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I do believe that people can naturally have homosexual tendencies. In fact, I think nearly all of us have moments where we're at least curious about the same sex. A lot of young teens come to online forums such as GAG asking if other users think they're gay, lesbian, or bi. Being a teen is weird, confusing, and difficult. Your hormones are all out of order and you're beginning to change until a sexual being. With that said, these hormones can cause urges, arguably towards either gender. Additionally, young teens are often naturally curious about same sex friends' bodies because they're going through a period of change. I've seen a lot of questions from people in this age group asking if their bodies are normal in one way or another. When these teens grow closer to adulthood, they become more drawn to one gender or another. This is the nature side of the debate.
The nurture side is more difficult to prove, but I have some ideas on it. It seems that there is a correlation between people who identify as homosexual (or bi) and gender/sexual surroundings in their lives. Most homosexuals I meet either experienced sexual trauma at a young age or grew up in a home with divorced or separated parents. For instance, my friend's dad left when he was young. He never had a good relationship with either of his parents. However he was raised by his mom and is now struggling with sexuality.
In my psychology class, we talked about how when children are born, they're drawn to their mothers. As they grow older, boys tend to connect more with their dad (providing the father is actively part of their lives) while girls identify more closely with their mom (again, providing the mother is a part of their lives). When one parent is absent, the children have no choice but to connect with the one parent they have. Therefore guys can become more feminine while girls can become more masculine. This accounts for the confusion a lot of homosexuals have about their sexuality. They more closely identify with the opposite gender yet still feel some sort of tendency to identify more closely with their own gender. They crave closeness from the same gender because they've been deprived of it. This can also work the other way around. My parents aren't together and have had problems since I can remember. I live with my mom and I'm not close with any male relatives so I'm finding myself curious about relationships with guys and crave a close bond with a guy.
So I think it's a bit of both nature and nurture, but I think I'm leaning more towards the nurture side. Again, i'm not against homosexuals (after all I have a gay friend who I love to death!). I just find this topic interesting, especially after learning about it. What do you think? Feel free to comment, but be nice to one another! This is a touchy subject for some people.
What Girls & Guys Said
6 24For men: it's nature
For women: it's nurture
Case closed
Why is it nurture for women but not men?
@mistixs I saw a study that hetero men could only be turned on by hetero porn (guy-girl or girl girl, basically anything with a girl in it.) while homo men could only be turned on by homo porn. Women on the other hand, could be turned on by any porn, hetero or homo. So, really it's a choice whether they want to go one way or another. Bi's just don't make no sense. PICK A SIDE!! LOOL.
That would make more sense if there were some kind of data showing that kids with one parent of a particular gender were more likely to be gay. I have seen no such study.
Sources?
I really like this!
A lot of people claim that homosexuality is something that's only in the genes, and that it has nothing to do with your surroundings. There is however extensive research that proves the opposite.
I do not know how they become gay. It's a choice. I do hate (this is nothing that you said) that gay people are gay, because they have a mental illness. I'm not gay, but I will not go around and telling people that gay people have a mental illness. People who think like that should go back to the 18th century.
"It's a choice." Ooooohhh so you can CHOOSE to become gay? That means that a man can CHOOSE not to be attracted/aroused by women. Are you able to choose not to be attracted/aroused by sexy women?
The nurture point was debunked by the suicide of David Reimer. Next time you draw the psychology card, think about John Money.
I have plenty of gay friends doesn't mean I have too agree with them on the subject, it's a choice
"It's a choice." Ooooohhh so you can CHOOSE to become gay? That means that a man can CHOOSE not to be attracted/aroused by women. Are you able to choose not to be attracted/aroused by sexy women?
@mistixs damn right I can
Then why do religious and conservative people always say "girls must be modest because boys are visual and can't help getting aroused?"
@mistixs conservatives can say what they want but there right about that cover up, there's always some guy out there who can't help themselves and will rape a bitch just for showing some ass this is not all men this is not even most men but let me explain you keep talking about feelings, hun I have plenty of feelings I've had feelings of rape, of murder, of abusing, and so many other feelings, I don't have to follow those feelings through, just cause I feel like killing someone doesn't mean I should do it, and just cause a guy has feelings for another guy doesn't mean he should do it, cause feelings aren't reality the penis was not made to go up the anus the anus was made to release poop the penis was not made to be put down a girls throat the throat was made for food this is all common sense shit now do any of us have common sense FUCK NO!!! men and women are running on feelings all the time from drug addicts, to alcoholics, and the list goes on
1. Your Bible says that hating people is equivalent to murdering them (1 John 3:15) and that "looking at a woman lustfully" is equivalent to "commiting adultery with her." (Matt 5:28) 2. If God didn't intend anal sex, then why did he put the male g-spot (prostate) in the anus?
@mistixs it's not the g-spot lol I have a prostate and at my age it's causing more issues than anything but you bring me back to the same statement anus releases poop that's a fact that will never change, plus a little under the head of the dick is the g spot trust me I know im a man
What issues? & well it acts as a gspot. Apparently it is very pleasurable to stimulate
@mistixs I believe you that it feels good girls and guys like, it still doesn't make it right or correct and why are you posting this Your Bible says that hating people is equivalent to murdering them when did I say I hate gay people lol?
by the way who are you to say that you're better than one of God's creations?
@mistixs when did I say im better in this conversation?
Elsewhere
@mistixs that's another conversation where talking about now stay on topic
@skeptic007 I don't see the point of arguing whether or not it's a choice. Why is that important? Am I missing something here?
i think it's both.