High body count?

[Kipperbo1]

So I’ve been talking to a guy and I really like him. He checks all my boxes and he says he wants a relationship with me. However, he just told me that he lost his virginity at age 10 (10?) and his body count is probably somewhere around 15-20. The age 10 thing bothers me the most, as that’s like... a baby. Like how does a 10 year old have sex? I didn’t even know what sex was at that age. He hasn’t been a fuckboy like this since high school, he’s in the military now, and he was last in a 3 year relationship so I’m pretty confident he's telling the truth when he says he doesn’t just do hookups anymore. I just can’t help but think about 10 year old him getting around and how messed up that is. Should I just get over this? What do you guys think?

[Zarapeachy]

It’s possible he lost it at 10 but there’s also a chance he can be lying about that number just to impress you. And his body count etc all of that is his past. Now you have a choice if you want it or not, but honestly, you were not in his past so it shouldn’t be affecting you.

[Kipperbo1]

Yeah the body count thing bothers me less, it’s more the 10 years old thing. Like I love kids, I work with kids a lot and the thought of a 10 year old having sex disgusts me. Like that couldn’t be consensual? And he said it as if it was no big deal. You’re right about it being his past though.

[Zarapeachy]

In the eyes of the law, it is not consensual sex. And I understand. But you have to realize this guy may not be saying the truth. I get it disgusts you, you can talk to him about it. Ask him questions. But other than that, there’s nothing you can do. It happen

[Quackthulu]

10 is pretty young, but not unheard of. You may want to ask for clarification on that. He may have been molested or raped. He may also have a different definition of sex than you. But is 15-20 really considered a lot?

[Kipperbo1]

He wasn’t molested or raped. 15-20 isn’t crazy, but ngl I have a feeling if he said that as an “estimate” it’s probably more than that lol. He’s 20 so it kind of is a lot to me, seeing as my body count is 5 lol.

[Quackthulu]

If he actually had, proper, conceptual sex at 10 (which I am extremely skeptical of) that gives him 10 years, so that’s what 1.5 to 2 partners a year? Not that crazy, but you also have to take into account that this is a real thing people have been known to do.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5aHtYamBEn0

[Kipperbo1]

I see your point, but he seemed kinda ashamed to tell me how many and scared I would judge him, I don’t think he’d have said more than what he’s been with. I didn’t ask for details about what the sex was like when he was 10, but yeah in my eyes a 10 year old isn’t capable of having conceptual or consenting sex. My brother is 10 and I couldn’t even imagine.

[Quackthulu]

Pretty much

[Paige90]

15-20 is probably average for a guy his age. I am in my late 20s and been with 10 guys and from talking to other girls I am average.

[Quackthulu]

@Paige90 If 10 is average for late 20s im not sure what that makes me

[Kipperbo1]

Yeah honestly the 15-20 isn’t what’s bothering me, it’s that most of those were from before he was 15 years old lol

[Quackthulu]

And if any of them were over 18 that’s a serious problem.

[Kipperbo1]

I don’t think they were, i asked and he said his first was 11 (when he was 10)

[Quackthulu]

Did you explain to him that “playing doctor” doesn’t count as having sex?

[Chadibel]

I believe he thinks he’s impressing you with that and want to show you he has experience, big chances are it’s all a lie especially the 10yo thing unless he was abused, I think besides this „social lies“ you should try and find out what for a person he really is.

[Kipperbo1]

I really hope it’s a lie :( my little brother is 10 and the thought of someone that age doing that sickens me tbh. Clearly it didn’t work with impressing me 😂

[Chadibel]

It’s a really fake good idea of him😂 You have to understand that the genitals of a 10 yo can’t reach pleasure or even get hard for a long time so I really can’t how it’s possible..

[Kipperbo1]

yeah that was my thinking. like unless you go through puberty crazy early a 10 year old couldn’t have sex

[ecfresh]

He might not be telling you the truth either, could be inflating that body count

[Kipperbo1]

I don’t think he would tell me a higher number. He was ashamed to even tell me what it was and said he hated how high it is.

[ecfresh]

Guys don’t normally undercut that number. But maybe he’s unique

[Kipperbo1]

Even if i told him first i’ve only been with 5 people and he’s trying to make a good impression?

[ecfresh]

Guys believe more body count = better in bed. One reason why the 3x rule came to be. But let’s assume he’s telling the truth. It really doesn’t matter because he sex count with you is zero so he’s gotta tune in and learn what you like

[Kipperbo1]

that made me feel a lot better thank you!

[Paige90]

Ten years old? So I know boys get hard when they are young but they can't ejaculate can they? And how old was the girl he did it with? Did he actually put it inside her or just play?

[Kipperbo1]

i honestly have no idea. He just said he lost his virginity when he was 10, and he said he went through puberty early or something?

[Anonymous]

U can’t really assume that’s his body count