Help! My boyfriend is too vanilla!?

Question

I'm very sexually aggressive and I want sex all the time. My boyfriend only wants sex about once a week and the other nights I cry myself to sleep from frustration. When we do have sex it is AWFUL! I can't tell you how many times I've fell asleep DURING sex. Last week I spent my entire paycheck on "personal products" and I make damn good money. I've tried talking to him but it hasn't helped. We are great in every other aspect but if this keeps up I doubt we will last much longer. Any suggestions would be awesome.

B0bagirl · Accepted Answer

It might be him. I've been with someone who wanted it all the time and someone who hardly wanted it, but oddly my relationship was great minus a few deal breakers with the first one and I hardly wanted it ( two babies later) andy second marriage he hardly wanted it I wanted it all the time. I learned to mastirbate very well...

It didn't work with him either and funny enough he cheated on me...

Now I'm in a happy medium but I get horny as f*co once a month and he rarely wants it then always when I don't want it go figure lol...

Sex is the most complicated part of a relationship I think.

Try diff things exploration and toys and maybe wTching p*rn together don't give up and if he can't change or won't maybe think of ending it

zombiebabe · Accepted Answer

try to talk to him and tell him to what extent he is making you feel frustrated.. or masturbate with a dildo in front of him

islands7 · Accepted Answer

Men don't talk - quit that
Good for you - sex toys - just in case they are the only scratch for that itch
Have you really been aggressive? e. g.
after work togetherness, you are in deep cleavage, bottomless, naked?
you rub his penis through his clothes?
you are liberal with kisses to his available portions?
you complement everything about him, physically, abilities, mentally, emotionally?
you share in whatever boring thing he does with enthusiasm w/o distractions, negative comments, drama?
you GIVE more than you get? (I know, Q suggests this but think what would be so great for him that he can't wait to jump into bed with you... then think what else could I offer that would make him want ME to cum first?)

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

well a healthy satisfying sexual relationship is extremely important in terms of fostering a long lasting relationship in general. he needs to be more open to maybe having sex more frequently and trying various things and you need to be sympathetic to his desires. the goal is to reach a compromise that both parties can be happy with...

... if you can't reach a compromise or one or both parties isn't willing to work on the matter, the relationship may need to be re-evaluated

CantHELPhimself · Answer

Try talking to him and seeing if he has any crazy adventurous things that he wants to try. If he does then do them. You both might like it, and then you can spin-off from that. At the very, very, very least he would owe you a favor for doing something that he wanted to try. Haha

Kevinb182 · Answer

Usually it's the other way around. For me it's whenand where. I, Like most men could go 2 or 3 times a day. Maybe he has a problem

ilovesexyfeet · Answer

Sex isn't everything and would be a shame to spoil your otherwise perfect relationship over it. However, if he loves u then he should be willing to compromise and do it more and take more risks. He should allow u to teach him I mean we all been through the learning/experience stages. Tell him what u need and bring your toy collection in to it too let him use them with u and see how it makes u feel but of he can't improve then a split is inevitable. I do anything sexual for a girl no boundaries at all because if I love her then id do anything she wanted during sex so he should be willing to change a little.