scared that my boyfriend will just flip me around and put me to be in it, and I would feel so bad 😖 I would be out the door, if he doesn't stop right away I would probably cry! I don't know why I hate it so much just the thought of it! But I am very small and I have a bubble butt, so that could happen. So a question is if you're a guy would you still be with me if I would never do it 🥺🙏 and if you're a girl what made you like this position or are you a little bit scared of it too?
How do I stop it from happening?
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Vaginal sex not anal just doggy position
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  • Relax. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, and if you make it clear that it's a hard limit for you, any guy worth being with will respect that. Now, that doesn't mean he might not ask again, from time to time, as you grow more comfortable with him and willing to try more things, but he should respect your limits as you'd respect his. If he flips you over and forces you into it AFTER you've made yourself clear, no one would hold it against you if you DID leave.

    I would suggest, though, that you give some serious thought as to why it bothers you so much. If you can figure out why, you may be able to make progress in overcoming it, and even if you don't, you can at least figure out what else might make you react so strongly, and what you might be able to do instead. Interplays of power are a part of sex; I don't think anyone would deny that, but I your theoretical boyfriend doesn't actually want to hurt you. Most sexual hangups don't actually translate to "can't have sex", they're better rendered as "have to get creative".

    • Hi I don't like it because I like eye contact, kisses, to feel his body on mine and, to make it very passionate and romantic. Doggy reminds me of porn and its too animalistic, I think even if he came closer to kiss me, to make it more passionate, I don't want to be kissed in this pose. And I'm playful in bed and in general I can't stay still with my body like that and enjoy. But he is also very playful and dominant which is why I thought he might suddenly do that, while we're at it... I know for sure that he likes this pose and would want to do it one day, but I was a virgin which is why we haven't done it yet, but I guess at some point in relationship I will have to face it! I don't know how to bring it up in a conversation to tell him, I'm also shy and quiet and inexperienced. This type of conversation is putting me off ngl 🥴

    • Well, you know what your objection is, and that's actually not a bad place to be starting from. Yes, it can be kind of embarrassing to discuss your sexual limitations with a partner, especially if it's someone new, but this someone you're close enough to be having sex with- why would a conversation be out of bounds? (Yes, I know that doesn't really help, since your reluctance is about feelings and not logic; I've been in the same place, and I promise, it gets easier as you have more of those conversations). And I'm totally with you on the importance of eye contact and feeling those connections; the idea of "insert tab A into slot B" as the whole of the affair doesn't appeal to me, either. But I meant what I said- you CAN set limits, even hard ones you WON'T tolerate being crossed. And sex doesn't always have to stay in one position; it's not at all uncommon to get up and shift around during pauses. Have the awkward conversation, and you should be able to go forward and have fun without worrying about it.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Never do something you don't want to do. I can understand why many guys would want to do doggy with you with you have such a nice butt, but you should enjoy the sex also. It isn't just for the enjoyment of the guy.
    Many guys will be fine with not doing doggy if you hate it, but remember that doggy doesn't always mean anal. It is also a great position for vagina penetration.
    Also, maybe try easing into it if you want to try and expand your sex positions? Let me know if you have any other concerns or any other questions that I might be able to help with.

    • No I don't mean anal 😖😩😳 why does everyone think that so far? English isn't my first language I thought just the position but the sex is still you know vaginal. I will update my questions then..

    • I understand. A lot of people don't like anal and it sounded a little like you were mainly talking about that. Basically everything I said still stays the same. It is fine if you hate doggy and make sure the guy knows your boundaries before you begin having sex.

    • When you say a lot of people do you mean guys too? I thought it's the opposite that most people love it and that it's one of the 3 classic positions and necessary in sex life

Most Helpful Girl

  • Sounds like you've never actually tried it? It's actually my favorite because it feels the best

    • Missionary

    • And see how many likes you got? 😭 it's because guys love it too I haven't tried it, I have no doubt it could feel good in the, genital area, but, I can't stay still like that and I think that pose is very animalistic and reminds me of porn, whereas I enjoy very passionate love making where he is very close to me...

    • Do you like the missionary position? He will kiss your neck and breasts at the same time

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  • Hum, try being on your back with your feet up on his shoulders?
    But honestly you *really* should try it.
    Start out with something you really like first then just give it a try when you feel ready.
    I suggest using a mirror or something to retain the eye contact.

    • Noo mirror, I don't want to see myself in this position if I ever agree to it. I think it's degrading to me to be in this position tbh plus as I said in other replies- I dislike sex that's just about repetitive movement (insert a penis and move back and forth) I need passion, eye contact, kisses licking, moving my hands over him, being active etc. That's why I'm also not turned on by the feet on his shoulders pose. I would do the one where I lay on my tummy on the bed.

    • And degrading is a turn off for you? Perhaps try it anyway? You might end up enjoying a bit of degradation more than you think. As for the whole movement thing. I agree. In and out just doesn't cut it. For you as the girl use your inner muscles. For him... Trust me, he still have plenty of things in his toolbox in that position too. ;-)

    • And trust me, you'll feel plenty of passion in that position too. Mirrors would solve the eye contact part. He can still lean forward and kiss your back and neck even if I do agree that it's a little bit awkward to do so from that position... Don't discount positions before you've tried them in good faith and actually *tried* to make them work for you.

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  • It’s normal to have a preference for a sex position, some girls dislike doggy because they prefer the intimacy of a facing position like missionary or cowgirl, so don’t get stressed out

  • Woof woof.

    • you better stoppp 😖😭

    • If you don’t like doggie style talk to your boyfriend & be open & honest with him.

    • We haven't done it and I didn't really think about taking about it because maybe he isn't thinking about it at all and I would give him an idea...

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  • If you don't like doggy, then don't have doggy. There are plenty of fantastic ways to have sex that don't involve doggy.

  • My friend i am the same. i hate doggy.. Just hate it, It hurts my knees, its awkward, uncomfortable... And the worst part, it doesn't feel as good to her. I prefer to be ridden or be on top..

    • I know right

  • What anal sex

    • no..

    • Then what is it that bothers you

  • If don't like it don't do it sex major part of it being comfortable and taking

  • Why do you hate it?

    • I think it's the least passionate way to have sex, I like eye contact, kisses, to feel his body close, and just to make it very passionate... This position is the complete opposite it seems just like repetitive movement in a most uncomfortable pose, even if he kissed me in it I don't really want to be kissed in that position. I just find it very animalistic and porny! I really can't even imagine myself enjoying it, I cringe at the thought of it. I have tried to be in this pose when I'm alone in my room (yes it's something girls do 😹) and I didn't like how I feel to stand that way. Other reason is I also like to move and be active, I'm very playful not just in bed in general, I don't think I could stay still like that for longer than a minute 😒 even if I forced myself to try for him. But HE is very playful and active too which is probably why I had that thought of him flipping me over and boom, I'm in that position 🥴🐕

    • couldn't stay like that * for longer than a minute, sorry

    • That’s what makes it hot is it being animalistic and primal

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  • I would actually prefer that position, more comfortable I suppose

  • Just give it a try and it would be your fav position :P

    • Noooo I won't give it a try and I hope he never thinks of it