Help I’m a bit confused everytime that I ask my boyfriend if I do good at riding him he says that I do fine does that mean that I’m bad?

Everytime I ask him if I do good on top he always says “you do fine” but he doesn’t say that I’m good at it ever now I’m worried that I’m doing something wrong and I feel a little disappointed. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong I bounce on him up and then when I’m on my knees and then when I get tired I grind back and forth for a second and then I squat going up and down for a little bit because it’s hard for me. Everytime that I ride him he flips me over after a bit so I don’t get to put a lot of work into sex. I feel bad because I don’t want to be fine I want to be good and I actually make an effort when I ride him. On top of that I’m a bit worried because he has had 3 with 3 girls before me and what if they did better than me with riding and that’s why he thinks that I’m just fine? 😭just worrying over here I really don’t think I’m doing anything wrong I also researched how to ride before the first time I rode him and I’ve rode him many times before. By the way when I ride him I don’t really feel anything when I’m bouncing I have to squat to actually feel something even though he has a good length I don’t know why I don’t feel anything unless I squat or he thrusts.
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When I asked him if I was bad he told me that I’m not and he promised but him always saying that I’m just fine makes me doubt that and makes me feel like I’m not doing good enough
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I texted him asking him if there was anything that I could do better and he said that he has also said that I’m good and he promises that I am good
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  • Some men are naturally shitty at expressing themselves. I love teaching girls how to have sex. One of the things I do is help them take charge and be more confident with their sexuality and their body. I guide them to become more knowledgeable and critique them so they can be better lovers. I suggest you find someone who can be objective about your performance. Doing so will help you put your anxieties at rest and maybe help you improve in other areas. Regardless of what the result is don’t take it personal and use it as a learning tool.
    Feel free to PM me if you’d like to talk more.

    • The more you look for a reason that something is wrong, the more likely you’ll find something wrong. Even if that something wrong only exists in your head. Anxiety will kill your relationship.

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  • He loves how you ride him 😊

    If riding him makes him cum and you can find a way to cum too while you’re doing it you’re doing it right

    • During riding I don’t feel as great as when he’s on top while I’m bouncing on my knees I don’t really feel anything. He came to when I first started riding him but now he lasts longer and doesn’t give me a chance to ride him for a long time because he flips me over. I still rode him like I did before I just added a bit more squatting to it

    • You don’t have to do every position. Do it whatever way he likes best that also lets you find a way to cum too.

    • Some guys like it when they’re on top better but it’s harder for you (or them) to rub your clit that way

Most Helpful Guys

  • The idea is to move up and down as much as possible without him slipping out. There is no good or bad way to do it just being energetic. Also here's an insight for guys when the girl is on top It's not always very stimulating and therefore it takes longer to finish, which works to everyone's advantage because guys want girls to finsih at least once before they do and this ensures that happens.

    Don't sweat the details sex is not a performance It's an activity

    • When I first started doing it he came really fast which is unusual for him. I do bounce up and down a lot he doesn’t really give me a chance to do it for a long time though and flips me over

    • Hmmm intersting... well I'm no sex coach I just have some personal experience as well as insight from my friends. Speaking for myself in that position I'm always afraid I'll get crushed if she goes too far even though technically she'd really have to get up for it to slip out but still that feeling makes it not a favorable postiton. You gotta know what his kinks are he might like it he might not it's not you doing something wrong it's just not his thing.

    • But he told me that he likes doing both positions me on top and him on top

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  • 1) does he even care if you're good at it? I wouldn't.
    2) if a woman is on top I'm not so much wanting to sit back and she treats me - there are other sex acts for that. I want her to get herself off using my dick and go nuts. So maybe worry less about whether you're riding him right and more about getting yourself off while he enjoys the view and some sex at the same time.

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  • You are reading too much into it. Instead focus on each of you enjoying it. I like to start out with riding him, but I don’t climax like that so we move to him on top and other positions where he dominates more.

  • i thought you had broken up with this guy recently?

    • No we never broke up argued nothing I was referring to my ex a while ago

    • But people misunderstood my answer. We have been together over a year and want to spend our future together

    • Okay. I am glad to hear that explanation!

  • Fine means it was good. Don't doubt yourself so much. Just have fun

  • Darling come here and ride me and I'll definitely tell you the truth. Besides I've always thought you were gorgeous.

  • You were overthinking this. He likes how you ride him. You can ask him to let you ride longer instead of flipping you over quickly, too.

  • I think your good I just think you put too much pressure on yourself

  • Ask him how good you are on a scale from 1 to 10. Tell him to be totally honest and it won't hurt your feelings regardless of his answer. If he doesn't give you a 10, ask you what you need to do to get a 10.

  • You probably worry too much and it shows, or try too hard by researching shit. Just enjoy yourself and do what feels right for you.

  • Id say you are doing just fine, so don't over think what he said.

    • It’s just very disappointing to hear that

  • I think you’re overthinking this. A lot of guys might suck at expressing themselves sometimes but you should just take him at his word.

    but if you truly want to do better despite what he says maybe look things up and try them out.

  • I think some guys are shy form communion and sex. You’re probably doing just fine. When I was younger I was deathly shy and probably gave answers like that to everything. All of the sudden I’d tell you in detail everything you wanted to know. Most guys are probably not as open as me but I remember what it was like to to way shy to give feedback... if he’s back for more and saying it’s good. Go with it. The rest is out of your control,

  • You think too much into it eh? 😉

  • maybe you are doing just fine but its possible he does not enjoy that position the most. so that may be why its not the best for him

  • You're a sweetheart and he is lucky to have you! I wish more of my GFs had been as attentive as you are. Don't worry if he says you're fine. Focus on pleasuring yourself during sex.

  • Well, if you don’t feel a lot, chances are he doesn’t either. You said his length is not a problem, what about his girth?

    • I think he does I mean I am bouncing on him up and down and he has came while I’ve been in that position

    • He looks pretty thick in girth I just I don’t know why I don’t feel anything unless I squat or he thrusts

    • Hmmm he could’ve cum because of you stimulated his penis head, not that he felt snugged in there lol. that could be it too. But yea it’s weird.

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  • Well it hard to tell if your good or not from that because every guy likes something different. You just have to experiment with him

  • He responded badly, you need to learn more to show your skills.

  • stop, suck his cock, get back on it, as your on him tell him to rub ur ass or how you want fucked, tell him to finish in ur mouth then slide down and swallow it, make him want you to ride him knowing whats coming, if he dont like that he's nuts

  • This question depresses me and fills me with resentment because it reminds me that I was single and celibate during my teens and early 20s